# Are Phermones what I need? If so what? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 1, 2008, 11:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-phermones-what-i-need-if-so-what/16726 "2008-08-01T23:17:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Random\_Bob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Random\_Bob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Random_Bob)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2008, 11:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-phermones-what-i-need-if-so-what/16726/1 "2008-08-01T23:17:54Z")
I’m male 18 and a senior in my high school. Throughout my middle and high school career I have fostered an aura of respect, in some cases even fear towards my mental prowess despite its mealy higher then average nature. Sadly this foreboding character I paint myself as has lead to a degree of ostichization that until recently has not concerned me. That is to say people rarely bother me for small talk, chatting, hanging out or other forms of casual socialization and I want to change that. I admit it is partly because I talk in a very formal manner most of the time out of habit, but also because of my perceived character. Would a pheromone concoction be what I could utilize in conjunction with a more casual friendly behavior pattern be useful in establishing relationships with my peers (particularly with one of the opposite sex). Or have I misunderstood the potential potency of [pheromone products](https://a314.com/shop/).😕 ---
**Author:** ![ProtoJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7feea3/32.png) [@ProtoJay](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ProtoJay)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2008, 5:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-phermones-what-i-need-if-so-what/16726/2 "2008-08-02T17:26:11Z")
There are never any guruantees with anything and its important to realise and understand how they actually work before you try them so researching and reading up on this message board is a good idea. Generally speaking, the people who have the best success with pheromones are already quite socially adept to start with, when they did not use pheromones. Its generally agreed that pheromones do not actually do all the work for you, make girls fly at you, stalk you, or whatever claims popular pheromone producers may have made. They can have striking effects, in my opinion, once you know how to use them and recognise theyre potential. You also say that you talk in a formal manner often, so perhaps what you should also consider working on is your general social skills and making yourself come across friendly. You can be soaked in friendly [social pheromones](https://a314.com/product-category/social-pheromones/) but if you stand there with a look on your face suggesting you want to kill the next person who approaches you may have problems. Its certainly a good idea to try pheromones, but I would hardly say they are needed in order to make people talk to you. Another thing I notice is your use of language, which, if you talk down to people in a way that makes them look intellectually inferior, that may also make them not too interested in being around you. There is a need to relax and be casual and relaxed at times, which I have found helps whether or not you use pheromones. Although, in these cases the self-effects of certain pheromones can be useful as they can relax you… ---
**Author:** ![tye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d6d6ee/32.png) [@tye](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tye)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2008, 7:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-phermones-what-i-need-if-so-what/16726/3 "2008-08-02T19:29:35Z")
try instant openness with instant honesty. you might also consider spaceland which is a very strong rendering of instant openness ---
**Author:** ![Daedelus76](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Daedelus76](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Daedelus76)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2008, 9:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-phermones-what-i-need-if-so-what/16726/4 "2008-08-02T21:38:04Z")
> [@Random\_Bob](#): > > I’m male 18 and a senior in my high school. Throughout my middle and high school career I have fostered an aura of respect, in some cases even fear towards my mental prowess despite its mealy higher then average nature. How you think about yourself wil affect how you act, how other people see you. Cultivate some humility, empathy, those kinds of things. Having said that, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) or Instant Honesty might be helpful for you.