# Asking the women: my wife rarely wants to make love any more, which pheros for me? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 11, 2009, 1:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/asking-the-women-my-wife-rarely-wants-to-make-love-any-more-which-pheros-for-me/27934 "2009-04-11T01:07:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![JLove42009](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8dc957/32.png) [@JLove42009](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/JLove42009)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2009, 1:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/asking-the-women-my-wife-rarely-wants-to-make-love-any-more-which-pheros-for-me/27934/1 "2009-04-11T01:07:39Z")
Please do not be offended that a male has intruded on your side of the forum, but I thought the best answers I might get would actually come from the gender I am trying to affect… I am 30, and my wife is 43. We’ve been married for four years now. We have a great friendship…we talk about everything: Books, TV, law, religion, politics. We play chess together. But somewhere along the way she’s forgotten how to be my lover. She hardly ever wants to make love. Her hormones are normal (they’ve been checked by her gynecologist). So I stumbled across pheros and decided to give them a try. Currently I have Instant Shine, [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) 2x, Ammo and Turn Up The Heat. I’ve tried various combinations still with no noticeable results. Ok, so here’s the questions: 1. What would be the best one or combination to inspire a spark and interest in some physical love? 2. At age 43, what would be a dose that would most likely reach her (i.e., one, two, three sprays, etc)? 3. What would happen if she wore some of these products…I know they’re listed for men on the site, so how would they affect her if she sprayed them on herself? The reason I’m asking the women is because you know what works with you, and you might be better equipped to give me advice on affecting someone of the same sex. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![ElectraComplex](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/electracomplex/32/1257_2.png) [@ElectraComplex](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ElectraComplex)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2009, 1:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/asking-the-women-my-wife-rarely-wants-to-make-love-any-more-which-pheros-for-me/27934/2 "2009-04-14T13:38:27Z")
Welcome to the womens side of the wall. 🙂 No offense taken 🙂 We all frequently cross boundaries the only rule ( i know of ) is to not engage in serious gender wars or other nasty behavior. I’m still learning about phero’s so I may not be of any help there. However, I do have some ideas. if she likes tea traditional medicinals has some female support teas,also theres’ a company online called chado tea (google 🙂 I HIGHLY recommend the RAJINI. Its a blend of lavender and rose in an indian blacktea base and it always makes me feel cuddly and smurfy.Black cohosh tabs may help or damania tea.(Aphrodisiac.) The rajini smells so nice even if it doesnt help the rawr end of things it would make a sweet gift for her. Even if she decides to use it as potpurri instead 🙂 Its a fairly LIGHT steep tea. And is good with cream and sugar or honey. Btw, have you talked to her about your feelings on this issue? Sometimes we simply don’t feel so sexy as we get older. my mom is in her forties and thats one of her biggest grrs.She doesn’t feel sexy because she feels old..Which i think is silly of her.But i understand. ---
**Author:** ![txironhead](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/txironhead/32/595_2.png) [@txironhead](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/txironhead)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2009, 4:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/asking-the-women-my-wife-rarely-wants-to-make-love-any-more-which-pheros-for-me/27934/3 "2009-04-14T16:45:42Z")
A guy getting an answer for a question posted in the women’s forum from another guy…oh well. Older women seem to be attracted to higher levels of -none. A lot of guys here report that when they OD on -none (Ammo, TUTH) older women seem attracted to them while younger women either ghost them or get irritable. So maybe you’re not using enough for her to “register”. [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) is buffered a little better than TUTH, so try more sprays of that. If you are communicating well, just not on THAT topic, try _just_ the Shine and Honesty and try to get her to tell you why she thinks the situation is the way it is. Quite possibly she doesn’t know, but it never hurts to ask, as long as it’s in an understanding manner. Also (I’m working on this myself), try dating her. I know it sounds weird, but couples get complacent. Tell her you’ll “pick her up” Friday night and to wear something sexy, then take her to a nice restaurant, etc. Seduce her all over again. Sometimes that is all it takes, to let her know that she’s still “hot smokin’ babe #1” to you and you’re willing to do it all over again.