# Advice for a meeting with my home builder: A314, IO and IH scared the manager **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [June 3, 2008, 12:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445 "2008-06-03T12:07:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![big\_guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f07891/32.png) [@big\_guns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/big_guns)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 12:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/1 "2008-06-03T12:07:55Z")
I’ve been using pheromone for some time now and I “think” I got a grasp on what to wear and when, especially when it comes to my wife; the initial reason I stated using in the first place. But….. I’m having a house built and we’re having trouble with the quality of work being performed. I met with the construction manager a few weeks ago and I think I scared him. I was wearing 3 drops A314, 2 shots IO and IH. He kept telling me not to beat him up both physically and mentally. They’ve corrected a few of the items, but not to my satisfaction. I wrote a letter to the owner of this company and he is sending his main construction manager in to look at these items. With all that said. What [pheromones](https://a314.com/) and how much of each should I wear? A314 no doubt; but what else? I want to make an impression on this guy to get the job done and done right. Thanks for the help. ---
**Author:** ![K24](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/k24/32/1513_2.png) [@K24](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/K24)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 12:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/2 "2008-06-03T12:43:13Z")
hi based on your description (and your username 😃) you are probably quite big? and could be physically intimidating, so I’d go easy on the A314 which could make you even more intimidating and become completely unapproachable, you wanna connect with the guy, he’s already afraid of you no need to push it to the limit, instant honesty and openness is probably good in this case. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 1:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/3 "2008-06-03T13:20:01Z")
When you go into any meeting with the main construction manager _maybe_ back it off to 2 drops A314 but then go with 3 sprays of IH. The IH will help him feel a connection to you and maybe speak honestly to get things moving in the proper direction. ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 4:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/4 "2008-06-03T16:02:12Z")
Use i spray of TUTH to show your dominant side. I learned from idle ---
**Author:** ![Phya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@Phya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phya)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 6:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/5 "2008-06-03T18:01:07Z")
Bosshank and I both love IH so much, I should probably just stop suggestion IH after he posts, but… Instant Honesty is your go to! I’d say 1-2 drops of A314 to maintain the ‘serious’ vibe (in that you still want all your stuff corrected), but put a good amount of Instant Honesty, say 3-4 sprays, on top to make them feel close to you, and hopefully _want_ to help you. Lastly, to steer the vibe in a feel good, ‘everyone’s doing things because they want to’ vibe, throw on a generous helping of Instant Shine, like 2-3 sprays. I don’t recommend [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) as that would detract from the ‘serious, we’ve need to sit down and discuss’ feeling from the a314 + IH. I say ‘discuss’ because I want to imply that it’s a _mutual_ conversation amongst peers, despite wearing a314, to give the construction manager some pride in his own position and competence as a manager. Then try and frame it so that the two of you are solving the issues _you_ find unsatisfactory. Guys..if you want someone to help you, just make friends with them, you don’t always have to intimidate them into doing things for you. Not at the OP specifically, just in general guys. ---
**Author:** ![data4](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/data4/32/272_2.png) [@data4](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/data4)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 6:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/6 "2008-06-03T18:08:07Z")
I’m with Boss and Phya. [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/), definitely. Double the amount you’ve been wearing. With that, the A314, and an assertive, take-no-bullshit demeanor (keep in mind that this _can_ be accomplished while not coming off like an asshole or bully, so don’t worry so much about that), you shouldn’t have any problems. Non-phero stuff like documentation, pictures, etc., will also help strengthen your position, of course. -D4 ---
**Author:** ![big\_guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f07891/32.png) [@big\_guns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/big_guns)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 6:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/7 "2008-06-03T18:25:16Z")
thanks everyone, I really didn’t think of IH. Reps to everyone. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![data4](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/data4/32/272_2.png) [@data4](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/data4)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2008, 8:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/8 "2008-06-03T20:03:24Z")
Any time, Big Guns, and thanks for the reps! Let us know how it goes. -D4 ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 2:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/9 "2008-06-04T02:00:07Z")
Let us know how it works … ---
**Author:** ![Wolfy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfy/32/965_2.png) [@Wolfy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfy)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 4:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/10 "2008-06-04T04:02:11Z")
This is interesting reading, I am going to have to try the A314 and [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) at work, maybe it will put the jerk in his place by being able to tell him no and have him listen. ---
**Author:** ![Warren](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/97f17d/32.png) [@Warren](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Warren)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 4:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/11 "2008-06-04T04:40:50Z")
Big guns, try to talk to him just before, instead of just after, your next testoserone injection. Pheromone wise, it is obviously the A314 that is intimidating him. Nevertheless, I would not decrease the A314. Afterall, you are not getting what you want. I wouldn’t give up the authority. Rather I would try to soften it with other pheromones. TAA or Instant Shine seem like the obvious choice to me. If you can get some Liquid Trust, that might be spot on. And you might try one or two sprays of [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/). I know it is supposed to calm women, but it will calm me a bit when I’m rattled, so it might work here. I think maybe you’re making this guy feel like a woman! The Instant Honesty might actually be a problem. MHarris says it is too intense for some people. Again, I would keep it but add a couple more sprays of Instant Openness to shift the balance to the less serious. Honesty may pretty scary to this dude right now if he ain’t gettin the job done! Things I haven’t tried yet, but might be worth trying if the problem drags on and you’re in an experimenting mood: TAK, TAC, TAF, P74 If all else fails, just hit a couple of times, hard. Then he can put the fear of getting beat up behind him and concentrate on work. 😮 ---
**Author:** ![big\_guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f07891/32.png) [@big\_guns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/big_guns)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 12:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/12 "2008-06-04T12:01:55Z")
Haven’t had any injections in a while, so that’s not the problem. I’m a laid back guy that most people, after the’ve met me, feel they’ve known me for a while; this is long before the pheromones. I don’t intentionally try to intimidate anyone, I received the big guns after working my ass off in the gym. I greet everyone with a smile and a “good morning”. Anyway, I decided before I went out there (house) today I would use some of the advice I received. I came to work with 2 drops A314, 1 spray ISx2 and 2 sprays IH. I deal with a lot of people during the day. Today I met with some guys in the past that were real a$$holes. I wanted to try these pheromones to test their reactions. Everyone was so helpful except this one guy that’s was giving my co-worker a hard time, this dude is always a prick, 30 seconds after I walked into the conversation his attitude changed for the better and I saw him smile for the first time ever. I’ll keep everyone posted on the results. Thanks again. ---
**Author:** ![Phya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@Phya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phya)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 5:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/13 "2008-06-04T17:58:04Z")
Hmm, I guess we’ll chalk that one up in the Win column? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![big\_guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f07891/32.png) [@big\_guns](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/big_guns)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 9:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/14 "2008-06-04T21:46:20Z")
I went out to the house to day to inspect the working being done. Since I sweat my ass off at work I went with the proven mix from above reapplied 30 minutes before the meeting about 10 hours after the first. As my wife and I were looking at the house this great big MF shows up and introduces himself as the guy I’m looking for. I think the builder told him I had big guns HA HA. LMAO. I guess they wanted to intimidate me. We met at the staircase I’m up a few steps as we greet each other. I’ve all ready got the upper hand. 😃 I show him around and point at these obvious screw ups and he just starts chatting away how they’ll fix this and that. Typical company line or should I say BS. I never motioned to this guy I would move to another area and he would follow, I pointed he spoke same ole’ BS. Don’t know what will be done, but I think I made an impression, did it help? Hell I don’t know. If anything changes I’ll post. ---
**Author:** ![Phya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@Phya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phya)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2008, 10:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-a-meeting-with-my-home-builder-a314-io-and-ih-scared-the-manager/13445/15 "2008-06-04T22:46:34Z")
I think it was an improvement. I don’t know if they were acting this way before or not, but if they are willing to commit and say they’ll fix it all, then you have their word, and from there, if they aren’t fixing it, you can push them and say “Hey, you guys committed and said it should be fixed.” At least they didn’t try and give you a run around “Oh it’s supposed to be like that.” Or something along those lines. The real results will show themselves in time. Will those mistakes get fixed?