# Congruence? What's That?

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**Category:** Pheromone Theory & Molecules\
**Created:** [March 8, 2008, 7:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/congruence-whats-that/9805 "2008-03-08T19:54:40Z")\
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**Post date:** [March 8, 2008, 7:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/congruence-whats-that/9805/1 "2008-03-08T19:54:40Z")

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What is congruency? We talk about this alot but do we really do a good job of explaining it to a newbie? Do we really understand what goes into congruency ourselves? I looked up an array of definitions to find one that matched my idea of congruent/congruous/congruence. There is the purely mathematical “congruent figures have the exact same size and shape”. Then there is the more legalizish “Congruence is the degree of match between two codes”. My favorite is “Agreement of character (parameter)”.

Before I lay out my thoughts, let me invite anyone who wishes to pick this apart, add their opinions, or otherwise improve it. I know that’s what a forum is all about but what I am hoping for here is that we can somehow distill this subject down into some quick advisory points for newcomers that go beyond our normal advice of “be congruent with your signature and you’ll get better results.”

I see several areas (or characters/parameters) that should have a degree of agreement. The closer they are in agreement the better [pheromones](https://a314.com/) work.

1.)Persona: this is the person wearing the pheromones, physical appearance, personality, tone of voice, bearing, manners, wardrobe, style the whole works. The more of ones self that can be brought into agreement with the person’s “ideal” of him/herself the better. The pheromones worn should then match the persona as a whole. I think this is what we mean most of the time when we say “be congruent”.

2.)Target: This is the person or group the pheromone wearer wants to interact with. Both the persona and the pheromones worn have to take into account the traits of the target.

3.)Task: The interaction itself needs to match the target, the persona, and the pheromones.

4.)Environment: Consider the difference of a big gregarious guy wearing 5 sprays of ammo to a smoky packed nightclub and the same guy wearing 5 sprays of ammo in a small car with his girlfriend on a warm afternoon. This is probably more a matter of amount than type.

5.) The pheromones themselves. They need to work together and work with the other 4 parameters.

This is where I’m at in thinking about this. Help me out. Does this cover the parameters? Can it be simplified? You younger guys GQ, Nbully ect how do we put this across in a way that applies and appeals to a college freshman 🆒 . Deep thinkers, come on sigma, visionary pull this apart put it back together 😕 . Communicators Madison Tate, Mark-in-Dallas gimme some words that bring this home 😃 . Men of experience and wisdom Gegogi, Bosshank, Gone with the Wind, weigh in with sagacity 😉 . Ladies, Bella, Tisha, Kitten what’s your take, how does it apply to the fairer sex 🙂 .

I put out some names not to leave anyone out but for the sake of example and challenge. The challenge applies to everybody who reads this. Think on this subject for a day or a week and put your insight up here. It’s a big subject.

Let’s put some meat on this bone we toss around. It will help us and it will help those we are welcoming daily to this world.

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