# Confidence and focus - self-effects and projected **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 21, 2011, 4:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985 "2011-04-21T16:08:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 4:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/1 "2011-04-21T16:08:05Z")
This is what I really want. I tried IS and [Ammo](https://a314.com/product/ammo/) and got free samples of IO and IJ… after reading a bit about IG and A314 and P102 today, I decided that the thing I really want is to feel confident and project an image of confidence and trustworthiness-- kind of the alpha male without the jerk part of it. I also want my wife to want to bang me every day and am thinking this might be an effect I can get from IG or A314. Not sure what to do as far as focus and concentration goes, though. I’m a struggling programmer trying to learn and remember concepts; the frustration of this causes me to feel less than confident at times and often stressed, which is why I started this little experimentation phase with IS. Thanks for any feedback! ---
**Author:** ![PheroJack](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherojack/32/527_2.png) [@PheroJack](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroJack)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 4:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/2 "2011-04-21T16:15:26Z")
Self-effects of products won’t work on every single person. Not saying this is your case, but mones will most likely work more on others than yourself. Sadly, [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) aren’t going to help you build your confidence. They will just bring out what’s there. Self-confidence is within yourself. No chemical or anything will change that. You have to be comfortable with yourself and your environment. Try even some hypnotherapy affirmations. It’s about telling yourself something that you aren’t, so much that your mind and subconscious will eventually start believing it. You will be amazed on how powerful such technique is. Anymore inquiries, don’t hesitate to ask away! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 4:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/3 "2011-04-21T16:33:30Z")
It’s hard to know a person by what he says, but I have tons of self-confidence. I don’t care what ANYONE thinks about me ANYWHERE. This comes from years of meditation and just growing up and growing out of my old ridiculous youthful thinking and realizing what matters. What I have trouble with, however, is having confidence in something when I know damn well that it’s something I struggle with day-in and day-out, such as programming. It’s hard for me to exude the cockiness of other potential employees when going on job interviews, for example. I know too much about the complexity of my situation to just be like “Yeah, I can do anything!” and that’s a good thing because lying will only get you into trouble. However, I’d like to be able speak honestly without caring so much that it hurts my presentation. I get it right about half the time and I know public speaking is an art because I’m actually good at it. I was a musician and I grew up giving talks. I’m looking for a confidence kick, basically, so that when I feel like things are stressful --which leads to lack of focus-- that I feel confident and focused to rise to the challenge rather than feeling frazzled, which causes a lot of effort to be exerted and wasted in simply trying to get the mental power to do what needs to be done. ---
**Author:** ![PheroJack](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherojack/32/527_2.png) [@PheroJack](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroJack)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 7:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/4 "2011-04-21T19:41:54Z")
> [@woahfee](#): > > It’s hard to know a person by what he says, but I have tons of self-confidence. I don’t care what ANYONE thinks about me ANYWHERE. This comes from years of meditation and just growing up and growing out of my old ridiculous youthful thinking and realizing what matters. > > What I have trouble with, however, is having confidence in something when I know damn well that it’s something I struggle with day-in and day-out, such as programming. It’s hard for me to exude the cockiness of other potential employees when going on job interviews, for example. I know too much about the complexity of my situation to just be like “Yeah, I can do anything!” and that’s a good thing because lying will only get you into trouble. However, I’d like to be able speak honestly without caring so much that it hurts my presentation. I get it right about half the time and I know public speaking is an art because I’m actually good at it. I was a musician and I grew up giving talks. I’m looking for a confidence kick, basically, so that when I feel like things are stressful --which leads to lack of focus-- that I feel confident and focused to rise to the challenge rather than feeling frazzled, which causes a lot of effort to be exerted and wasted in simply trying to get the mental power to do what needs to be done. I would personally say Ammo and/or A314 will help you that. don’t forget also to include some IS. You won’t be disappointed 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 9:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/5 "2011-04-21T21:18:58Z")
> [@PheroJack](#): > > I would personally say Ammo and/or A314 will help you that. don’t forget also to include some IS. You won’t be disappointed 🙂 Well, as I’ve determined IS makes me foggy-headed and unable to focus, that is out of the question. ---
**Author:** ![PheroJack](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherojack/32/527_2.png) [@PheroJack](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroJack)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 9:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/6 "2011-04-21T21:20:22Z")
> [@woahfee](#): > > Well, as I’ve determined IS makes me foggy-headed and unable to focus, that is out of the question. Give it a couple more tries though. Sometimes it takes several exposure to actually feel the positive self-effects. ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 10:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/7 "2011-04-21T22:19:39Z")
> [@PheroJack](#): > > Give it a couple more tries though. Sometimes it takes several exposure to actually feel the positive self-effects. 3 weeks is enough time, especially when I remember what I was like just prior to the experiment and today, the first day not using IS. IS definitely makes me foggy-headed and I guess it’s a happy, comfortable feeling. I really didn’t care that all this work was piling up around me. I guess I know what it’s like to be a ditz now. Happy, but stupid. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PheroJack](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherojack/32/527_2.png) [@PheroJack](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroJack)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2011, 11:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/8 "2011-04-21T23:40:56Z")
> [@woahfee](#): > > 3 weeks is enough time, especially when I remember what I was like just prior to the experiment and today, the first day not using IS. IS definitely makes me foggy-headed and I guess it’s a happy, comfortable feeling. I really didn’t care that all this work was piling up around me. I guess I know what it’s like to be a ditz now. Happy, but stupid. 🙂 TAK, which is out of stock ☹, could help you with what you exactly want. For the time being, several putative have been reported to enhance focus and concentration. Search away 🙂 ! ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 12:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/9 "2011-04-22T00:54:26Z")
> [@PheroJack](#): > > TAK, which is out of stock ☹, could help you with what you exactly want. > > For the time being, several putative have been reported to enhance focus and concentration. Search away 🙂 ! Thanks! I saw someone somewhere else saying something similar about TAK. I guess that stuff needs to come back in stock. You know what sucks? The IS made me foggy-headed, but this Ammo is even worse. I must be really sensitive. I just sprayed one wrist and then rubbed my wrists together. Then, I did it once more. So that’s only 2 sprays total. Well, almost instantly, my head got that foggy feeling but actually I have a little headache and… the clincher: my wrists feel hot and itchy! I guess I might be allergic to something that is in both IS and Ammo? I thought they were different. IS isn’t -stone, right? ---
**Author:** ![bisso30](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bcef8e/32.png) [@bisso30](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bisso30)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 1:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/10 "2011-04-22T01:32:56Z")
> [@woahfee](#): > > What I have trouble with, however, is having confidence in something when I know damn well that it’s something I struggle with day-in and day-out, such as programming. It’s hard for me to exude the cockiness of other potential employees when going on job interviews, for example. I know too much about the complexity of my situation to just be like “Yeah, I can do anything!” and that’s a good thing because lying will only get you into trouble. However, **I’d like to be able speak honestly without caring so much that it hurts my presentation**. I get it right about half the time and I know public speaking is an art because I’m actually good at it. I was a musician and I grew up giving talks. I’m looking for a confidence kick, basically, so that when I feel like things are stressful --which leads to lack of focus-- that I feel confident and focused to rise to the challenge rather than feeling frazzled, which causes a lot of effort to be exerted and wasted in simply trying to get the mental power to do what needs to be done. I know what you feel, because I’ve been at times in similar situations many times, especially during speeches/presentations. I’m in the field of Architecture, and architects are experts at speaking/presenting things they are not sure about lol. I’m not convinced pheromones can make “not care”… because in my mind, that’s the key: “not caring so much”. A314, IG they will help you project a more alpha image so to speak (provided you’re congruent with it), but the self effects will probably not be profound enough to solve your problem…which is easily solvable on its own IMO. Or do what we do: pretend you’re amazing at it, and make up convincing answers on the fly when asked a question. 😃 > [@woahfee](#): > > **It’s hard to know a person by what he says, but I have tons of self-confidence. I don’t care what ANYONE thinks about me ANYWHERE**. By the way, you’re an asshole. 😉 \*\*\*\* ([compartmentalize - WordReference.com Dictionary of English](http://www.wordreference.com/definition/compartmentalize))\*\* ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/11 "2011-04-22T01:34:35Z")
> [@bisso30](#): > > By the way, you’re an asshole. 😉 I blame it on the [Instant Jerk](https://a314.com/product/instant-jerk/). ---
**Author:** ![Septerra](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/septerra/32/196_2.png) [@Septerra](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Septerra)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 1:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/12 "2011-04-22T01:56:39Z")
> [@bisso30](#): > > I’m in the field of Architecture, and architects are experts at speaking/presenting things they are not sure about lol. > \*\*\*\* ([compartmentalize - WordReference.com Dictionary of English](http://www.wordreference.com/definition/compartmentalize))\*\* I used to be an architect student…and this statement has SO much validity to it haha. I completely relate…even as an environmental design student. We, as proponents of our own designs (that on many occasions are BS) need to be able to come up with answers for every piece of criticism thrown at us. One presentation on a commercial plaza I designed, I decided to throw out my script and tell a story about a guy named Fred who visited my plaza and it went from him hearing about it, to spending hours there. This story lasted 15 minutes lmao… The developer ATE it up, and loved the presentation and poster, while my Teacher HATED it because I did not follow my script for which he was going to write comments about (he made us give it to him before we presented as a preventative measure to make sure he looked good in the eyes of the developers while he provided feedback that was most likely rehearsed according to our scripts haha). ---
**Author:** ![Pat83](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/71e660/32.png) [@Pat83](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Pat83)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 2:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/13 "2011-04-22T02:55:03Z")
> [@PheroJack](#): > > Self-effects of products won’t work on every single person. Not saying this is your case, but mones will most likely work more on others than yourself. Sadly, pheromones aren’t going to help you build your confidence. They will just bring out what’s there. Self-confidence is within yourself. No chemical or anything will change that. You have to be comfortable with yourself and your environment. **Try even some hypnotherapy affirmations**. It’s about telling yourself something that you aren’t, so much that your mind and subconscious will eventually start believing it. You will be amazed on how powerful such technique is. > > Anymore inquiries, don’t hesitate to ask away! 🙂 Are you making a joke about hypnotherapy? ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 3:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/14 "2011-04-22T03:32:08Z")
Guys… I don’t know what else to say to you except this: I’m thirty-fucking-seven. I am not some kid. I was a young, open-minded, very liberal kid once, too. I still am. I have tried everything. I mean everything. Studied everything. I mean everything. I don’t need any suggestions about anything life-related other than what I’m asking about on this forum, which is pheromones. Okay? Thanks. 🙂 EDIT: also, I have no major problems. It may sound that way because I’m specifically addressing issues, but trust me this is the kind of shit most people just never talk about. I talk about it because I’m shooting for perfection, not because I’m suffering from depression or OCD or poor self image or bad marriage. I have watched a lot of my friends crash and burn psychologically and it has always surprised me… to the point where I’m actually confused and have found myself thinking “is life really that hard? Am I gonna ‘lose it’ one day? I don’t get it…” So, yeah, I’m fine. I’m a little too self-aware and introspective for my own good, perhaps, but so was Emanuel Swedenborg and many other genii. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 10:07am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/15 "2011-04-22T10:07:13Z")
> [@PheroJack](#): > > I would personally say Ammo and/or A314 will help you that. don’t forget also to include some IS. You won’t be disappointed 🙂 Ammo makes it easier to play hard to get with women as I find it easy to come across as i don’t give a fuck what happens. My mind is tuned to sensory input with it on so I usually pay little attention to women, although I do respond to them and their questions. I also find it is only a sexual product for 20 something men. men in their 40’s will not benefit much from such low none products. If you happen to have a high sex drive even if you’re older then ammo may help, otherwise its good for bingo and church parties as gegogi would say. A314 is the powerhouse. I come across as confident and focused. Sometimes high on pride. I always use it with IS. Its best for work, business, increasing social status etc it will not get you laid, unless you naturally are a stud, alpha, rich, or have a big dick. For getting laid no mones will help you if you lack, the body, sexual ability, good looks, potency, and good skin, good hygene, a nice car, and sexual skills. Not to mention spare cash for buying women things or dating. If you have all the above then mones MAY help take you to your destination quicker. After using mones for 10 years I’d say they help only people with game. Those with game get better results, those without get frustrated and no results. Its like the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer. Mones will not help you if you don’t help yourself. Sorry guys. Ads about how mones will work magic are garbage. Don’t buy its such advertising. Just look at lovescent and you’ll see the number of newbies complaining about how they can’t get laid and they try using mones all the time. Those newbies have no game. No self esteem. How do you develop game? The PUA books are garbage. I find the best methods are to be skilled in areas you have interest, and be proud of your interest. For me its guitar playing, for others it may be programming. Also a gym membership beats mones anyday. It costs just as much as will keep you healthy, looking good, and potent, not to mention increasing your mone output. Mones only enhance. Nothing more. Not a replacement for the AFC (Average frustrated chump). dsouza ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 11:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/16 "2011-04-22T11:55:46Z")
Dsouza, it would be so funny to me if your first name was Duncan. ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 11:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/17 "2011-04-22T11:58:38Z")
Oooo, and that signature wasn’t directed at you, dsouza. I just updated my signature last night because I was getting a lot of personal advice that seemed really funny to me and was trying to avoid getting more of that from people half my age with much less life experience. ---
**Author:** ![dsouza](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dsouza/32/840_2.png) [@dsouza](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dsouza)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 12:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/18 "2011-04-22T12:09:16Z")
> [@woahfee](#): > > Dsouza, it would be so funny to me if your first name was Duncan. You’re asking how to be a leader of the pack in your occupation and taken seriously amongst peers. Like I said in my message develop skills. It’s about skills building in a situation like that. Some A314 and IS may help taken together. Best of Luck Dsouza ---
**Author:** ![woahfee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/35a633/32.png) [@woahfee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/woahfee)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2011, 1:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-and-focus-self-effects-and-projected/49985/19 "2011-04-22T13:00:31Z")
> [@dsouza](#): > > You’re asking how to be a leader of the pack in your occupation and taken seriously amongst peers. Like I said in my message develop skills. It’s about skills building in a situation like that. Some A314 and IS may help taken together. > > Best of Luck > Dsouza Yeah, thanks. Not like I don’t know that already (the part about developing skills, I mean)… I just thought it would be funny if your name was Duncan because I have a special history with a guy with your first initial and last name. 🙂