# Another newbie question **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 23, 2009, 12:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325 "2009-03-23T00:45:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![srjr27](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@srjr27](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/srjr27)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2009, 12:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/1 "2009-03-23T00:45:07Z")
I’m trying to get back with my ex-girlfriend and I’m going to send her some flowers and a note. People often say to spray a little cologne on the letter to give her a physical reminder of you. I just got my first pheromones this week (Ammo, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), and TUTH) and I never used pheromones when we were together, but I was thinking if it would be a good idea to provide a hint of one of these pheromones to the letter itself? What are everyone’s thoughts? Thanks in advance for your help. ---
**Author:** ![d23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/d23/32/1465_2.png) [@d23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/d23)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2009, 1:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/2 "2009-03-23T01:04:21Z")
Depends on how long after you spray the card she gets the flowers if its too long the mones may be gone by then!! But i would advise ammo out of those three. d23 ---
**Author:** ![srjr27](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@srjr27](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/srjr27)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2009, 1:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/3 "2009-03-23T01:28:58Z")
Thanks for your reply. Does anyone else have anything to add? ---
**Author:** ![d23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/d23/32/1465_2.png) [@d23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/d23)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2009, 11:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/4 "2009-03-23T11:11:29Z")
> [@srjr27](#): > > Thanks for your reply. Does anyone else have anything to add? To be honest I would put the ammo on you and the card and take the flowers round yourself. ---
**Author:** ![srjr27](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@srjr27](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/srjr27)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2009, 8:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/5 "2009-03-23T20:45:27Z")
Maybe, but I think if she has not returned my calls just showing up would be a pretty aggressive move. I just want to open the lines of communication up first, with a bit of a scent that will get her thoughts about me going again. ---
**Author:** ![d23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/d23/32/1465_2.png) [@d23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/d23)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/6 "2009-03-23T21:43:24Z")
dont take this the wrong way but if she aint answering your calls maybe she dont want to be with you? no amount of mones can change that ---
**Author:** ![srjr27](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@srjr27](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/srjr27)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2009, 3:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/7 "2009-03-27T03:16:42Z")
It’s a bit more complicated than that. ---
**Author:** ![Omegabyte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/46a35a/32.png) [@Omegabyte](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Omegabyte)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2009, 6:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/8 "2009-03-27T06:05:45Z")
My opinion is that spraying a scent that she has never associated with you will not have the desired effect. If you ever wore cologne around her before, maybe a spritz of that would do. What we want when we user pheromones is for our targets to associate the feelings they get from exposure with us. I believe this happens on a subconcious level, enabling the target to (most of the time) associate the effect with us, even if we are in a group of people. The other side of this coin is that she is your Ex, so spraying a [pheromone product](https://a314.com/shop/) on the card is not going to make her more of your Ex. The worst that can happen is that she continues to be your Ex, right? ---
**Author:** ![srjr27](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@srjr27](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/srjr27)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2009, 12:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/another-newbie-question/27325/9 "2009-03-28T00:27:18Z")
I’m a newbie with all this pheromone stuff omega, but your comments make sense. She wouldn’t associate the [pheromones](https://a314.com/) with me if I never wore them around her before. Good point. Thanks.