# Approach Invitations **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [December 20, 2006, 8:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/approach-invitations/1221 "2006-12-20T08:41:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 72
**Author:** ![PheroQuirk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9e8a1a/32.png) [@PheroQuirk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroQuirk)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2007, 12:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/approach-invitations/1221/72 "2007-01-04T00:34:43Z")
core issues - class B = wealth…? > [@tacitus](#): > > Core issues can be filed under two major categories –snip > [@](#): > > surprisingly, but not surprisingly, my experience is that wealthy people (as in, wealthy enough to avoid any uncomfortable confrontations with the hard outer world in all of its warped glory) are particularly susceptible to these states of personal unreality… and the richer they get, the more unreal they get.. the more they have to be treated like indulged children who may never hear a discouraging word… I wonder what can one do to help friends/acquaintances who are kind of stuck in this trip (I meant to write trap but perhaps trip is better) and long to escape but don’t know how. it seems to be particularly acute with children whose parents came into money quite late (say when the kids were teenagers) and didn’t have enough time to properly appreciate the implications of wealth and how to adapt one’s life to it. unless somebody is perceptive enough to realise luxury has become a prison it is hard to explain it to them. > [@](#): > > B. Economic… who’s picking up the tab for this party ? 😕 You may be drenched in colognes and pheromones and dressed to the nines, and as long as you’re in a generous, besotted mood… well… hey… party on and waiter, another bottle of that delicious Louis Roederer Cristal, yeah the 1995 bottling… prettyy puleeeeze… I liked this bit - agree it’s important, but how does that relate to what is missing from ‘raw’ P.U. routines? > [@](#): > > It’s not always like that… there could be a long term question hovering in the background… a constant testing whether a committment is in the works or if this is purely a transient thing… lots of women hit the age of 26… seems to be the magic number… **and the baby clock starts ticking** … I liked this advice with regard to how to operate if prosperous and on the dating scene (hope nobody takes offence at the phrasing or the compliance aspects. But I think compliance is just one of those click-whirr things Cialdini talks about). I don’t like the use of the word wealth below to describe mild prosperity - the truly wealthy are in a whole different kind of game, I suppose. [Full Contact Dating » How Having Money Affects Attraction](http://www.fullcontactdating.com/how-having-money-affects-attraction/) Value, Attainability, and Compliance generate Attraction. This is called VAC. VAC is beautiful in its non-linearity. While there’s some common indicators of value, like non-verbals and conversational skills, where our deepest value comes from is different in all of us. Being passionate about something in your life is good for value, regardless of what it is. Which brings us to attainability: First, there are lots of women who are very nice, very cool, solid girls who could care less about wealth, and if you make them laugh, you’ll be in good shape. But what about the ones that do care? Let me give you some quick tips. FOR THE WEALTHY MEN, REGARDLESS OF AGE: The most common mistakes among wealthy men who aren’t successful with women is that they try to flaunt or show off their wealth. The second most common mistake is spending too much money on women without demanding lots of compliance in return. Trying to impress a woman will murder attraction. What you should do is get your affairs into order, and spend money on YOURSELF, not on women. Understate your success - use “verbalizations of lower value”, be modest, and understate your success. This will make you appear even more confident and successful. Do not flaunt it, and if a woman starts to see you as out of her league, use heavy doses of verbal attainability, like qualification: One of the best you can use is “down to earth” - “I meet a lot of girls with their heads in the clouds, but you don’t have time for that. You’re so down to earth and relaxed, I feel really comfortable around you.” Then, put ‘em to work! Here’s one of my personal favorites, from my own little bag of tricks. Take out a bill, hand it to a girl, and say, “I’ve got to go greet this cat over here real fast, can you pick me up a vodka tonic from the bar? You can get yourself something too if you want.” Most women, if they like you and you have not been flaunting your wealth, will go buy drinks for both of you and then give your cash back to you! It’s a pride thing. So work them a lot. If you’re high value, and they know they have a shot at you, it’s up to you to work them so that they can feel like they deserve you. --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/approach-invitations/1221)._