# Cheated on my girlfriend of 8 months while out of it, how do I get her back? **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [September 27, 2010, 5:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cheated-on-my-girlfriend-of-8-months-while-out-of-it-how-do-i-get-her-back/42106 "2010-09-27T17:46:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 12
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 8:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cheated-on-my-girlfriend-of-8-months-while-out-of-it-how-do-i-get-her-back/42106/12 "2010-09-27T20:11:50Z")
> [@Please Post Some Things You Wish You Knew eariler](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/please-post-some-things-you-wish-you-knew-eariler/42011/24): > > Prob. the best advice my father ever gave me: **You don’t have to win them all**. The true sigh of a winner isn’t necessarily aggressiveness or intensity at every moment. Too much Alpha for the sake of proving (mostly TO yourself or invisible beings like the ghosts that inhabit your imagination) Alphaness is a ruinous waste of energy. Winners are VERY careful with how they budget their time and energy. About 80% of the human species are total time wasters… they drone on and on and on, mesmerized by the sound of their own voices… Winners instinctively know the power of keeping it short and sweet… Winners know that about 1% of the battles in life are worth the effort and 99% ties you down, burns through your resources, and gets you trapped in strange loops with people who drain you dry. > > _Pick your battles, pick the people you surround yourself with, pick the ideas you engage you mind with, pick the people you listen to, and pick the people you lavish time, energy, and concern on extremely carefully_… > > What might appear to be a charming, amusing, titillating character flaw in a drinking buddy might turn out to be a catastrophic misjudgment in a spouse or business partner. Never, never, ever get seriously involved with anyone who is adept at making excuses, rationalizing questionable conduct, or a little too practiced at throwing up shit storms and acting hurt or offended when you confront them on something that needs confronting. A real deal person will 101% own up to their errors and will get busy making things right… they WON’T tell you how much they MEAN to make things right, or how much they didn’t MEAN to do what they did, or how much they can’t understand “what came over them”, or how the “couldn’t help themselves”… they will immediately set to work MAKING things right and **let their actions speak for themselves**. > > People who can’t face facts or don’t think other peoples rules apply to them or run on about how they’re “only human” after ripping you off or misrepresenting their knowledge or abilities or fucking up a project that they were sure they could learn as they went (on your dime, not theirs, it will mysteriously turn out) or stamp their feet and throw tantrums… etc… only go from bad to worse to total and utter rot… > > Eliminate them as ruthlessly as you would surgically remove a potentially metastasizing cancerous tumor on the brain… > > Learn to read people as carefully as a jeweler weighs and grades a stone. > > Always remember that talk is cheap unless spoken by someone whose words consistently align with their actions. The real words are spoken with money and actions. Please read that post > [@Weighyoursins](#): > > okay man im young to and i feel ya somtimes friends are friends and they do dumb shit n get you n dumb shit…but on the relashonship things all you can do is be upfront about it with her own up to your fuckup like a man dont try to make excuses to here dont be like i didnt MEAN too sleep with her its just happened cuz of all the stuff…you have to be straight n take it like a man be like i slept with this girl i was taking pills n was high but i messed up big time…tell her you still love her and you want a chance to prove it that it meant nothing it was just a big stupid mistake the worst possible one you coulda done and your sorry and you know thats not going to fix things the only way you can fix things is to prove it to her over time ehmmm well thats the jist…and she will either say no or yes to giving you another chance…you have to realize the trust that was there before is gone and it will take a looooong time if ever to get it back most ppl caught cheating n try to work it out usually fall apart after awhile due to the no trust factor im not saying its impossible just laying it out there due to the fact she will always think your cheating on her if you go out without her ehmmm well goodluck bro n btw the chance of her cheating on you has just skyrocketed btw due to she basically has a free pass to the same fuck up now where you wont be able to say nething > > weighyoursins > all men must weigh there sins > for every man sins > just chose yours wisely > and balance those with acts of honor > J. --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cheated-on-my-girlfriend-of-8-months-while-out-of-it-how-do-i-get-her-back/42106)._