# A Trainwreck Here (Need Help) **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [December 18, 2011, 12:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796 "2011-12-18T12:59:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Verdict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@Verdict](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Verdict)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 12:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/1 "2011-12-18T12:59:36Z")
**About Me:** Male 25 Years Old Latino (Puerto Rican) Short with an Average Body Now My Problems **Women:** No confidence in approaching women, at all, none, 0. You couldn’t pay me too go up to a girl and kick it to her. So I need to have it come my way. But then again, when I know females are attracted to me, and give every sign in the world, I still don’t have the confidence to do anything. So then, the part where it some how gets to where we’re there, and she’s giving me every sign, clear as day, that she wants me. My mind shuts down/goes compeletly blank, and I never make a move. And if I ever did make a move, holy crap it took long for me to do it. Most of the time, I make it seem more like I’m telling her its not happening, don’t try. This is what happened with the girl I want the most, but now its got to the point where theres nothing coming from her way anymore. Also played the nice guy too much, which of course doesn’t do anything for you with women. I usually never do with females. _(Actually I’m too helpful to people as it is, need to slow this down)_ So hopefully some stuff to get the girls close enough, and something else that affects me to actually seal the deal. On the flipside, on the phone or over the internet, its a piece of cake to make a girl fall in love with me instantly, but face to face I can’t, no guts. And the internet is international. I need someone around my way, which means, going out and approaching women or them to me. **Opportunities:** I have a ton of money making ideas/businesses, like there’s no question in my mind if I do them, that it wouldn’t be successful. But the keywords is, IN MY MIND. Some I can do on my own and make some good extra money, but scared for some reason to make a move. Like I’m scared it’s going to fail, neither tho I know for sure it won’t. Then there’s the big ones where I need an investor to really make it a success. And I have about two people I can approach about the ideas. By my self, I go over how I would tell them, and its easy, sounds like they would jump on it quick. But when the time comes where I can talk to them about it, I chicken out, my mind goes blank, feels more like it kinda shuts down, like it doesn’t allow me to. The flipslide on this is, in job interviews, I kill it. Jobs I’m not even really qualified for, I end up getting. Or the person wants to help me to become qualified. I don’t really get nervous at all when it comes to job interviews, or if i get pulled over by cops, I can talk a good one. **Optional:** I’m currently working on online social games _(farmville, cityville, mafia wars type games)_, and I tend to hit a wall after a while where I can’t go any further. Something to clear my mind, fog. So other than 3 lines of 100% pure columbian cocaine and a hit of XTC before I go out, anything you would suggest me to try and see if it has any affect on me. If you had to choose to recommend me products, what would they be. _(Also new to this, any spec. details would be appreciated as well)_ No idea if there’s anything that can me here, but doesn’t hurt to try. Thanks for the help and to whoever at least got this far ---
**Author:** ![Logos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/aeb1de/32.png) [@Logos](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Logos)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/2 "2011-12-18T16:58:53Z")
Just to run through a list; 1. Have you considered Wellbutrin? 2. Have you considered not taking things so seriously and looking at everything as a game or a joke? 3. Have you considered alcohol. ;-)? (kidding.) [Pheromone](https://a314.com/) wise, a314 gave me a nice confidence boost. I felt the tension that’s always in my neck and back loosen a bit. Androsterone may be a good chem to add to any mix you happen to make. But at the end of the day you probably just need to address your emotional reluctance rather than trying to plaster it over with chemicals. Why do you engage in behavior that seems to be self defeating? Fear of success? Fear of getting hurt? Unresolved issues with your father? 😉 Some of these issues sound psychological more than anything. You need knowledge of yourself to fix them. Best of luck, bro. ---
**Author:** ![celerymasta420](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/celerymasta420/32/1916_2.png) [@celerymasta420](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/celerymasta420)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 6:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/3 "2011-12-18T18:50:25Z")
Id say you need some instant shine or a314 but personally i would stop taking mdma and cocaine witch is a waste because they both cancel each other out. I used to be addicted to x and lost a lot of serotonin witch would make me feel all sketched out and un approachable and I would have severe social anxiety especially when talking to women. ---
**Author:** ![Verdict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@Verdict](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Verdict)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2011, 8:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/4 "2011-12-18T20:57:27Z")
> [@Logos](#): > > Just to run through a list; > > 1. Have you considered Wellbutrin? > 2. Have you considered not taking things so seriously and looking at everything as a game or a joke? > 3. Have you considered alcohol. ;-)? (kidding.) > > Pheromone wise, a314 gave me a nice confidence boost. I felt the tension that’s always in my neck and back loosen a bit. Androsterone may be a good chem to add to any mix you happen to make. > > But at the end of the day you probably just need to address your emotional reluctance rather than trying to plaster it over with chemicals. > Why do you engage in behavior that seems to be self defeating? Fear of success? Fear of getting hurt? Unresolved issues with your father? 😉 > > Some of these issues sound psychological more than anything. You need knowledge of yourself to fix them. > > Best of luck, bro. Definitely psychological, definitely fear, not sure of what though. No father problems, wasn’t around, but had 3 older brothers, so I was good. Yeah, I have a lot to fix with me. That’s why I’m here, gonna fix them shits some how. > [@celerymasta420](#): > > Id say you need some instant shine or a314 but personally i would stop taking mdma and cocaine witch is a waste because they both cancel each other out. I used to be addicted to x and lost a lot of serotonin witch would make me feel all sketched out and un approachable and I would have severe social anxiety especially when talking to women. Sorry to hear that, I was only joking about the drugs, i know cocaine kinda makes you do anything which is why i mentioned it. And yeah, I figured getting both a314 and instant shine. After reading about them, they kinda fit what I need. Thanks for the replies ---
**Author:** ![andromun](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andromun/32/365_2.png) [@andromun](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/andromun)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2011, 1:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/5 "2011-12-19T01:03:09Z")
Que pasa hermano! Bro - I was there just like you and went through the same bullshit. You are young and still have the opportunity to change your ‘anxiety issues’. No pheromone in the world will change this. **You must 1st change your thinking!** I’m serious - you need to kill all that negative self-talk and have a more positive outlook. Treat approaching women as a game. What is the worst that can happen? Big fucking deal if she says “No”. What you are really afraid of is that she will laugh in your face and embarrass you in front of other people. Trust me - that will not happen. If she does reject you, that is her loss, NYC is loaded with hot women. I highly recommend you look into Carlos Xuma’s - Inner Game course. This shit is designed to improve your inner game and destroy the root cause of your anxiety in approaching women. Take my advice homie, there is no shame in admitting your issues here, just fix it. I had your same problem and I improved myself and now I’m happy. I just wish I did when I was 25 yrs old. One last thing - _toma con take it easy_ with the Colombian cocaine 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Verdict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d07c76/32.png) [@Verdict](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Verdict)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2011, 6:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/6 "2011-12-19T06:36:02Z")
> [@andromun](#): > > Que pasa hermano! > > Bro - I was there just like you and went through the same bullshit. You are young and still have the opportunity to change your ‘anxiety issues’. > > No pheromone in the world will change this. **You must 1st change your thinking!** I’m serious - you need to kill all that negative self-talk and have a more positive outlook. > > Treat approaching women as a game. What is the worst that can happen? > > Big fucking deal if she says “No”. What you are really afraid of is that she will laugh in your face and embarrass you in front of other people. > > Trust me - that will not happen. If she does reject you, that is her loss, NYC is loaded with hot women. > > I highly recommend you look into Carlos Xuma’s - Inner Game course. This shit is designed to improve your inner game and destroy the root cause of your anxiety in approaching women. > > Take my advice homie, there is no shame in admitting your issues here, just fix it. I had your same problem and I improved myself and now I’m happy. I just wish I did when I was 25 yrs old. > > One last thing - _toma con take it easy_ with the Colombian cocaine 😉 haha, nah, I was only joking about that part, I’m drug free But that’s what I’m here for, get some good advice, start changing how I am. Have a few you guys give me a reality check, some suggestions. I’m here TO CHANGE. Definitely gonna check out that book, second book i’ve gotten from this site, and the first one was excellent. ---
**Author:** ![andromun](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andromun/32/365_2.png) [@andromun](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/andromun)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2011, 5:32pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/7 "2011-12-19T17:32:29Z")
> [@Verdict](#): > > haha, nah, I was only joking about that part, I’m drug free > > But that’s what I’m here for, get some good advice, start changing how I am. Have a few you guys give me a reality check, some suggestions. I’m here TO CHANGE. > > Definitely gonna check out that book, second book i’ve gotten from this site, and the first one was excellent. Don’t worry bro, there is nothing wrong with you. My favorite self-help ebook was the e-course I recommended from Xuma. I really does a great job in helping you identify the real issues you have and the steps to change them. Best of luck! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Royksopp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7bcc69/32.png) [@Royksopp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Royksopp)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2011, 2:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a-trainwreck-here-need-help/53796/8 "2011-12-20T02:07:57Z")
> [@andromun](#): > > Treat approaching women as a game. What is the worst that can happen? > > Big fucking deal if she says “No”. What you are really afraid of is that she will laugh in your face and embarrass you in front of other people. Damn right, ‘no’ isn’t that bad. Most the girls I knew were flattered to be noticed, even by less-than-desirable guys. Asking women out is kinda like getting your ass kicked in a fight, once it happens you realize it’s not the end of the world. ~Royksopp