For long term, using the limited knowledge I have for your situation, I would then further campaign for IH, EST, and probably mystery boy.
I believe mystery boy’s main ingredient is TAA, which is whats in shine, so you shouldnt have to worry about the light hearted, happy vibe, since this takes care of it. Also, Androtics really knows what theyre doing, and this is theyre sole, gay specific pheromone product. Then again, they do have p93, but it is still in testing. It might have good results for you too, but generally new users are adviced to stick with whats tried and true and in the consumer phase.
I’ll reassert the fact that instant honesty is good for trust and intimacy, which is key in long term relationships. Also, I’m sure you’ll want to find a way to throw in some EST.
Also, most of the products Adrotics carries is sprayed, not dropped. The exception would be a314, but the other oil based, dropper style ones are some of the testing ones. As for finding the amount to use, steve has an excellent thread on “finding your sweet spot.” You can find that here. Its hard to say how many sprays to use, since its different for everyone and each product has a different amount of active pheromones. But steves thread should help you out there.
Almost all of the products are scented, and its inadvisable to buy it any other way. Pheromones can have a slight smell(perceptible by some people) so its best to cover that up. However, the fragrances are light and not overpowering, and many people spray on quite a few different kinds of pheromones at one time without having any “overpowering cologne” issues.
And I’m glad that you want your own attributes to fuel a lot of what you’ll get going for you. A lot of people buy pheromones expecting “magic love potions” and thats just setting them up for disappointment. Pheromones work, but they wont do ALL the work. Many people say 10% mones, 90% you, but then again, others swear that these products give you more than a 10% advantage. I’m convinced that you’ll be satisfied, but its great that you have reasonable expectations. That way, these products should at least meet, and MAYBE exceed, what you plan to get out of them.