# Advice for Friends with Benefits **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 13, 2011, 1:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287 "2011-05-13T01:08:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Septerra](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/septerra/32/196_2.png) [@Septerra](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Septerra)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 1:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/1 "2011-05-13T01:08:16Z")
Hey all, I’ve got a first time for myself here…trying out friends with benefits. I’ve been with girls, but none my friends…so this is quite a difficult thing for me. There is this girl (that is definitely friends-zone) that I am into…and there is some tension I think already… (She somewhat invited me to this striptease dancing lessons thing…even though I’ll have moved to the south by then). I am completely content with keeping it as friends…but VERY inclined to move it to the next level…problem is I have a week before I probably won’t see her for several months. Whatever she says, I’m going to respect her…but I want to find a way to make it not as awkward if she doesn’t go for it…but to this point, I’ve yet to think of a way to do this 🙄 I am thinking about saying something like… _“What do you think our friendship is going to be like once I move to the south? Sure we’ll talk and text for a few months…then once we have nothing else to talk about…maybe be facebook friends for a few months and then things will probably fizzle out. Now if we had some other level to connect on…”_ _(moves in while gazing into her eyes)…and leave it at that without saying it abruptly…_ Ofcourse this will still result in awkwardness if she doesn’t go for it…but its better than just making a direct move right? Also…if you have any ideas for mone combos that might help me out in this situation… I am thinking 1 or 2 of TuTH, 1 IG, 2-3 IH, LOTS of IS… (She’s already experienced my use of IO, IS, IH, IG but not ammo or Tuth yet) Thanks guys! ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/2 "2011-05-13T01:12:53Z")
My advice is don’t do it. But my [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) advice is to stay consistent whatever you choose. ---
**Author:** ![Septerra](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/septerra/32/196_2.png) [@Septerra](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Septerra)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 1:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/3 "2011-05-13T01:36:07Z")
Yeah…it would probably be a mistake…but why would she lead me on and tease like that haha… Oh mixed signals… ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 2:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/4 "2011-05-13T02:07:21Z")
> [@Septerra](#): > > Yeah…it would probably be a mistake…but why would she lead me on and tease like that haha… > > Oh mixed signals… Sometimes people (men or women) will just want to feel good, so knowing that you want them but they won’t have to deliver is like a major high to them. If they do have to deliver? They think that it won’t affect you emotionally - but to be honest with ourselves is the most important. So if you feel you have the emotional fortitude to not let it turn into drama (or that she does) then maybe. Just be careful. 😉 Also TUTH is an obvious choice but there’s a lot to be said for IS+[Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/). ---
**Author:** ![Oasis314](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/oasis314/32/219_2.png) [@Oasis314](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Oasis314)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 2:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/5 "2011-05-13T02:12:07Z")
If you have given and dropped hints that you are a possible sexual partner it’s only normal that she would drop hints. Teasing and testing are just some of the ways women like to do to test us sometimes. Guys usually over analyse what is really going on in their minds. Still, it depends on you as a person as to what you want out of this relationship. Friends with benefits if rarely, ever works out in the long run. Life goes on and it stops the moment you get into relationships. You will be in a emotional roller coaster ride once things get too emotional and feelings are being brought into play. Guys can usually be okay with the benefits and leaving just at that. Women on the other hand, gets emotionally attached the longer they stay with you. Even as friends or worse, with benefits. If both of your intentions are clear and concise, you can go for it but with full understanding that human emotions are never logical and rational in the long run in relationships. As for mones advice, TUTH, IH will greatly amplify both your and her urges. ---
**Author:** ![2000GT](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/2000gt/32/389_2.png) [@2000GT](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/2000GT)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 2:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/6 "2011-05-13T02:15:20Z")
> [@John\_Sebastian](#): > > My advice is don’t do it. > > But my pheromone advice is to stay consistent whatever you choose. My feelings on friends with benefits has been that it takes a certain personality type (women) to be willing to go that route and my experience has also shown me that a lot of women (not all) do NOT fit this personality type. So yea, I’m with John on this one. Just my two cents. ---
**Author:** ![pesh\_kurd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dfb087/32.png) [@pesh\_kurd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pesh_kurd)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 2:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/7 "2011-05-13T02:23:11Z")
Friends with benefits..From a hand on experience its alright at first. Until someone either her or you want it to go further than that. You may think it will never lead to that but it does, 90 % of the time. At the end someone gets hurt thats if your not down for that. IF you are bro do it up!! Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![Jetto](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jetto/32/698_2.png) [@Jetto](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jetto)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 2:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/8 "2011-05-13T02:29:21Z")
Well, won’t really be friends with benefits if she lives in another state and you never see each other again. My advice is go out with a bang. Go in for the kill and if she gets hesitant because you’re friends, you can just say you wanted something to remember her by…hopefully not herpes. It’s not hard to keep her as a friend after something like this, you just gotta sort through your own head and keep remembering that you are just friends, nothing more. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 2:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/9 "2011-05-13T02:56:30Z")
Just as a side note - I really dig how supportive and honest people are on this forum. It’s what Jasmin and all of us have always wanted it to be here. ---
**Author:** ![thegentleman](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/thegentleman/32/1770_2.png) [@thegentleman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thegentleman)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 4:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/10 "2011-05-13T04:04:02Z")
Hmmm… I’m currently working on a situation like this myself. The target is very attractive and got out of a serious relationship about 6-8 months ago. She only went out with guys but wouldn’t sleep with any for the longest time. She did confide in me the other day (thanks IH?) that she usually will return to some of her old FB’s and not take on anyone new sexually, unless it is going to develop into a serious relationship. These old FB’s are former boyfriends who are currently single. There is no emotional attachment there, they will even go out and pick up dates together, get numbers and go home and have sex and call there number closes another day. But once again, she stated that she WON’T have sex with anyone new unless it starts to develop into something serious. Her concerns were to be a pump and dump victim LOL as she put it. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 4:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/11 "2011-05-13T04:53:29Z")
> [@thegentleman](#): > > Hmmm… I’m currently working on a situation like this myself. > > The target is very attractive and got out of a serious relationship about 6-8 months ago. She only went out with guys but wouldn’t sleep with any for the longest time. She did confide in me the other day (thanks IH?) that she usually will return to some of her old FB’s and not take on anyone new sexually, unless it is going to develop into a serious relationship. > > These old FB’s are former boyfriends who are currently single. There is no emotional attachment there, they will even go out and pick up dates together, get numbers and go home and have sex and call there number closes another day. But once again, she stated that she WON’T have sex with anyone new unless it starts to develop into something serious. Her concerns were to be a pump and dump victim LOL as she put it. I believe it’s what Socrates called “hit it and quit it” (Socrates is the Greek guy who runs my local liquor store) ---
**Author:** ![thegentleman](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/thegentleman/32/1770_2.png) [@thegentleman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thegentleman)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 5:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/12 "2011-05-13T05:14:19Z")
> [@John\_Sebastian](#): > > I believe it’s what Socrates called “hit it and quit it” > > (Socrates is the Greek guy who runs my local liquor store) LOL…too funny. ---
**Author:** ![Septerra](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/septerra/32/196_2.png) [@Septerra](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Septerra)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2011, 5:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/13 "2011-05-13T05:37:50Z")
Hey, you guys are awesome, thanks for all the advice! I am going to let it all settle in my mind for a bit. As of right now, the big head says let it be and stay friends (even though it will probably not turn into a lasting friendship), and the other head says…get er done… If I go through with it…it would have to be complete honesty…I guess I just have to forget about the awkward concept…because well lets face it…a majority of sex and life in general is awkward right? Thanks again, I will be meeting up with family this weekend for my graduation on Saturday…I will hit the forum up probably Saturday night or Sunday…Till Then! ---
**Author:** ![Septerra](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/septerra/32/196_2.png) [@Septerra](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Septerra)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2011, 2:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-friends-with-benefits/50287/14 "2011-05-26T14:46:18Z")
Well, here it is; a semi-conclusionary advancement to this story. Skip to the end of the post to just read the fwb party story. > [@Extreme Self Make-Over: Pheromone Edition](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/extreme-self-make-over-pheromone-edition/49831/20): > > A Catch-up from the Craziness: I am just going to list 3 of the more important stories/experiences from the last couple weeks. A lot has happened, and much of it I can’t remember because there was so much fun to be had! I am going to work up to the most recent…if you are looking for the friends with benefits party section…skip to the end! Application #1: AMMO 1x, IO 1x, IS 1x, IH 1x, IG 1x ~2 sprays each, back and sides of neck, IS on wrists then to ears. Environment - Out to the local stat… Again, thanks for the advice everyone…I will now be back on here more often. School work is over, I am graduated, and I secured my job!!!