# Bit of quick flirting advice **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 9, 2012, 1:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975 "2012-10-09T13:59:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Freeflow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ac8455/32.png) [@Freeflow](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Freeflow)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2012, 1:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/1 "2012-10-09T13:59:43Z")
I had this in one of the stickies earlier but not sure if people notice them as much, I know they don’t on other sites, so hope it’s ok to put it here instead. There’s a girl I quite like at the moment and I kind of get the vibe she likes me too. I know her maybe a month now, she has given me some signs that she could be attracted. The other week when greeting me, she playfully punched me on the arm and she has before played with my hair briefly and then smiled at me when I looked at her. I get a few good vibes now and again. Could be IOI 's right? Just in terms of breaking that physical contact barrier. I’m no expert on this however. Tomorrow or asap I want to use a line that lets her know I’m interested, puts it into her mind. I saw a girl at the bus stop today that looked a bit similar to her in ways. I was thinking of maybe mentioning this to her but then adding something like “she ain’t got nothing on you though” and then smiling. I amen’t brilliant at this sort of thing, it’s just a thought that popped into my head, a way of showing interest. What do you think? ---
**Author:** ![ballzan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ballzan/32/558_2.png) [@ballzan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ballzan)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2012, 2:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/2 "2012-10-09T14:50:39Z")
> [@Freeflow](#): > > I had this in one of the stickies earlier but not sure if people notice them as much, I know they don’t on other sites, so hope it’s ok to put it here instead. > > There’s a girl I quite like at the moment and I kind of get the vibe she likes me too. I know her maybe a month now, she has given me some signs that she could be attracted. The other week when greeting me, she playfully punched me on the arm and she has before played with my hair briefly and then smiled at me when I looked at her. I get a few good vibes now and again. Could be IOI 's right? Just in terms of breaking that physical contact barrier. I’m no expert on this however. > > Tomorrow or asap I want to use a line that lets her know I’m interested, puts it into her mind. > > I saw a girl at the bus stop today that looked a bit similar to her in ways. I was thinking of maybe mentioning this to her but then adding something like “she ain’t got nothing on you though” and then smiling. > > I amen’t brilliant at this sort of thing, it’s just a thought that popped into my head, a way of showing interest. > > What do you think? For me I would do something along the lines of what you said just to see the reaction but break the contact barrier as you are saying it. For example as you are saying whatever put your arm around her and squeeze her trap softly, like you would do if you were giving a neck massage don’t let your arm linger too long so she doesn’t really have too much of a chance to push it away but don’t go way fast either. I would look at her and smile as you are saying it, make eye contact as you are breaking the barrier just don’t look like your getting off on it, lol be casual about it! ---
**Author:** ![Freeflow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ac8455/32.png) [@Freeflow](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Freeflow)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2012, 3:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/3 "2012-10-09T15:09:11Z")
> [@ballzan](#): > > For me I would do something along the lines of what you said just to see the reaction but break the contact barrier as you are saying it. For example as you are saying whatever put your arm around her and squeeze her trap softly, like you would do if you were giving a neck massage don’t let your arm linger too long so she doesn’t really have too much of a chance to push it away but don’t go way fast either. I would look at her and smile as you are saying it, make eye contact as you are breaking the barrier just don’t look like your getting off on it, lol be casual about it! Thanks, what do you mean with the word “trap”? Never heard that term before. ---
**Author:** ![ballzan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ballzan/32/558_2.png) [@ballzan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ballzan)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2012, 3:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/4 "2012-10-09T15:10:34Z")
> [@Freeflow](#): > > Thanks, what do you mean with the word “trap”. Never heard that term before. Lol sorry the muscle on the neck the trapezius muscle. Google it and you will know exactly what I am talking about. The typical neck massage point and you would usually use 2 hands from behind the person but it works equally as well for a quick association which is the over all goal here. The comment is meant to make her feel good and happy and doing the touch around the same time as this feeling over time can help associate that touch with that feeling, so say if you did this 5-6 times eventually just by walking up and doing the quick arm around the neck and squeeze could make her feel really good and happy. It’s also kind of a pressure point and can be painful so don’t squeeze hard just very lightly! ---
**Author:** ![KIMBA](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eada6e/32.png) [@KIMBA](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/KIMBA)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2012, 9:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/5 "2012-10-09T21:43:35Z")
How about this, forget about IOI’s and just ask her out? Or for her number. She is being playful, which means flirting. She is flirting with you, as a woman. So she likes you. ---
**Author:** ![ballzan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ballzan/32/558_2.png) [@ballzan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ballzan)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2012, 7:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/6 "2012-10-10T19:23:05Z")
> [@KIMBA](#): > > How about this, forget about IOI’s and just ask her out? Or for her number. > > She is being playful, which means flirting. She is flirting with you, as a woman. So she likes you. Yea I agree with this as well but it depends on the him too. Some guys can’t just ask a girl out if they don’t really know them that well so if he is that type I would say get comfortable touching and talking to her before asking her out and if you have the balls to get the number or ask her then go for it! ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 12:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/7 "2012-10-12T12:52:20Z")
> [@Freeflow](#): > > I had this in one of the stickies earlier but not sure if people notice them as much, I know they don’t on other sites, so hope it’s ok to put it here instead. > > There’s a girl I quite like at the moment and I kind of get the vibe she likes me too. I know her maybe a month now, she has given me some signs that she could be attracted. The other week when greeting me, she playfully punched me on the arm and she has before played with my hair briefly and then smiled at me when I looked at her. I get a few good vibes now and again. Could be IOI 's right? Just in terms of breaking that physical contact barrier. I’m no expert on this however. > > Tomorrow or asap I want to use a line that lets her know I’m interested, puts it into her mind. > > I saw a girl at the bus stop today that looked a bit similar to her in ways. I was thinking of maybe mentioning this to her but then adding something like “she ain’t got nothing on you though” and then smiling. > > I amen’t brilliant at this sort of thing, it’s just a thought that popped into my head, a way of showing interest. > > What do you think? Grab your balls and check. If they’re still there congratulations, take charge of your life and go ask her to get coffee (or whatever is popular around there that is non-threatening), give her your phone and tell her to put her number in there and tell her you will give her a call once you check your plans for the (week/weekend) to see when you’re free. When you tell her you’re going to call her, call her, don’t play games. During the date (don’t call it that, don’t act like it is, just enjoy the company). Be relaxed, take up space, don’t cross your arms, sit back, be a little mysterious, think of her as the most unattractive girl, ask questions, be interested, LISTEN, make small jokes, don’t force things, find a common ground, take a walk. Initiate KINO (kinesthetics, the escalation of a friendly gesture in physical contact), start with the forearm, then shoulder, then waist. If she doesn’t flinch you’re good, stay around the comfort area and move on later. Find a place to look and sit, make these natural, if you’re pointing something out to her where she’s not looking then tap her on the knee, don’t linger, be COMFORTABLE with yourself, don’t look for signs on whether she likes you or not, she’s already out with you, your job isn’t to get her to go out again, your job is not to mess that up. Have fun, enjoy yourself, and good luck. ---
**Author:** ![ballzan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ballzan/32/558_2.png) [@ballzan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ballzan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 5:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/8 "2012-10-12T17:29:18Z")
> [@P51Mustang](#): > > Grab your balls and check. If they’re still there congratulations, take charge of your life and go ask her to get coffee (or whatever is popular around there that is non-threatening), give her your phone and tell her to put her number in there and tell her you will give her a call once you check your plans for the (week/weekend) to see when you’re free. When you tell her you’re going to call her, call her, don’t play games. > > During the date (don’t call it that, don’t act like it is, just enjoy the company). Be relaxed, take up space, don’t cross your arms, sit back, be a little mysterious, think of her as the most unattractive girl, ask questions, be interested, LISTEN, make small jokes, don’t force things, find a common ground, take a walk. Initiate KINO (kinesthetics, the escalation of a friendly gesture in physical contact), start with the forearm, then shoulder, then waist. If she doesn’t flinch you’re good, stay around the comfort area and move on later. Find a place to look and sit, make these natural, if you’re pointing something out to her where she’s not looking then tap her on the knee, don’t linger, be COMFORTABLE with yourself, don’t look for signs on whether she likes you or not, she’s already out with you, your job isn’t to get her to go out again, your job is not to mess that up. > > Have fun, enjoy yourself, and good luck. That is a great way to look at it and I wish I had known this on countless dates, I used to be one of those all or nothing guys and let me say don’t do that! I would either completely ignore physical contact or go all in which either can work but most of the time not smart. Do exactly what he is saying!! ---
**Author:** ![JohnM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/848f3c/32.png) [@JohnM](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/JohnM)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2012, 11:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/bit-of-quick-flirting-advice/56975/9 "2012-10-13T11:25:17Z")
> [@](#): > > Initiate KINO (kinesthetics, the escalation of a friendly gesture in physical contact), start with the forearm, then shoulder, then waist. If she doesn’t flinch you’re good, stay around the comfort area and move on later. One thing about kino: If it increases your own level of anxiety, rather do less kino than more. If a girl sees that you lead the interaction to being physical but are uncomfortable with being physical with her it’s bad. If you are physical in a way that makes yourself uncomfortable, can she trust you to stop doing something that makes herself uncomfortable?