# Are pheromones only for SEXUAL attraction? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 22, 2008, 8:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971 "2008-05-22T08:32:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Gaby26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Gaby26](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gaby26)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 8:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/1 "2008-05-22T08:32:59Z")
Hi, I’m new in here, I have been reading some threads, and some articles, but I dont’s seem to find some responses for my “doubts”…😕 I have read that [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) attract people who will want to have sex with you.. So for a person that is looking for a serious relationship and is quite “sexually reserved” pheromones will only do harm?— I’ll explain…I’m a really tall and quite attractive woman, so I am usually a person that gets a lot of attention, (one problem is that most of men just stare at me, but dont get the guts to approach me, unless I smile or something but that doesn’t happen very often since I’m EXTREMELY shy). I also think that I do have some pheromone self producing going on, -too much actually-, I meet man (the ones that do step up) but most of this are guys who make very obvious (or even clear) that their first intention is to sleep with me… But I am reserved (and I have always been a little insecure about my body so that is also a reason for me to avoid having sex with someone who is not attached emotionally to me-I’m a romantic, 😛 ), I want to first meet a guy, date for a while, and then have sex… I have a problem to make this guys “stay around” since I don’t sleep with them that quickly… Is there a pheromone that can enhance their attraction and interest but maybe lower their sexual drive for them to stay around longer? I dont want them to loose their sexual attraction for me, I just want them to look me in a more romantic way. I want to know if there’s a pheromone or a mix that will make a man say “WOW, what a girl, I would love to have her as a girlfriend”… I know pheros will not get me ALL men, and will not make anyone fall in love with me in a minute, but I really need some help to “neutralize” my own pheros to get guys that will be more compatible with what I’m looking for (and maybe attract some other hehehe 😛 ). Then it comes my second question.. Let’s say, I use pheros, I meet a guy, and we start a relationship…This is cheating on his “free will to choose a girl” right?.. What guaranty me that he will still like me (or stay attracted to me) if I stop using pheros? Well, I think I’ll stop here and wait for answers, then I can keep on with questions according to your answers… THANK YOU!!! ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 9:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/2 "2008-05-22T09:00:24Z")
Hi Gaby Most pheromones you see on the net are sold for sexual attraction. Sex sells and their looking to make a buck. Not here at Androtics though. pheromones sold here can cause all sorts of reactions, they can calm, attract, uplift, open up, increase confidence, increase respect and of course arouse… the list go’s on but the one thing they cant do is take away a persons free will. Take Instant Shine for example, its attractive but not sexually. Its uplifting youthful warm charismatic and when worn people feel great around you. Its that feeling of joy and warmth that attracts them to you. Or take [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) which is a mix that ups communication more, It also brings comfort, intimacy a feeling of closeness. All emotions that can lead to a sexual response but are not always sexual in nature. Mones can have self effects as well, depending on the mix they can give you a feeling of confidence and make you open up more and feel comfortable. Mones influence they enhance but they do not change. Men are going to still want sex its human nature. That dosnt mean its all they want though sometimes they just need a little pheromonal nudge to delve deeper into there wants and needs. As you read the forum and get to know the people you will see there are alot of men who while they are still interested in sex want the same things you do they just go about it a different way. Thats one of the great things about the forum. We get a perspective from both sides. Here is a thread that may help a little so you know what pheromones can do. I am not sure if you read it yet. > [@What pheromones can and can't do: realistic expectations for newcomers](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-pheromones-can-do-and-what-they-cant-updated/9558): > > A lot of people come in to the forum and read all the wonderful stories about peoples experiences with [pheromone products](https://a314.com/shop/). New people end up trying them out with high expectations and usually as they get to know the product those expectations are met to some extent and sometimes not because there expectations were to high But I think its best for people to have a realistic view on what exactly they can and can not do. I get a lot of PM’s from people asking me why "they couldn’t get there cheati… Tisha ---
**Author:** ![tmoz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7ab992/32.png) [@tmoz](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tmoz)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 4:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/3 "2008-05-22T16:46:29Z")
> [@Gaby26](#): > > Let’s say, I use pheros, I meet a guy, and we start a relationship…This is cheating on his “free will to choose a girl” right?.. What guaranty me that he will still like me (or stay attracted to me) if I stop using pheros? It depends on what kind of relationship you’re after. Like everything else you do for ‘lady maintenance’, phero’s do nothing but enhance and dignify qualities already within the yourself. So it’s like asking, ‘what guarantee is there that a guy will like me even after I take off my lipstick or foundation?’. If you find the one, chances are he’ll stay in the relationship because he loves and appreciates you as a person, not the superficial things that help ‘bring up his stick’ a little easier. I know it’s not easy to find a woman or _especially_ men of substance from the packs and packs of superficial beings these days, but it’s all the more reason to appreciate him or her even more when you finally do. edit: I am not familiar with all the women products, or else I would have sent you a PM to help better guide you. I recommend sending Tisha a private message, as she’ll steer you in the right direction towards what kind of specific results you’re shooting for. There’s also a FAQs sticky for women at the very top of this sub-forum, so browse around a little and have a little fun, as I’m sure you’ll find some of these products(yes, non-sexual : P) offered by Androtics will help you create, and establish connections that you’ll value for a lifetime. ---
**Author:** ![Gaby26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Gaby26](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gaby26)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 5:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/4 "2008-05-22T17:27:28Z")
Thanks 🙂 Do you recommend me to buy the sample size so I can see how it works for me? I’m thinking of buying Instant shine, [instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) and don’t know between instant honesty or instant openess, since I readed that tha IH can make some people act really honest and I dont know if I can always take the whole truth HAHAHA!!! ---
**Author:** ![lifeissweet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/97f17d/32.png) [@lifeissweet](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lifeissweet)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 5:34pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/5 "2008-05-22T17:34:23Z")
> [@Gaby26](#): > > Thanks 🙂 Do you recommend me to buy the sample size so I can see how it works for me? I’m thinking of buying Instant shine, instant sexiness and don’t know between instant honesty or instant openess, since I readed that tha Instant Honesty can make some people act really honest and I dont know if I can always take the whole truth HAHAHA!!! Yes it is a great idea to start out with the sample sizes. 🙂 This is the only way to find out what works for you and what does not. Have fun!! ---
**Author:** ![tmoz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7ab992/32.png) [@tmoz](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tmoz)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 5:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/6 "2008-05-22T17:36:09Z")
Always a safe bet to try out to-go bottles of a product so you get a feel for how each product works. I personally recommend Instant Honesty over [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), as it helps raise the _quality_ of a conversation and also adds depth and a feeling of comfort. Instant Openness just gives people the green light to continually talk ..and talk 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Gaby26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Gaby26](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gaby26)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 8:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/7 "2008-05-22T20:03:57Z")
thanks again 🙂 I’ll do that, I am just waiting for my gift certificate muahahaha 😛 ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2008, 10:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/8 "2008-05-22T22:18:08Z")
hi will u keep in touch after u figure out which pheros are suited for u? i kinda have the similar problem and i feel like just buying [instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) or anything like that wouldnt help that much.. thanx 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 1:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/9 "2008-05-23T01:48:29Z")
> [@Gaby26](#): > > thanks again 🙂 I’ll do that, I am just waiting for my gift certificate muahahaha 😛 Gaby your GC went out already, look in your spam box at the email address you signed up to the forum with in case it went there. Let me know if you have any trouble 😉 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![tmoz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7ab992/32.png) [@tmoz](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tmoz)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 2:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/10 "2008-05-23T02:32:34Z")
Tsk tsk.. gotta say Tisha, not liking the new avatar. You could always switch back to the other cowgirl (_or_ just give me your reps _whistles_) ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 3:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/11 "2008-05-23T03:36:07Z")
Gaby, Tisha pretty much hit the nail on the head as usual. Even guys who are looking for a long term relationship also want sex. There are a couple good books out there about what men and women are generally looking for in a solid relationship. For guys two of the tops needs (from a woman) are sex and respect. Romantic love falls a little further down the line. Now with that in mind - a lot of the initial pull of pheromones is sex - “sex sells” right? - but if you delve into the forums a little more deeply you will find a couple things: First, a lot of long term users of pheromones have discovered that a LOT of the power of these products lies outside the “sex” realm. A lot of the “social products” like Instant Openness, Instant Honesty, Instant shine or work products like A314 can help grease if not open doors you want to get through in the social and work realms. Second, the [social pheromones](https://a314.com/product-category/social-pheromones/) also go a long way in the romance realm even by themselves. It may seem a more roundabout route, but it often has a least as high a percentage rate as using the “sexual phermones” whether you are in a LTR of some sort or not. The ladies here will certainly tell you that as will several of the guys. Some great mixes (by SteveO and a couple others) for creating attraction do not contain ANY sexual pheromones and some long term users have even posted that they have gotten away from using sexual phermones and instead rely on mixes of social phermones and good ole social skills to get where they want to go. And finally - these products do NOT take away anyones free will. The best they do is enhance who you are or how you project yourself. ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 9:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/12 "2008-05-23T09:18:48Z")
Yes most of the guys who have the balls to approach attractive woman are also comfortable about sex…but as others have said this doesn’t mean thats all they want. Of course there are plenty of guys with low self-esteem that will want you just because your sexually attractive.They get validation from this…poor buggers The key is to distinguish the difference…easier said than done! Id suggest you learn how to flirt and send subtle cues to the guys that your attracted to… though unfortunately most guys can be very timid about approaching girls especially the cute ones. … instant honesty is great for creating intimacy and coaxing a guy to reveal his true intentions. Instant openness can cause guys to approach you though it will speed up their motor mouth lol Guys love happy girls just as much as you love happy guys!.They will enjoy your company…So instant shine might be good. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 3:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/13 "2008-05-23T15:28:14Z")
> [@flaming](#): > > Id suggest you learn how to flirt and send subtle cues to the guys that your attracted to… The other thing to remember is the theory of MPB - male pattern blindness - which states that most guys do not pick up on the subtle flirting and clues a lot of women give. This should not be too hard to research. Basically a lot of women think they are giving strong but subtle signals to a guy that they are interested in but a lot of guys do not pick up on them or as stated below - may be too “gun shy” to cold approach. > [@flaming](#): > > though unfortunately most guys can be very timid about approaching girls especially the cute ones. Flaming - are you talking about cute guys or cute girls, or both? lol. ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 3:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/14 "2008-05-23T15:49:26Z")
Yes i know about MPB…but in the end “only the brave deserve the fair” Boss i was talking about the timidity guys experience approaching “cute” girls…and how even if a woman uses such a method it doesnt mean a guy will necessarily respond. Cute guys on the other hand especially a lot of the younger early twenties ones very often go through life never approaching girls…they just respond to female desire…So if a girl wants such a guy they make a play for him.I spent my twenties in this fashion not caring much about picking up but still getting with lots of girls lol Later (in my late twenties), i went for the girls i wanted instead of going with the flow… and instead of exploiting sexual opportunities i chose girls on their merits. This really come back to me last year when i was single.I had a friend who id go meet woman with (an extremely attractive young guy in his mid twenties), Early on in our adventures he confided that he never ever approached girls! This come up when i was egging him on to approach a girl but he was paralyzed he just couldnt do it lol …and this guy is very rarely without female company Models, cheerleaders whatever he had em. ---
**Author:** ![Gaby26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Gaby26](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gaby26)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 6:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/15 "2008-05-23T18:31:20Z")
Tisha, I’ve checked the mail and the spam carpet but I didn’t recieved it ☹ — Yeah, it’s a shame some guys just don’t feel comfortable approaching woman (even worst when a woman don’t approach guys… like me :() I guess I’ll be using ALL pheros to feel more confident jajajaja For me it’s really hard to flirt and approach, I know (in theory) all the flirt signals, and sometimes, even if I’m attracted to a guy, I stop myself from giving them away (yeah, I know I have a lot of issues! I was a very fat/ugly adolescent and was rejected so many times I am just really scarred now, even knowing I turned out to be an attractive woman… Kind of the ugly duckling story) so going back to the phero talk, I need something that boost my confidence and give the impression that I’m a keeper (yep.. maybe I don’t need pheros as much as I need theraphy!!! LOL) ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 7:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/16 "2008-05-23T19:49:35Z")
Hang on a few minutes I will look it up and PM the number to you. Tish ---
**Author:** ![Gaby26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Gaby26](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gaby26)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 8:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/17 "2008-05-23T20:11:28Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Hang on a few minutes I will look it up and PM the number to you. > > Tish Thanks! now… Off shopping!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 8:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/18 "2008-05-23T20:25:04Z")
> [@flaming](#): > > Yes i know about MPB…but in the end “only the brave deserve the fair”. Flaming - the MPB was more for for Gaby … YOU seem to have things under control judging from the cute friend in your avatar. So I guess you are pretty brave then huh … lol? Actually it is amazing how many people do have that fear of approaching and speaking to members of the opposite sex. > [@flaming](#): > > Boss i was talking about the timidity guys experience approaching “cute” girls… That was more of a joke given it wasn’t clear who the “cute ones” were but you are right - a lot of guys are afraid to speak to attractive women even when they women are very friendly. > [@flaming](#): > > This really come back to me last year when i was single.I had a friend who id go meet woman with (an extremely attractive young guy in his mid twenties), Early on in our adventures he confided that he never ever approached girls! This come up when i was egging him on to approach a girl but he was paralyzed he just couldnt do it lol …and this guy is very rarely without female company Models, cheerleaders whatever he had em. Sometimes you run into those surprises. The one person you would think would be comfortable or an expert doing something … and they are scared to death. I have a friend who is GREAT at their job which requires a lot of one on one expertise, but outside of that professional setting they can have a hard time dealing with people or thinking/speaking extemporaneously. ---
**Author:** ![Gaby26](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Gaby26](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gaby26)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2008, 8:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/19 "2008-05-23T20:54:46Z")
Ok, I have a problem in the check out section… In the main page it says we have 3 shipping options, I ofcourse want the cheapest one (9.99)since I’m kind of low in savings lately, but in the check out it is charging me $29.99 for shipping and there are not other shipping options :S I have sent an email but I’m afraid no one will answer me today… Anyone knows if I’m doing anything wrong? ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2008, 1:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971/20 "2008-05-24T01:25:28Z")
The front page has to be changed by the web designer still, They only offer DHL now because they had problems with USPS and Fedex last year that cost them alot of customers and money. I know its steeper then the others but you will get your products guaranteed with DHL. There is a FAQ in the knowledge base that can explain it better > **[Social Success Pheromone - Alpha A314](https://a314.com/)** > > A314 cologne is a powerful blend of 17 pheromones that enhance your confidence and gives you amazing social experiences you will never forget I wish I can tell you they had cheeper options but I cant. Tisha [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/are-pheromones-only-for-sexual-attraction/12971.md?page=2)