# Advice for repairing a friendship. **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 2, 2011, 11:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594 "2011-08-02T23:08:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Mike\_Flaherty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mike_flaherty/32/1527_2.png) [@Mike\_Flaherty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mike_Flaherty)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2011, 11:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/1 "2011-08-02T23:08:24Z")
Okay..I’ve been having an issue with this friend of mine for some time. Lately we haven’t seen eye to eye on anything and our conversations have become quite heated and intense which led to personal attacks as disagreements can lead to at times. We had a situation where during a phone conversation he just hung up on me - this was three weeks ago. We haven’t communicated since - save for a text message and an apologetic email message I sent. Whenever I try to call he won’t answer. Yes, I believe he’s acting like a child - but if I call him out on that he won’t be receptive to communicating ever again. I’m kind of in a bind as this is the only real friend have as every other friend I had has moved away. It sucks. I’m going to be more open-minded towards his particular views on certain subjects that are important to him, especially one in particular that I won’t name but it’s a big one. The main thing is I have to get him to come around to talking to me again. I’ve been using the mones I own to attract women so I have no idea what I can use to sway this male friend of mine to start communicating with me. Perhaps some IS or A314? What do you all suggest? ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2011, 11:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/2 "2011-08-02T23:56:38Z")
> [@Mike\_Flaherty](#): > > Okay..I’ve been having an issue with this friend of mine for some time. Lately we haven’t seen eye to eye on anything and our conversations have become quite heated and intense which led to personal attacks as disagreements can lead to at times. We had a situation where during a phone conversation he just hung up on me - this was three weeks ago. We haven’t communicated since - save for a text message and an apologetic email message I sent. Whenever I try to call he won’t answer. Yes, I believe he’s acting like a child - but if I call him out on that he won’t be receptive to communicating ever again. I’m kind of in a bind as this is the only real friend have as every other friend I had has moved away. It sucks. I’m going to be more open-minded towards his particular views on certain subjects that are important to him, especially one in particular that I won’t name but it’s a big one. The main thing is I have to get him to come around to talking to me again. > > I’ve been using the mones I own to attract women so I have no idea what I can use to sway this male friend of mine to start communicating with me. Perhaps some IS or A314? > > What do you all suggest? Dude, in all honesty, this is way to ambiguous to work with. Just from what you’ve posted; he’s behaving like a teenager (a girl @ that) and I would say join a club, do a new sport (paragliding?) or go to the pub with a bunch of IH on. If neither of you are willing to concede that certain things and views are important to yourselves - I don’t even understand how you both got this far as friends. 😕 Has he had a life altering event? Has he hit a point where nothing in his life is good enough? Not what he expected? Turned out ‘wrong’? What you’ve posted is way too nebulous for me to offer anything but do the new kid thing - find a couple of new people to hang with. Sorry ☹ **EDIT** Sorry, guys. I meant go to the pub for some new friends - start with a bunch of IH - and the new stuff for new friends, too. ---
**Author:** ![Climax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c68b51/32.png) [@Climax](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Climax)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 2:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/3 "2011-08-03T02:48:46Z")
IS for sure to lighten the mood, IH to make him say what he normally wouldn’t (admit being wrong), and IG for the trust worthy and dependable aspect. A314 could be suited as well. ---
**Author:** ![thegentleman](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/thegentleman/32/1770_2.png) [@thegentleman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thegentleman)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 4:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/4 "2011-08-03T16:52:37Z")
A314 I think would be too challenging. Stick with the socials like IS and IH. Once you get the discussions going again then you maybe start to add in IG, then A314…in fact I think I’d go with a single spray of ammo before I even add IG or A314. Well lol I’m going to even change this more… IS and IO first time you see him to get him talking. I mean do like 8 sprays of IS and 4 sprays of IO. Then next time you go over, 8 sprays of IS, 4 sprays of IO, 2 IH. Then 8 IS, 4 of IO and IH, toss some [MX297](https://a314.com/product/mx297/) in there. then 8 IS 2 IO 4 IH MX297 + IG ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 8:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/5 "2011-08-03T20:47:24Z")
There’s your 1000 rep point 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Mike\_Flaherty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mike_flaherty/32/1527_2.png) [@Mike\_Flaherty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mike_Flaherty)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/6 "2011-08-03T22:53:15Z")
Thanks for the responses. You make a lot of sense Astrea. Part of me is glad I’m rid of his craziness but a part of me would like to get over this bad patch. And yeah, he is acting like a G-dam teenager. He does that. I was actually going to get rid of his ass as soon as I struck up a new bunch of friends - hence delving into the world of mones. Guess he just beat me to it. I started this post more out of curiosity to see if mones could work in a situation like this and to find out what other users have used in similar situations and hearing what the outcome was. I’m going to try the socials and maybe a bit of A314. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 6:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/7 "2011-08-04T06:17:03Z")
Pheromonally, I would suggest some IH IO and TAC. The tac will help relax both of you so the IO and IH can more easily open you up. [P74](https://a314.com/product/p74/) which has a buddy effect between men may also be a good choice. I dont suggest A314 or any of the respect mones. Frankly Mike you probably know by now I call them like I see them and I am not going to coddle you about this because then you will totally miss what you were meant to learn from it. I cant say he is being childish without knowing what you said to him. Obviously you must have said something that was hurtful or you wouldn’t feel compelled to apologize. Not wanting to talk or hang around someone who makes you feel bad about yourself or hurts you is not girly or childish its human nature. It takes two people to argue and as you mentioned personal attacks came in to play. I do notice you dont expect an apology from him which brings me to the assumption that most of those personal attacks where directed at him. > [@](#): > > I’m kind of in a bind as this is the only real friend have as every other friend I had has moved away. I suggest you make your apology again in person just to clear the air of sorts and shift the energy and then let the friendship die down. The statement above and the fact that your still judging him by calling him childish now tells me you really dont like this person. Your using him because you have no one else which sucks for him and you. You are coming across here as just wanting to be open minded to his point of view because if your not you wont have any friends where you are not because you care about this persons feelings or because you truly respect and feel open to his views. That’s not friendship and I am sorry to sound harsh but perhaps he has a good reason not to pick up that phone. I am not saying your a bad person only that your not compatible with this person and you can not force compatibility. Forcing this friendship is equal to going out with a girl your not attracted to simply because your afraid there will be no more girls. Come to a place of peace with him then move on and make some new friends your more compatible with. Remember that every experience is designed to make you learn something. Be sure to look at this situation and ask yourself what it is you learned about you. 😉 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Mike\_Flaherty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mike_flaherty/32/1527_2.png) [@Mike\_Flaherty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mike_Flaherty)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 10:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/8 "2011-08-04T22:41:27Z")
Thanks again Tisha, We actually do get along most of the time - just so long as we stay off a certain subject. He does like to agitate me from time to time and that makes me want to agitate him back. We know exactly what buttons to push as most people who’ve known each other over many years do. I have been feeling a bit testy over the past few months I admit - dealing with physical issues and a breakup with a girlfriend last year. These things happen. Trying to work through them and I’ve been pretty successful. People come and go. And new people come again. I’m going to attempt to contact this person over the weekend and if it’s no go - the world keeps turning. He’ll probably come around after a while anyway. I’m really going to put forth the effort to meet new people. This gives me an opportunity to fully test mones and hopefully work some magic. ---
**Author:** ![thegentleman](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/thegentleman/32/1770_2.png) [@thegentleman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thegentleman)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2011, 2:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/advice-for-repairing-a-friendship/51594/9 "2011-08-05T02:57:17Z")
> [@Steve](#): > > There’s your 1000 rep point 🙂 haha my cherry got popped and according to CoolKat I am now respected. 😛