# A314 vs Instant Gentleman: a married man in his mid-40s compares the two **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 13, 2008, 3:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a314-vs-instant-gentleman-a-married-man-in-his-mid-40s-compares-the-two/11070 "2008-04-13T03:17:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 1
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2008, 3:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a314-vs-instant-gentleman-a-married-man-in-his-mid-40s-compares-the-two/11070/1 "2008-04-13T03:17:08Z")
Myself: Athletic, mid-40s, Married with children This is a compilation of thoughts on the differences between A314 and [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/). A lot of this is based not only on my experience but also on some PMs between myself and Renny. So if you like this post and decide to share the love – er, rep points, please do not forget to send Renny some too. For those of you who are not familiar with Renny he and I are about the same age. I mention this as a couple of the products can have effects that vary a little with age and Instant Gentleman seems to be one of them. As most of us know A314 can give you a very strong alpha vibe that can bring you a lot of respect. Sometimes this respect vibe can so strong it can create distance between you and those around you. This effect depends on your personality and your natural phero-signature. As I have posted before I can get this effect so I often soften the A314 with Instant Honesty as I like the deeper conversations and the feelings of connection it causes others to feel with me. I use A314 almost daily at work – and without IH on those days when I need everyone to do what I need them to do without much discussion. Instant Gentleman on the other hand tends to give you a cool, suave type of vibe. Jasmin described it to me as a “James Bond” kind of cool vibe back in the day. You can also get respect off of it, but it is a more laid back respect because of the fact that you seem so cool. It is more like a warm “step back and let him pass by because he is so cool” as opposed to the “step back and let him pass because he might bite your head off” that you can get with A314. I often recommend Instant Gentleman to guys younger than 18/19 as it has no ‘none in it, will make you seem a little smoother, and still bring you respect. Another great effect of Instant Gentleman is that it seems to make younger guys seem older and older guys seem younger via this “cool” effect. The former I have read in posts and the latter I have experienced first-hand. Many of the people I know either think I am up to 10 years younger than I am or even if they know my true age they state I seem to be younger than I am. What I do to take advantage of the different effects of the two products is to switch back and forth between the two. I mostly use A314 but I will switch over to Instant Gentleman for a few days every so often. I do not lose the respect I get with the A314 on days I am not using it and the Instant Gentleman helps reinforce the impression that I am younger (and certainly cooler) than I really am. Hope this helps. Edit: 3/11/2009 Rather than create a short thread continuing some of this same ideas I decided to add some more information to this one. One of the things I have also noted about wearing Instant Gentleman is that I get a lot of friendly kino from certain women. Not all women but certainly some very specific ones. Again this is very friendly - not sexual at all. It is usually just a hand on my arm as they walk by with a friendly “Hello BH.” Often it happens right in front of my wife and she has never commented on it - and if she felt it was inappropriate she would definitely comment on it … lol. On the other hand this does not happen with the same women if I am wearing A314 or Ammo (or a combination of the two) as a base. I assume it is “respect distance” with the A314 alone and that the 'none in Ammo sends just enough of a signal they will not touch me because they do not want to send the “wrong” signal in response. --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/a314-vs-instant-gentleman-a-married-man-in-his-mid-40s-compares-the-two/11070)._