# Apologies in advance... **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [April 11, 2009, 3:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944 "2009-04-11T15:20:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![catlord17](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f9ae1b/32.png) [@catlord17](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/catlord17)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 3:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/1 "2009-04-11T15:20:01Z")
Hey everybody. I’d like to apologize to all of you in advance, unless I have already upset or offended someone. I’m dealing with the end of a LTR and an ex who’s turning stalker on me. Everytime I think I am getting stable again emotionally, she finds some way to show up again. It’s making me have a slightly distorted sense of what’s going on, as always happens with me while I am recovering, and that makes for some off the wall, inappropriate, strange and otherwise abnormal perceptions, behaviors and responses on my part. So if I have stepped on anyone’s toes, offended anyone, been inappropriate in any way… please accept my apologies. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 3:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/2 "2009-04-11T15:30:57Z")
does this mean we can’t line up and take turns punching you in the face or kicking your family jewels? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 3:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/3 "2009-04-11T15:59:26Z")
Don’t worry about it, Catlord. We’ve all been there in the past. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/4 "2009-04-11T16:10:28Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > Don’t worry about it, Catlord. We’ve **all** been there in the past. 🙂 I haven’t. Maybe I’m doing something wrong, then. But take care, man. You seem pretty well composed on here from what I’ve seen so far! ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 4:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/5 "2009-04-11T16:15:31Z")
> [@LeafStamp](#): > > I haven’t. Maybe I’m doing something wrong, then. You’ve never been in an emotionally precarious phase of your life, and worried that maybe you’ve allowed that to spill over into how you treat people? That’s certainly a rarity. ---
**Author:** ![LeafStamp](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/leafstamp/32/376_2.png) [@LeafStamp](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LeafStamp)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 4:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/6 "2009-04-11T16:21:07Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > You’ve never been in an emotionally precarious phase of your life, and worried that maybe you’ve allowed that to spill over into how you treat people? > > That’s certainly a rarity. I’ve never been in love before. I am, I think, falling in love now though. I’ve had my heart ripped out and hurt and pain and eugh. But never really had a persistent malicious ex. I’ve been victim of malice - but not from someone I was emotionally involved with. I guess that middle section of the Venn diagram hasn’t filled out yet. (PM me if you want to continue) Anyway, this is Catlord’s thread and I think we’re derailing it 😛 SO BACK ON TOPIC! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![catlord17](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f9ae1b/32.png) [@catlord17](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/catlord17)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 5:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/7 "2009-04-11T17:02:56Z")
Persistent malicious, no. Persistent refuses-to-accept-no… refuses to follow my wishes in leaving me alone… refuses to stop trying to contact me, ask me for another chance (as if 12 wasn’t enough), and generally get it that I wasn’t kidding when I said that I would leave and stay gone if she showed me she wasn’t being honest and faithful. When I get emotionally involved in a woman, I tend to become very steadfast, focused and faithful. The relationship is extremely important to me, so I am very active (and pro-active) in making it work and keeping it healthy. After years of time and self and effort investment, having to be the one who rips it all up and walks away is rather devastating. This always affects me similarly to the death of a loved one, and in my emotional recovery period, I am unbalanced in my perception and responses. What people write or say may not be perceived the way it is intended, and my responses may be strange, inappropriate or even offensive. Unintentionally, of course. I’m not looking for pity. I just want to make sure I apologize for and explain any odd, inappropriate or offensive behavior on my part. I thought I had this all dealt with, which is to say I have been doing well with it… but this month she’s been busy rippng up my heart again. Can’t take no for an answer. The way things are going, I am just waiting for her to find some way to show up in person and either try to seduce me, try to offer herself as my submissive again (she’s not submissive… lol), or beg me in person to take her back. I suspect something along those lines will be happening around August of this year. By then, if she doesn’t find some way around my IM blocks, ignoing her e-mails and phone calls, and generally trying to forget her and move on with my life, I should be able to handle it without difficulty. For the moment, however, I just want to explain that I’m not necessarily myself right now. So if I should be in any way offensive, inappropriate or out of bounds… it is not intended to be. ---
**Author:** ![Hazard](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/hazard/32/1153_2.png) [@Hazard](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Hazard)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 5:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/8 "2009-04-11T17:41:40Z")
> [@catlord17](#): > > Persistent malicious, no. Persistent refuses-to-accept-no… refuses to follow my wishes in leaving me alone… refuses to stop trying to contact me, ask me for another chance (as if 12 wasn’t enough), and generally get it that I wasn’t kidding when I said that I would leave and stay gone if she showed me she wasn’t being honest and faithful. > > When I get emotionally involved in a woman, I tend to become very steadfast, focused and faithful. The relationship is extremely important to me, so I am very active (and pro-active) in making it work and keeping it healthy. > > After years of time and self and effort investment, having to be the one who rips it all up and walks away is rather devastating. This always affects me similarly to the death of a loved one, and in my emotional recovery period, I am unbalanced in my perception and responses. What people write or say may not be perceived the way it is intended, and my responses may be strange, inappropriate or even offensive. Unintentionally, of course. > > I’m not looking for pity. I just want to make sure I apologize for and explain any odd, inappropriate or offensive behavior on my part. I thought I had this all dealt with, which is to say I have been doing well with it… but this month she’s been busy rippng up my heart again. Can’t take no for an answer. > > The way things are going, I am just waiting for her to find some way to show up in person and either try to seduce me, try to offer herself as my submissive again (she’s not submissive… lol), or beg me in person to take her back. I suspect something along those lines will be happening around August of this year. By then, if she doesn’t find some way around my IM blocks, ignoing her e-mails and phone calls, and generally trying to forget her and move on with my life, I should be able to handle it without difficulty. > > For the moment, however, I just want to explain that I’m not necessarily myself right now. So if I should be in any way offensive, inappropriate or out of bounds… it is not intended to be. I’ve been in your situation man… i understand completely. I had a girl come to my job to find my car to leave a note on it. It just so happens that i left my car at my parents house the nite before and rode to work with someone else. When i got back to my parents house later that day… there was a 6 page letter with a dozen roses on my car… How she found out where my parents lived is still haunting me LOL Right now is a bit of a rough time for me also… i’m married and going through a really really rough time. I wont get all into it here but it’s definately not easy and it’s starting to eat at me from the inside out. Hang-in there man… things will get better 🙂 - they always do! ~Haz~ ---
**Author:** ![revivia](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/revivia/32/2124_2.png) [@revivia](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/revivia)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 6:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/9 "2009-04-11T18:10:55Z")
I’m sure you’ll be ok, and I doubt you offended many people, if you even did 😉. You are way better than that woman and deserve someone better. Keep on going strong and live your life to the fullest. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![xev](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xev/32/1993_2.png) [@xev](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/xev)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 8:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/10 "2009-04-11T20:01:33Z")
very sorry to hear this, catlord… ---
**Author:** ![renny](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/renny/32/2104_2.png) [@renny](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/renny)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 8:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/11 "2009-04-11T20:39:49Z")
Off the wall? Strange? Odd? Inappropriate? Occasionally offensive? On this forum? 😃 Seriously, hope things get better for ya Catlord. ---
**Author:** ![catlord17](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f9ae1b/32.png) [@catlord17](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/catlord17)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2009, 11:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/12 "2009-04-12T11:00:17Z")
“Get better” is inevitable… just gotta batten down the hatches so the ship stops taking on water, so to speak. And they’re battened down pretty well right about now. Thanks for the concern and well wishes, my friends. I have been known to make an ass of myself at times like this and not realize it until it is too late. Just taking precautions. ---
**Author:** ![xfyr](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xfyr/32/1495_2.png) [@xfyr](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/xfyr)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2009, 4:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/13 "2009-04-13T04:03:50Z")
She knows she has leverage so she exploits it. ---
**Author:** ![data4](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/data4/32/272_2.png) [@data4](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/data4)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2009, 6:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/apologies-in-advance/27944/14 "2009-04-14T06:41:42Z")
Hey Catlord. Can’t really say anything meaningful other than I’ve been there (at least the end of the relationship part), and you’re a smart enough guy to know that you generally come out better and wiser once the smoke clears. Hang in there and take care of yourself. -D4