# Cockshow syndrome - ummm, why???!!! **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 4, 2010, 8:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313 "2010-05-04T08:09:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 8:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/1 "2010-05-04T08:09:51Z")
Okay, so this afternoon I stopped at a restaurant/bar in a nearby town and had a couple beers. It was pretty dead, so I just chatted with the bartender, who was a pretty hot and nicely built fellow of mixed Hawaiian ancestry (late 20’s maybe?). Turns out we live in the same town, we talked about that and what part of town we each lived in. He also asked what I was doing later, I said just going home. Oh, and phero-wise I was wearing the remnants of an FTL sample (from a company I don’t know if I’m allowed to mention), a couple swipes of Nude (same about company) and a blast of EST, and [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) 4x in my hair sea kelp from after I showered this morning. So I leave and go home, check my email, have a couple beers, also applied a couple swipes of perfume ending in a honey cinnamon vanilla slightly incensey scent, just because I like to play with different perfumes, even when I’m by myself (bad move perhaps, though I didn’t know it then). All of a sudden someone’s out on my porch, and there is the hot bartender from earlier. I said, hey, whats up, he said he was just cruising and decided to stop by. I had felt comfortable talking with him earlier at the bar so I said come in and offered him a beer. Now, I live in a teeny tiny community where everyone knows everyone else, not like NYC or LA or somewhere where such actions would be totally unheard of. Its very different here, a totally different planet. We sat on the couch, and after not very long he started getting physical, or at least trying to. (I did NOT flirt with him or give him any sexual hints of any kind, I was cheerful and nice as I would be with anyone who stopped by). I squirmed away and made an excuse of getting another beer in the kitchen, and when I came back he was sitting on the couch with his pants scootched down and his hat over his lap 😮. I thought to myself, oh great, what the hell’s up with this? Out loud, I said with a cheery smile, hey what are you doing, pull up your pants, silly, we just met. He complied, but then after awhile, he sneaked open his zipper when I didn’t notice, and there was his weenie, peeking out again. He said I was so hot, he just couldn’t help himself, hmmmm, okay whatever. I had planned to make my first attempt at chicken cordon bleu, which he already knew from earlier conversations (he had even volunteered some advice, since he’d cooked it before), so I decided that I had best get busy with that. I invited him into the kitchen (and away from the couch!) and he started to help a bit, but then had to leave as he had another commitment (which I think was true but who knows). Though he might have left because he realized that what he wanted just wasn’t going to happen. He said he’d stop by again later or tomorrow, though I hope he doesn’t now. And the worst part is, this is NOT the first time this has happened to me. I have been in at least three other situations where a guy just had to show me his stuff (without IOI’s from me). Whats up with this? Why do guys feel so compelled to pull out their penises for my perusal? Don’t they realize all that does is to just chase girls away? Or do other girls actually like this? I don’t really know, I have never discussed this with a girl (except one gf who was around the night of one “showing” and she thought it was icky too, it had happened to her once). I would love to understand this behavior, or at least whats behind it, especially since it continues to happen to me. And the best way to deal with it, I’m not that offended, just uncomfortable. How does one deal with the cockshow syndrome without being totally mean and making enemies (who I am more than likely to encounter again around town). Uck. ---
**Author:** ![awesome\_nerd](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/awesome_nerd/32/893_2.png) [@awesome\_nerd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/awesome_nerd)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 8:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/2 "2010-05-04T08:19:48Z")
ahahaha… all i can say i wow! mm kitty, u gotta be flirting otherwise this will not happen, maybe it was because u were flirting earlier in the bar with him(since u mentioned he was hot) … and other thing is even though you were just nice, some guys take it the otherway. he probably thought u are a nice shy girl who doesnt know how to pull the trigger… and the idiot thought of pulling down his pant. will first of all, the case that you invited him into ur apartment kindda provides that kindda situation… if u dont want him to creep around u like that, i would suggest u to tell him fcuk off if u really dont want to screw him… lolz.. and oh btw, excusse my tune.. it is 4am and i been pulling alniters one after another… freakin finals, i am not even suppose to be here. but ha… ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 8:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/3 "2010-05-04T08:29:05Z")
Yes, but why that particular behavior? If he liked me, why not just hang out and get to know me a little? Maybe ask me out or something? And I did not act nor was I dressed provocatively. And in this culture and community, it is normal to be welcoming of people, here it is extremely low crime, it would be more rude for me to have just said go away.Plus, yes, I did kind of like him. But I sure didn’t expect him to show me his sausage! ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 8:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/4 "2010-05-04T08:57:54Z")
Probably thinks his red pencil is really pretty and will attract females (primal primate instinct). However, I must say I’ve dated several younger women whom practiced similar moves. I thought I was taking the high ground and hanging out with them and taking it slow, enjoying their company. They basically lifted skirt, showed to me and stroked it. Happened so many times in both my office and car I wondered what the hell. That was back in the day when I was a noob experimenting with NPA, and didn’t realize what I was getting into. Now nothing fazes me. Show me mama! ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 9:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/5 "2010-05-04T09:03:57Z")
Well, his pencil really was a pencil (even at full attention), though he obviously thought it was impressive enough to share, lol. Is it his age, are they just way uninhibited? Plus this is the first time its happened to me wearing pheros, the other times I was not. ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/6 "2010-05-04T10:02:14Z")
Well, what do you look like? LOL, I’m sure that’ll help us explain. If you’re as “hot” as he said you are that may be the reason. Doesn’t take much to get us going unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you look at it.) ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/7 "2010-05-04T10:13:51Z")
What do I look like? 5’7", not fat though I do feel I could lose a couple pounds, shoulder length light brown hair greenish eyes, fair skin, well endowed breast-wise,voluptuous,T & A, I’m nice looking (according to some), but I don’t think I’m superhot (to me anyway)…but why do they have to do THAT, lol??? It really doesn’t help their goals (of getting into ze pants), if anything, it makes any chances they might have had go to zero. It also doesn’t make me feel good at all, it is not a compliment, it makes me feel that in their view, I’m just a potential piece of ass that they don’t even want to bother to take the time to get to know. ☹ It makes me wonder if the reason he said I was hot was because it might help him get his way with me, and not because he really thought I was hot. Because, if he really thought I was hot, why not be a little more respectful and take the time to get to know me? Do I just look like a fuckbunny, dammit??!! ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/8 "2010-05-04T10:34:17Z")
Yeah, well your descriptions sound attractive. Well, my dear Silly unfortunately that’s just one of the many things us guys are designed to do. Think with our second head before first consulting with the top head, well some luckily aren’t that bad, heh. I guess some guys just rather risk going/trying out with a bang, so if they end up getting nothing in return somehow in a way that really doesn’t matter LOL. Another thing is that some guys can mistake your non-flirting with flirting. In other words you may say that you weren’t flirting but his horny state of mind probably made him think your signs were flirtatious in nature when they in fact weren’t. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Razorpowell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d78d45/32.png) [@Razorpowell](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Razorpowell)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/9 "2010-05-04T10:35:42Z")
For poops and giggles? ---
**Author:** ![minimalistic](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/minimalistic/32/1676_2.png) [@minimalistic](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/minimalistic)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/10 "2010-05-04T10:40:26Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > What do I look like? 5’7", not fat though I do feel I could lose a couple pounds, shoulder length light brown hair greenish eyes, fair skin, well endowed breast-wise,voluptuous,T & A, I’m nice looking (according to some), but I don’t think I’m superhot (to me anyway)…but why do they have to do THAT, lol??? It really doesn’t help their goals (of getting into ze pants), if anything, it makes any chances they might have had go to zero. > > It also doesn’t make me feel good at all, it is not a compliment, it makes me feel that in their view, I’m just a potential piece of ass that they don’t even want to bother to take the time to get to know. ☹ > > It makes me wonder if the reason he said I was hot was because it might help him get his way with me, and not because he really thought I was hot. Because, if he really thought I was hot, why not be a little more respectful and take the time to get to know me? Do I just look like a fuckbunny, dammit??!! These kind of actions are usually taken my men that have no knowledge of how to progress. For example: he found you hot, pursued it by coming to your house. You invited him in for the sake of being nice, he thought to himself: ‘green light’. He started getting physical with you and you didnt object. He assumed you liked it (even though you didnt reciprocate). He assumed you may have been playing hard to get or he simply wasnt sure, but he justified it in his mind so as to believe that you wanted him too. Confidence is key, so he has to tell himself its mutual. At this point he decided that pulling out his cock will make you horny as well (the typical thoughts of a guy that knows zilch) and things will automatically go where he wants them to. So generally, guys who have pulled it out in front of you have wanted you, are not sure whether you feel the same way, BUT they “get the feeling” that you do, and start revealing things that you would only see in a sexual scenario in the hopes of making it one. If you wanna stop this next time, you need to let him know this aint going anywhere. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/11 "2010-05-04T10:45:22Z")
I just thought of something silly…you know how TUTH used inappropriately can make a guy seem like his weenie is hanging out? Well, in this guy’s case, it really was, and he wasn’t even using any TUTH, lol! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Bjorn89](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/94ad74/32.png) [@Bjorn89](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bjorn89)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/12 "2010-05-04T10:45:53Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > Well, his pencil really was a pencil (even at full attention), though he obviously thought it was impressive enough to share, lol. Is it his age, are they just way uninhibited? > > Plus this is the first time its happened to me wearing pheros, the other times I was not. Just keep going, maybe you find a marker soon 😃😃 ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/13 "2010-05-04T10:50:31Z")
> [@Bjorn89](#): > > Just keep going, maybe you find a marker soon 😃😃 Yippeeeee!!! (NOT!) 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/14 "2010-05-04T11:02:09Z")
> [@minimalistic](#): > > These kind of actions are usually taken my men that have no knowledge of how to progress. For example: he found you hot, pursued it by coming to your house. You invited him in for the sake of being nice, he thought to himself: ‘green light’. He started getting physical with you and you didnt object. He assumed you liked it (even though you didnt reciprocate). He assumed you may have been playing hard to get or he simply wasnt sure, but he justified it in his mind so as to believe that you wanted him too. Confidence is key, so he has to tell himself its mutual. At this point he decided that pulling out his cock will make you horny as well (the typical thoughts of a guy that knows zilch) and things will automatically go where he wants them to. > So generally, guys who have pulled it out in front of you have wanted you, are not sure whether you feel the same way, BUT they “get the feeling” that you do, and start revealing things that you would only see in a sexual scenario in the hopes of making it one. If you wanna stop this next time, you need to let him know this aint going anywhere. That does make sense…though I still feel such displays are a bit extreme…and I did let him know it wasn’t going anywhere, he just kept hoping to change my mind. ---
**Author:** ![minimalistic](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/minimalistic/32/1676_2.png) [@minimalistic](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/minimalistic)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/15 "2010-05-04T11:17:51Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > That does make sense…though I still feel such displays are a bit extreme…normal friendliness and even mild flirtation should not cause that behavior…should it?..and I did let him know it wasn’t going anywhere, he just kept hoping to change my mind. Nothing short of you saying “lets go at it now” should cause that behaviour. As miko pointed out, many guys think with their second head. His thoughts at that point: “desperate time call for desperate measures. What do i have to lose?” ---
**Author:** ![Bjorn89](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/94ad74/32.png) [@Bjorn89](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bjorn89)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:24am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/16 "2010-05-04T11:24:55Z")
> [@Sillykitty](#): > > Yippeeeee!!! (NOT!) 😛 You have passed the test ;-)! ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/17 "2010-05-04T11:25:41Z")
> [@minimalistic](#): > > Nothing short of you saying “lets go at it now” should cause that behaviour. As miko pointed out, many guys think with their second head. His thoughts at that point: “desperate time call for desperate measures. What do i have to lose?” True…but he hadn’t even been here 10 minutes, or so it seemed, before he did that, didn’t even “pretend” to court me. I can possibly see “desperate” after reasonable attempts, but he didn’t even make those. He was quite physically attractive, and charming (at the bar anyway 🙄) why would he even have to feel desperate? Unless he really is desperate, because he acts like that with girls and chases them all away, because he doesn’t know how to act. Poor guy. ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/18 "2010-05-04T11:27:27Z")
> [@minimalistic](#): > > “desperate time call for desperate measures. What do i have to lose?” Ha, ha exactly. He’d rather go out with a “bang” with nothing to gain but blue balls than be patient and honestly nice and probably have a nice date with Ms. Sillykitty! _Sigh._ Yes, us men do let the little guy get the best of us at times, some are just better at showing it who’s boss. 🙄 ---
**Author:** ![Olfact\_Amorous](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/olfact_amorous/32/434_2.png) [@Olfact\_Amorous](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Olfact_Amorous)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/19 "2010-05-04T11:30:49Z")
That must the most shoddy and crude attempt at escalation of a scenario. I couldn’t imagine what would possess a dude to do that in terms of it being actually viable (which obviously is way beyond not). Without really seeing or knowing anything in this situation you must be either quite irresistibly delectable to the senses or you just happen to run into men that are simply deplorably daft to the 10th power or perhaps both. Mikoto is right though it doesn’t take much to get us going. I’m quite reserved when it comes to sexual prowess or banter but even I fall victim to a women’s charms which I try extremely hard to show I’m not phased as a result. Perhaps you should gauge the situation in different ways in order to uncover why this is a reoccurring scenario. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313/20 "2010-05-04T11:49:43Z")
Maybe I’m just lucky (or unlucky)? Or maybe they just feel really comfortable with me? Though the scenarios are all quite different. The first time was when I was 17 and had a summer job at the police station, used to hang around with the cops a little, cruise with them on their rounds and such. One evening I innocently went riding with a cop who was doing the beach rounds, he had to stop to pee. He got back in the car, with his pants not zipped, and began dabbing it with a tissue (wiping I guess) right in front of me. He didn’t "try anything at all, but I never accompanied him on his rounds after that. Another time was during a more wild era, hanging out with some gay guy friends, we had returned back to someone’s place after clubbing, and were relocating to someone else’s house (in fact I think the sun was just coming up, an all-nighter) One (who I thought was gay, and supposedly is) rode with me, and once alone in the car with me, whipped it out and kept asking me if I thought it was nice. Though we were all a little ripped. And he didn’t pursue it once we got to our destination. I think. Though he might have been a bit flirty with me, come to think of it. [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/cockshow-syndrome-ummm-why/38313.md?page=2)