# Am I doing this right **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [November 12, 2008, 7:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819 "2008-11-12T19:11:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![jron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/4da419/32.png) [@jron](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jron)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 7:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/1 "2008-11-12T19:11:16Z")
Hey all, I joined this a few weeks ago and it seems a bit complicated to me a novice at this blogging thing. But that is not my main point. I’m interested in one woman (my roommate of all people). We get along fine, have a similar sense of humor. I’ve tried to get romantic but she is not responding. I thought pheros might supply that little push to help get things started. I got some [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) and Turn up the Heat. I used one little spritz of IFM and I instantly smelled like a mixture of diesel fuel and dead cat! This is supposed to attract women 😕 I wonder if different peoples body chemistry react differently to this stuff. It about gave me a headache and an upset stomach. None the less I tried both products, sparingly, around her for the next few days but no change was detected. Any advice is welcome ☹ ---
**Author:** ![UKClubber](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ukclubber/32/920_2.png) [@UKClubber](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/UKClubber)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 7:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/2 "2008-11-12T19:46:21Z")
Hi, Im no expert but i have a few ideas that may or may not help you. Try adding normal aftershave after the pheros have dried if you dont like the smell. Also dont add too much too soon, it seems to me like you see each other often? If she senses your phero sig is so diff she might be like wtf? Which would in turn make her avoid you in some cases. So take it really slow like even half a spray or something. One other factor to remember pheros are only 10% the rest is up to you. you need to act the part of the [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) you are wearing. Hope some of this will help ---
**Author:** ![jron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/4da419/32.png) [@jron](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jron)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 7:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/3 "2008-11-12T19:54:21Z")
Thanks, I hope it will. I’m not a cologne wearer and neither is she. (Is that really odd these days) I suppose since I have the stuff I might as well keep using it. I wonder if it takes a while to “sink in” with some people. Does anyone have any data on this ---
**Author:** ![UKClubber](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ukclubber/32/920_2.png) [@UKClubber](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/UKClubber)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 7:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/4 "2008-11-12T19:58:17Z")
It’s usually instant but as i said she could be confused by the change so it might take a week or so for her to change her mind. I dont wear cologne during the week much only a314 ---
**Author:** ![emmie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/emmie/32/738_2.png) [@emmie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/emmie)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 8:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/5 "2008-11-12T20:00:44Z")
Hi There.🙂 I am certainly no expert but, these products can not make her fancy you. She may feel a genuine warmth but has no romantic intentions towards you. I have a feeling that this process works like something similar to hypnosis. if she has no sub- consious desire for you, you can’t make it happen. In addition, I would think long and hard about what your trying to achieve through using these products . From what i have read, i would have tried something instant openess first with some instant honesty to build up some trust and encourage expression. using them to create honesty and openess in yourself first. I mean for instance! Imagine you have got her interested, and your bottles of pheros runout. will you panic because your personality can no longer do it for you? I am not haing ago at you I have just had to think long and hard about my own intentions. I wonder the same thing about my own life and using these items. I wish you luck in creating a nice friendly atmosphere and hopefully a life long friend with your room mate. Emmie ---
**Author:** ![Mtnjim](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mtnjim/32/2010_2.png) [@Mtnjim](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mtnjim)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 8:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/6 "2008-11-12T20:10:43Z")
> [@UKClubber](#): > > It’s usually instant but as i said she could be confused by the change so it might take a week or so for her to change her mind. This is with strangers. People who know you generally have you “pegged”, and it takes a while for their perception of you to change, if it ever does. And as said above it’s 90% _you_ and 10% mones. ---
**Author:** ![jron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/4da419/32.png) [@jron](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jron)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 8:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/7 "2008-11-12T20:20:02Z")
Thanks Emmie Yeah, I know it’s not magic and nothing will perform the impossible for me. The roommate and I already have a high degree of openness and honesty between us. So if the attraction and romantic feelings have to be in place beforehand, then what are pheros for. I suppose I could be wasting my time but, damn. She’s my hearts desire 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![emmie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/emmie/32/738_2.png) [@emmie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/emmie)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 8:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/8 "2008-11-12T20:51:55Z")
> [@jron](#): > > Thanks Emmie > > Yeah, I know it’s not magic and nothing will perform the impossible for me. The roommate and I already have a high degree of openness and honesty between us. So if the attraction and romantic feelings have to be in place beforehand, then what are pheros for. I suppose I could be wasting my time but, damn. She’s my hearts desire 🙂 Ahhh bless 🙂 I hope she open her heart romantically. You sound like a nice chap ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 9:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/9 "2008-11-12T21:58:30Z")
> [@jron](#): > > The roommate and I already have a high degree of openness and honesty between us. > > So if the attraction and romantic feelings have to be in place beforehand, then what are pheros for. I suppose I could be wasting my time but, damn. She’s my hearts desire 🙂 Does she have any idea how you feel about her? If you guys have that much openness and honesty between you, then I’d suggest having a talk with her. I wouldn’t recommend telling her that you’re in love with her and can’t live without her. But I might suggest something along the lines of telling her that you’re starting to see a potential for something more than a roomate/friendship situation with her, and ask if you’re just being crazy or if she feels there may be something there too. The down side is that if the answer is no, it could create an ucomfortable situation between the 2 of you. ---
**Author:** ![wilks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f475e1/32.png) [@wilks](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/wilks)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 7:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/am-i-doing-this-right/22819/10 "2008-11-13T07:44:52Z")
> [@jron](#): > > Thanks Emmie > > Yeah, I know it’s not magic and nothing will perform the impossible for me. The roommate and I already have a high degree of openness and honesty between us. So if the attraction and romantic feelings have to be in place beforehand, then what are pheros for. I suppose I could be wasting my time but, damn. She’s my hearts desire 🙂 You’re going to have to slowly romance her. A girls first reaction to a sudden surprise is usually a bad one unless she’s wanting a surprise. I would start changing small things about you. Get a different haircut. Try a new activity. Tell her about a new experience you just had. Create a “transition” feeling about the apartment and yourself. She’ll be more receptive to re-evaluating how she feels for you if there’s an air of surprise/change about you. “New guy? Need to take a closer look. Maybe I pegged him wrong.” Then start doing nice things for her. Minor things. Maybe put some flowers in the apartment, but say it’s just to liven things up. Clean up something she normally takes care of. Let her see you as a nesting, caring man. You might be able to get away with wearing some pheros here. Then maybe, just maybe she’ll be ready mentally for a small move on your part. Just to test the waters… Start doing date-like things with her, just you two. It’s a bitch moving out of friend category, but it’s possible if you play it right. It’s similar to the basic game: confuse her, intrigue her and disarm her. THEN you can move in for the kill and excite her.