# Attraction Help Needed **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [November 16, 2008, 9:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/attraction-help-needed/22953 "2008-11-16T21:36:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![MikeBradly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3ab097/32.png) [@MikeBradly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MikeBradly)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2008, 9:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/attraction-help-needed/22953/1 "2008-11-16T21:36:49Z")
So there’s this girl I really like, connect with well in College, and I can easily make her laugh. I don’t know if it’s anything more than just friendship as she is really pretty and out of my league. I’ve been wearing instant gentleman and instant openness when were together which has enhanced the conversation, but I’d really like to make it more than conversation what Phero’s will help with attraction towards me or should I just continue being good friends with the girl? ---
**Author:** ![dmacfour](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/5e9695/32.png) [@dmacfour](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dmacfour)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2008, 9:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/attraction-help-needed/22953/2 "2008-11-16T21:44:59Z")
> [@MikeBradly](#): > > So there’s this girl I really like, connect with well in College, and I can easily make her laugh. I don’t know if it’s anything more than just friendship as she is really pretty and **out of my league**. I’ve been wearing instant gentleman and instant openness when were together which has enhanced the conversation, but I’d really like to make it more than conversation what Phero’s will help with attraction towards me or should I just continue being good friends with the girl? I can’t tell you what Pheros to use, but I can tell you something about self fulfilling prophecies. Have you ever noticed that when people think they are going to screw up, or fail at something chances are that they will? Well same thing happens when you are trying to get a girl. Saying she is out of your league can create a self fulfilling prophecy, automatically lowering your chances of success. Try to positively encourage yourself toward success. ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2008, 9:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/attraction-help-needed/22953/3 "2008-11-16T21:58:25Z")
> [@dmacfour](#): > > I can’t tell you what Pheros to use, but I can tell you something about self fulfilling prophecies. Have you ever noticed that when people think they are going to screw up, or fail at something chances are that they will? Well same thing happens when you are trying to get a girl. Saying she is out of your league can create a self fulfilling prophecy, automatically lowering your chances of success. Try to positively encourage yourself toward success. Bang, dmac hit the nail on the head. Man, she is not out of your league, if anything, you are out of hers! Tell yourself that ten times a day and your brain will reprogram itself to the point that you perceive this to be the truth! Positive self talk, coupled with the right pheros and I virtually guarantee that you will have her eating out of your hand. Either that or the really hot one that you haven’t even considered talking to will give you her phone number. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2008, 4:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/attraction-help-needed/22953/4 "2008-11-17T04:32:05Z")
Mike - she is only out of your league if you let her be … Now we both know that pheros do not create attraction, they only highlight what is already there. So you know what to do from here. You gotta test the waters. If the attraction is there, you will find out. If not - as long as you are not crass or over-play your hand in sorting things out, she will stay your friend. The ball is really in your court. Make a good play. ---
**Author:** ![WildFlower](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wildflower/32/1260_2.png) [@WildFlower](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/WildFlower)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2008, 4:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/attraction-help-needed/22953/5 "2008-11-17T16:57:33Z")
[Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) or turn up the heat are the ones you want. Some say Turn up the heat = arousal, ammo = attraction. I only really wear turn up the heat buffered so can’t comment on how it behaves on its own but it seems that it does a great job for me creating attraction with socials used to tame it. I’m not a girl but so find it hard to understand why they may not be attracted to someone who makes you aroused. Off course a girl may not act upon her arousal in social settings but your planting the seed right?