# Confidence in addition.. **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 29, 2008, 6:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-in-addition/22215 "2008-10-29T18:06:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![MRWOLF96](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/848f3c/32.png) [@MRWOLF96](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MRWOLF96)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2008, 6:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-in-addition/22215/1 "2008-10-29T18:06:11Z")
This makes me think of a few things that I do during almost every interaction I have with “possible” women. I guess my approach is from the back side of this spectrum. No pun intended… For the most part, i really cheat when it comes to making a determination about how much intrest a lady may have in me. I usually go through this process with every woman in a bar atmosphere. !. Im pretty sure the the approach and introduction will have to come from my end. I spend a few minutes warming her up before I jump in with both feet. I am a constant bar looker(bartender, job hazzard. I see most girls before they enter the bar.) What I dont tell the guys that I am standing with, is that for the last 15 minutes that they have been talking about that cute blondie, I have been looking in her direction. I have already made light eye contact with her twice and held it on the third time for about 3 seconds. I flash a smile to her, she mirrors me. Hooked! never said a word. I now excuse my self from the guys, while explaining that I will be right back with her for them to meet. Look what happens now… man makes an obvios b-line for a group of girlfriends. Before I am half way there, they have all looked in my direction because blondie and already said that she was looking at a guy and then said. “Here comes THAT GUY”. Any other situation would have been, “here comes SOME GUY” I would rather be THAT GUY. Know what I mean? 2. I always just say what comes to my mind. I never really think of the words. I just try to relax and speak naturaly and confidently. no lines for me. But lightly funny is a must. I never introduce myself to her first. She is always the intro that I want to end on. The one that I am stuck with at the end of the social interaction. Look. Her friends now have spoke to you, and by this point like you because you did not walk up to the group and zero in on the obviously hotter one. And the connection is still there with only her. Then I say, Your friends are very nice, and If they dont mind, I would like to introduce you to one of mine. I ask the question to the blondie and look to her friends for the answer. They always say yes. I look to the blondie, smile, and say, Here, follow me. I assume the close. I just turn slowly and walk away. 5 steps later I glance over my sholder. There she is! ready for me to show off to the guys. The best part is.. If she doen not work out for ya. Her friends are there and are thinking that it was a bud of yours that wanted to meet her. Time to rejoin the group of ladies. They know that she will be fine over there. Rince and repeat. Love this shit man!!! [![](https://pheromonetalk.com/mens-pheromone-advice-tricks-tips/images/statusicon/user_offline.gif) ](https://pheromonetalk.com/mens-pheromone-advice-tricks-tips/images/statusicon/user_offline.gif) ---
**Author:** ![river](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/river/32/934_2.png) [@river](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/river)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2008, 2:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/confidence-in-addition/22215/2 "2008-10-30T14:53:33Z")
LOL! For some reason, while I was reading your post and all the non-verbal communication you’ve got going on (which is awesome, BTW), a memory of The Horse Whisperer suddenly flashed thru my brain, especially the part where you said you “assume the close”. Weird, I know, but natural horsemanship is all about non-verbal communication and “assuming” the response. It’s funny how it all boils down to the natural process of dominance and submission, whether you’re human or equine 🆒