# clueless New user **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [June 30, 2010, 1:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732 "2010-06-30T13:49:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![silentfarming](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cab0a1/32.png) [@silentfarming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/silentfarming)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 1:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/1 "2010-06-30T13:49:51Z")
Age - 25 Race - Chinese Gender - Male Location - Singapore Personality - I am nice and friendly. All of my female friends or acquaintance says iโ€™m nice and everything, but I could never get the relationships anywhere beyond the friends stage. (Not alpha enough?) Why am I here? - I look pretty handsome, well educated, and slightly wealthy. But i have never got laid (no big deal k?) , i think its because I am too nice for a guy. I hope to give a bit of strength to my image with some pheros. what you hope [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) will do for you - I hope to turn up the heat with the ladies and not getting shoved around by other bossing people some questions: does androtics ship these products to singapore? and will these products be cleared at the customs? ---
**Author:** ![mackie72](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mackie72/32/623_2.png) [@mackie72](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mackie72)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 1:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/2 "2010-06-30T13:58:57Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum! I would buy Ammo rather than TUTH. Ammo is the [best pheromone](https://a314.com/shop/) for attraction. This phero will give you attraction, confidence and approachability. TUTH is for sexually charged environments like in a club or the bedroom. Ammo is more subtle while TUTH shouts out Sex now. For respect I would choose either IG or A314. A314 can be a little intimidating unless it is mixed with a social like IH. This phero is great for the work place where you need respect and trust in your relationships. IG is more versatile. You will be seen as more capable, mature but with a more cool, laid back vibe. I am sure these pheromones will get shipped to Singapore and they will get cleared at customs. I hope I have helped. Mackie ---
**Author:** ![falcos](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/falcos/32/1189_2.png) [@falcos](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/falcos)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 2:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/3 "2010-06-30T14:11:58Z")
Hey silentfarming welcome to the forum ๐Ÿ™‚ . What you need: knowledge how to work the game and attitude. So start investigating about PUA and PUA books, in this forum there is alot of info about it. Is time you start wanting. You understand me? You not getting laid is no big deal for others, BUT must start being a big deal for you. You need confidence this is why you dont get laid. And can you get confidence? Best way is getting laid so youre seeing the dilemma. It is a big deal. You need a314, for attitude and respect. You need ammo for confidence, you need IO to break that wall you built around yourself. You need Instant shine to take the stiffness of your shoulders. You need the rigth mindset, you need the right attitude. Getting laid is a big deal, but you mustn show it like it, never show yourself to interested in a girl, but work around her, make her notice that. Or else she wont ever know youre there. You need to start developing pick up skills ASAP is not to late, but you must want it. It will require effort, time, and most important that you get out of your confort zone. If you are up to it the benefits will be imesurable, because I dont belive your happy with your life. Geting to understand that people can love, care about you, and not like a friend, will bring you benefits in all areas of your life. Will give you confidence and energy to archieve what you want. So make it a big deal. Work for it. Study. Dont give up, whatever the adversitys are, improve yourself in all areas: Smell (mones), body (gym), style (clothes), knowledge (pick up strategys) and you will became something different, you will became a better person, all the stress I am sure you are accumlating for not getting laid will vanish and what will be left is a reoborn confidence in yourself. I wish you luck in your life. If you have any questions just ask. Falcos ---
**Author:** ![silentfarming](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cab0a1/32.png) [@silentfarming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/silentfarming)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 2:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/4 "2010-06-30T14:31:23Z")
Thanks to both Falcos and mackie, and to falcos,you are very right especially on the confidence and the wall part. and I will work to improve myself in all those various ways, getting out of my comfort zone. ---
**Author:** ![falcos](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/falcos/32/1189_2.png) [@falcos](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/falcos)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 2:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/5 "2010-06-30T14:41:47Z")
Search the forum and uncerstand how to use the mones, you can combine them, but before that you should use them seperatly and understand how they work. Dont expect magic for them. For them to be acctually very helpfull you will have to work on those other areas I told you about, or else is just giving a ferrari to someone who cant drive. ---
**Author:** ![MrCowbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f08c70/32.png) [@MrCowbell](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MrCowbell)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 3:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/6 "2010-06-30T15:40:33Z")
If someone lacks confidence to approach women, how do they fake it and appear confident? ---
**Author:** ![falcos](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/falcos/32/1189_2.png) [@falcos](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/falcos)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2010, 3:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/7 "2010-06-30T15:45:29Z")
They dont. Confidence is probably the only thing you cant fake. You can try but it will be shown either on your face, on your movements on your town of voice and expecially on your thinking. Dont know no one you can fake confidence well. You just need to thrust in yourself and start pushing towards the way. Whatever you need to be done you do it and dont regret it. You will have many failures many disapointments, but if you dont try you will never have a victory. Defeat should only serve has a lesson of were we did wrong and of our lack of confidence to pursute victory even further. ---
**Author:** ![falcos](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/falcos/32/1189_2.png) [@falcos](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/falcos)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 1:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/8 "2010-07-01T13:45:10Z")
If you mickaelia dosent stop by and give you the gc you should pm her, I think she overlook it last night. Although I think me writing this will pop it to the top of the thread and she will have a look at it later on ๐Ÿ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![silentfarming](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cab0a1/32.png) [@silentfarming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/silentfarming)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 3:46pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/9 "2010-07-01T15:46:35Z")
lol thanks. i ll wait for another day and pm her if i still do not get it by then. im really impressed! with how you are alert that a new user has not gotten his gc yet. hahaha ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2010, 9:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/10 "2010-07-01T21:02:41Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Silent! I agree with some of the suggestions that Falcos gave and we can only give you some advice , a bit of opinion and as he said offer you the information and products needed. You have to decide what you want and start from there. Whether you want to get laid or not, you want to wait till marriage , be a PUA is entirely up to you. Free will was not given by man so you do what you think will be best in your life. I do believe that even if your sexual life is not an active one you should learn to develop a healthy and good relationship with women in that you know as a man if you want you can take things to the next level. Confidence is key and confidence does not have to do with looking good or having money. Now, I donโ€™t believe that persons should be quick to call themselves nice guys because we all give to get something in return not that am saying you are a jerk. I am just saying you may be seen or treated as a pushover and that is the problem. The guys will guide you in the direction you wish to go. Your gc will be issued soon! ---
**Author:** ![silentfarming](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cab0a1/32.png) [@silentfarming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/silentfarming)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2010, 12:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/clueless-new-user/39732/11 "2010-07-02T00:34:59Z")
thank you mick. I always felt something was missing and you sum it up very well. its about being able to develop a relationship and knowing that i can take it to the next level. and even i think that im a pushover. but from now on, i will more proactively decide what kind of person i am. cheers.