# Been thinking about this but not sure how to explian this **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 6, 2009, 5:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/been-thinking-about-this-but-not-sure-how-to-explian-this/28700 "2009-05-06T05:51:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![silentscope](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/silentscope/32/2218_2.png) [@silentscope](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/silentscope)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 5:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/been-thinking-about-this-but-not-sure-how-to-explian-this/28700/1 "2009-05-06T05:51:33Z")
I known this girl for a while and she seem to be interested in me. Giving me a lot of IOI and Asking simple question like **"Where are you going?)** Something I asked her one time I saw her went badly I put her on the spot and embarrassed myself I feel. I stayed away from the place where she works for two months. When I went back to see her again she was cool with it and not the worry aboyt it. I was wearing 1 spray of [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) and Openness. We had a little chat for a bit and she asked me if things went differently how would you go about it? I feel the question she asked me had more behind it. What is it? Sorry if this doesn’t quite make sense. One more thing the question that I put in bold letters what does that mean for an IOI? I forgot. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 9:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/been-thinking-about-this-but-not-sure-how-to-explian-this/28700/2 "2009-05-06T09:47:37Z")
She is giving you the opportunity to rectify the embarrassing situation and put it behind both of you. Perhaps she senses you are still embarrassed by it. Asking random questions can be a IOI in certain situations. **Where are you going** can just be curiousity or it can be her trying to form a connection. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![reishi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/reishi/32/411_2.png) [@reishi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/reishi)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 12:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/been-thinking-about-this-but-not-sure-how-to-explian-this/28700/3 "2009-05-06T12:24:35Z")
It all depends on your inflection, as well. If I ask someone " where are you going" with no inflection at the end then it sounds accusatory. However, if I say “Where are you going” with a slight inflection at the end then it sounds like I am sincerely interested. This is all stuff that I picked up when I was at Unintentional Asshole Camp; A weekend seminar for people who where unintentional assholes. That’s when I realized that a life time of trying to sound like Gob from Arrested Development had made it incredible difficult to tell if I was joking, trying to be sincerely interested, making demands or just scolding So now, instead of saying " What’s up" I say “What’s up”, or instead of saying " what do you mean you lost my fucking money" I say " what do you mean you lost my fucking money." Do you see how a slight change in inflection can change everything? ---
**Author:** ![SoulCreator](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/soulcreator/32/236_2.png) [@SoulCreator](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SoulCreator)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 12:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/been-thinking-about-this-but-not-sure-how-to-explian-this/28700/4 "2009-05-06T12:44:19Z")
> [@reishi](#): > > This is all stuff that I picked up when I was at Unintentional Asshole Camp; A weekend seminar for people who where unintentional assholes. HOLY S&%T! There’s an Unintentional Asshole Camp? I seriously need to something like that, I’m wondering if they have any events in the NYC area…