# Alpha Male Book... Must read for the ultimate Alpha Male traits!! **URL:** \ **Category:** A314 Insider's Club\ **Created:** [January 21, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175 "2009-01-21T20:22:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pherosmurph](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherosmurph/32/322_2.png) [@pherosmurph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherosmurph)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/1 "2009-01-21T20:22:22Z")
Check out this ebook **How To Become An Alpha Male by John Alexander** Cant remember how much it costs but if your really intrested in how an alpha male talks,reacts and all that this is the book for you… ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 1:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/2 "2009-01-22T01:10:24Z")
Well how bout a review ---
**Author:** ![pherosmurph](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherosmurph/32/322_2.png) [@pherosmurph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherosmurph)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 1:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/3 "2009-01-22T01:22:23Z")
> [@Steve](#): > > Well how bout a review The ebook is 170 pages long. It contains alpha male traits like body language,mindset,how to think,it potrays all qualities of an alpha male and then compares them to beta male traits.. when you finish reading the ebook you will be able to tell who really is the ultimate alpha male around your friends and others and yourself. At the end there is a little bit about becoming sexual with a women example the kiss test and so forth but it is mostly just about alpha male qualities though!!! THIS EBOOK IS HOW AN ALPHA MALE SHOULD REALLY ACT!!! 10 OUT 10 STARS ---
**Author:** ![Phya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@Phya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phya)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 3:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/4 "2009-01-22T03:49:37Z")
Can’t say that was the most in-depth review, but thanks for sharing. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![pherosmurph](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherosmurph/32/322_2.png) [@pherosmurph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherosmurph)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 2:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/5 "2009-01-22T14:43:16Z")
> [@Phya](#): > > Can’t say that was the most in-depth review, but thanks for sharing. 🙂 I dont know what else to say really.. All you can do is take my word for it! ---
**Author:** ![pherosmurph](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherosmurph/32/322_2.png) [@pherosmurph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherosmurph)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 4:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/6 "2009-01-22T16:23:39Z")
Here is a quick example i copied and pasted… Beta Male Charachteristics 1. **Using “ah” and “um,” partial sentences, and partial words.** Studies have shown that people consider others who talk like this to lack confidence and not be too bright. It’s a sign of nervousness. The reason we say “um” is because we’re afraid we’re going to be interrupted by the other person. Instead, don’t be afraid to pause for effect. Pausing before important points will make you seem more competent and people will remember what you say. 2. **Speaking too fast.** This gives off the impression that you feel anxious and have low self-confidence. A normal, comfortable speaking rate varies within a moderate range from 125 to 150 words per minute. Slow down! 3. \*\*Speaking with a monotone voice, also known as _mumbling_. \*\*People with a narrow pitch range are viewed as unassertive, uninteresting, and lacking in confidence. So vary your pitch and you will be perceived as outgoing and alpha. 4. **Pausing too long before responding to a question.** This indicates that you’re thinking too hard for your answer, which makes you seem indecisive. It also looks like you’re trying too hard to win the other person’s approval. 5. **Pulled-in, closed postures.** An alpha male spreads his arms and legs out and is open. When standing, you can force open your body language by hooking your thumbs in your side belt loops. 6. **Holding your hands in front of you.** This is a defensive gesture. Instead hold yourself open and vulnerable. (You make yourself physically vulnerable because you feel no fear.) Let your arms relax and be open. Nobody’s going to punch you, so why do you need to block yourself? 7. **Twitching your fingers or hands.** When you’re across the table from someone there’s a natural inclination to play with sugar packets or straw wrappers with your fingers. Don’t. And don’t drum your fingers on the table—women respond poorly to that. Just hold your hands and fingers relaxed. Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward. Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Most of the time this means having them about 18 inches or half a meter apart, your palms facing each other, with fingers curved slightly upward. As your palms face each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms convey honesty and being completely comfortable with yourself. Having the back of your hands facing her can convey that you’re hiding something. 8. **Touching your face when you talk.** This indicates that you’re thinking too hard, you’re indecisive, or that you feel shy. To convey confidence, at time you can hold your hands together in a steeple shape in front of your chest or face. (A lot of professors do this when they are lecturing.) Another posture that will help you when you need a huge display of confidence is holding your hands on your hips. Cops do this when they need to establish authority over criminal suspects. 9. **Folding or crossing your arms in front of you.** On rare occasions it is possible to fold your arms in an alpha fashion (watch Brad Pitt in the movie _Fight Club_ for a good demonstration of this), but as a general rule, avoid it. 10. **Rigid or hunched posture.** An alpha male has a relaxed posture, whether he’s standing or sitting. Loosen up and spread out. 11. **Looking down.** The alpha man holds his head high. It shows zest. Looking down at the floor telegraphs “loser.” Keep your chin up. Expose your neck—don’t worry, nobody’s going to choke you! Look at the person you’re talking to; remember what I said about using your eyes. 12. **Nervous facial gestures** such as lip licking, pursing your lips, twitching your nose, and biting your lips. An alpha male has a relaxed face and mouth because he fears no one. 13. **Excessive smiling.** Studies of primates have shown that beta males will smile as a way to signal their harmlessness to stronger males. Beta humans smile to show they’re not a threat. The alpha male, however, only smiles when there is something to smile about. And yes—he can be a threat. 14. **Walking fast as part of your normal walk.** Instead, walk a little slower than normal, almost as if you’re swaggering. You’re alpha—no one’s chasing you and you’re not rushing to please anyone else. If you’re not in a hurry to get somewhere, walk like you’re relaxed and confident. Think: “I am the man. I can make any woman happy.” 15. **Walking only with your legs.** Don’t be afraid to move your torso and arms. Try this: walk as if you’d just had a massive success and felt on top of the world. Watch what you do with your body. You may find yourself moving your arms along with your shoulders and having a slight bounce in your step. Now, do that all the time. 16. **Slouching.** You don’t have to stand uncomfortably ramrod straight, but you should have your shoulders back. Watch Brad Pitt in any of his movies for examples of how to comfortably hold your back straight. (I keep bringing Brad Pitt up because he provides an excellent example of what good body language looks like. Also watch George Clooney in his films. For fans of older movies, check out Sean Connery in _From Russia With Love_ and Rock Hudson in _Pillow Talk_.) **Blinking a lot.** Instead be leisurely about blinking your eyes. And don’t close your eyes in discomfort. Just let your eyelids relax. In fact, let them droop a bit. Don’t be bug-eyed. 17. **Shifting your eyes back and forth when you speak.** That’s very beta. When you’re in a conversation and you’re doing the talking, gaze at the other person’s face. Nonverbally, this communicates that what you say is important and worth listening to. 18. **Holding too much eye contact when the other person speaks.** Ignore the dating advice books that tell you to hold non-stop eye contact. Non-stop eye contact makes you look needy, socially retarded, and, frankly, like a weirdo. Instead let your eyes blur and then _gaze_ at her eyes. Look through her rather than at her. From extensive testing, I’ve found that gazing at a woman about two-thirds of the time is optimal. By the way, only hold the gaze when she’s telling you something genuinely interesting. Otherwise, focus on other stuff like her hair, things going on around you, etc. 19. **Being uncomfortable with your eyes, period.** The bottom line is that your eyes should be comfortable, relaxed, assertive, and sexual. 20. **Looking down or to the side before answering a woman’s question.** If you do need to look away before answering in order to think, then look **up** and to the side. Studies have shown that this displays more confidence. 21. **Being afraid to touch a woman.** Be confident about it when you touch women—any nervousness at all can be fatal for your relations with her. Be alpha and physically move her when you need to. Hold her hand to lead her around, etc. Be gentle —if you use excessive pressure, you reveal your insecurity. (Since you’re alpha, of course she will follow you, so there’s no need to be anything other than playful and tender.) It’s natural to touch others, as when you’re emphasizing a point. So let the love flow! 22. **Turning your head fast when someone wants your attention.** Instead use the movements that you would when you’re at home—slow and relaxed. You’re not at anyone’s beck and call. You’re alpha, remember? 23. **Using long, sentences.** ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2009, 8:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/7 "2009-01-23T20:21:35Z")
Well, on your advice, I went ahead and bought this. SO far I’ve only read the first chapter and I’d say its pretty dead on, but not so much of anything I didn’t know. There are some great reviews on amazon, but I bought it right from John’s site for cheaper. Once I get into it some more I’ll let you know what I think. ---
**Author:** ![Phya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@Phya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phya)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2009, 1:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/8 "2009-01-24T01:49:33Z")
Hey Pherosmurf, thanks for the PM. I wasn’t really looking for the content of the book per se. I was more interested in your thoughts on the book. Why did you pick it up? Why that book rather than the plethora of other ‘Alpha Male’ books out there? Did it have a significant impact on you, if so, in what way? You know, not a book summary, a book ‘review’. But thanks for posting that excerpt anyways. I read through it, it doesn’t seem like a bad place to start. ---
**Author:** ![Rovot](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/rovot/32/5179_2.png) [@Rovot](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rovot)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2009, 3:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/9 "2009-01-24T03:25:50Z")
Great info. Paragraph posted above shows a few beta traits I still have around. Need to get the book and work on it. ---
**Author:** ![pherosmurph](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherosmurph/32/322_2.png) [@pherosmurph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherosmurph)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2009, 2:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/10 "2009-01-24T14:28:59Z")
> [@Phya](#): > > Hey Pherosmurf, thanks for the PM. > > I wasn’t really looking for the content of the book per se. I was more interested in your thoughts on the book. Why did you pick it up? Why that book rather than the plethora of other ‘Alpha Male’ books out there? Did it have a significant impact on you, if so, in what way? > > You know, not a book summary, a book ‘review’. > > But thanks for posting that excerpt anyways. I read through it, it doesn’t seem like a bad place to start. I picked it up so i could be seen as an alpha male… i was good with women but the more and more i practiced body language and that it just became natural to me after a while… I picked this one because it was recomened to me by david de angelo through an email he sent me(subscriber) ---
**Author:** ![dhh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/258eb7/32.png) [@dhh](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dhh)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2009, 4:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/11 "2009-01-26T04:49:24Z")
“Secrets of the Alpha Man” by Carlos Xuma is a good one too ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2010, 1:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/alpha-male-book-must-read-for-the-ultimate-alpha-male-traits/25175/12 "2010-02-08T13:08:46Z")
I really liked this book, I think for PUA’s it’s a great companion book to the MM. Where the Mystery Method tells you “what to do and say” in a situation with a woman. This book is more about changing who you are. I think it’s especially ideal for guys that confuse Alpha Male with “Chest Thumping Bully” and actually beta themselves by falling into contests of one upmanship. Xuma’s Alpha Man series is great stuff and very compatible imo with David Deangelo, especially the products “Deep Inner Game” and “On Being a Man that Naturally Attracts Women”.