# A Newbie looking for help! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [May 22, 2010, 9:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-newbie-looking-for-help/38807 "2010-05-22T21:07:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![bambam52](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac91a4/32.png) [@bambam52](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bambam52)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2010, 9:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-newbie-looking-for-help/38807/1 "2010-05-22T21:07:49Z")
Hey all. I am a 52 yr old married guy to a great gal who is 16 yrs younger than I. I have been paraplegic, disabled vet, for about 25 yrs, and we’ve been married for 10 years. My gal has over the years been turning more and more to her parents, trusting them, supporting them in arguments between myself and them to the point that there are SERIOUS issues between us now including trust, communication, openness, and sex. Tried counseling, but could never get beyond the in law influence, interference issue. Our 3 yr old daughter is being used like a ping pong ball between me, wife, and in laws. We do love each other, but her eyes and attention are directed at her parents. Never used to be that way and I want my wife’s attention, trust, and focus back. Have been considering [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/), doing research, but haven’t pulled the trigger yet because I don’t know what to try for my situation and needs, plus there is always the little skeptic that’s in us all. Hope that wasn’t TOO MUCH information. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2010, 9:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-newbie-looking-for-help/38807/2 "2010-05-22T21:14:43Z")
Hi bambam, welcome to the forum! I’m so sorry to hear about the problems you are having with your wife. Pheromones may be able to help, but all they can really do is give you a little extra edge. Its mainly up to you and how you handle things. [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) is a great product that will add depth and intimacy to conversations, others will feel more comfortable around you and trust you more. Instant Honesty is also great for helping to create and strengthen relationships. Another product that might help with your wife, or actually your sex life, is Turn Up The Heat. TUTH is best worn when the two of you are alone together in a situation where taking things further is possible. It will definitely spice things up in the bedroom. I hope this helps, and just ask if you have any questions! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bambam52](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac91a4/32.png) [@bambam52](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bambam52)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2010, 9:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-newbie-looking-for-help/38807/3 "2010-05-22T21:21:58Z")
Hi Silly and thanks. Gaining back her trust, opening up to me, TALKING to me instead of no one or her PARENTS I would hope help bring things back in balance. She prefers to spend more time and talk to them than I. Getting close and alone are the other issues. Alone, just the 2 of us! It’s been a LONG time. Ya think those products would still help? ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2010, 10:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-newbie-looking-for-help/38807/4 "2010-05-22T22:19:09Z")
Its definitely worth a try! Another product that might also help is Instant Shine, which will help brighten a negative atmosphere, and negative moods. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) is another that helps to relax you and those around you, and helps to stimulate conversation in general, not necessarily deeper conversation (like Instant Honesty does). ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2010, 7:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-newbie-looking-for-help/38807/5 "2010-05-25T19:59:29Z")
Hello and welcome to PheroTalk. I am so happy you were able to discover this most amazing community. We consider each other like family here and are totally committed to helping each other out. There are so many great people here and now another too 🙂. I will be issuing your GC in just a short while to your email. I would love to be able to personally respond to every new user signing on, but because I want to ensure you get the GC in time I can only reply with this message at this time. I’m sure you are anxious to get started, just like the rest of us were too 🙂. Its cool! Of course Steve is available to answer any question you might have regarding mones and you can speak to him personally on the hotline. Please select extension one and he will be able to consult you one on one. Welcome to the forum.