# Coworker turns down my dates but gets jealous when I flirt with others: what now? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 22, 2010, 5:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792 "2010-10-22T05:56:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 5:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/1 "2010-10-22T05:56:26Z")
Alrighty. There is a girl from work whom I thought has liked me for a very long time now, but every time I ask her out she either gets quiet and pretends not to have heard or refuses my invitation. Well, the other day I was really into these girls that came in wearing hunters gear. I took each by the hand and introduced myself, even cracked a joke about the triple D’s (their names all began with the letter D.) I flirted around with them. Well, it wasn’t much later that the girl from work began trying to get my attention and started slandering the other girls over their choice of outfit. She did something to make it so I would hold her hand for a little bit and went out of her way to keep my attention. Really, if she’s going to be trying to have my attention only on her, she’d better give me a reason to give her all my attention. I feel like she’s just trying to play me. Yes, she’s a ten. No, I won’t go out of my way and place her on a pedestal. ---
**Author:** ![Jabez](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jabez/32/2193_2.png) [@Jabez](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jabez)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 6:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/2 "2010-10-22T06:03:52Z")
Just lay it all out on the table and say here." I feel this way about you and I think you do too". If she doesn’t shit happens. 6.6billion people on this planet pretty sure losing one girl will not end your life man. But just be straight forward and tell her you are not going to put up with any bullshit. Remember you are the prize and she is the one who needs/ wants you lol ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 6:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/3 "2010-10-22T06:15:03Z")
she doesn’t like attention when she gets it and hates it when she doesn’t get it ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 6:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/4 "2010-10-22T06:18:13Z")
> [@P51Mustang](#): > > she doesn’t like attention when she gets it and hates it when she doesn’t get it 😮 sounds like a nutball. NEXT!!! ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 9:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/5 "2010-10-22T09:55:12Z")
I think her seeking your attention is more about her and how she feels about herself then about how she feels about you. She has already told you she is not interested in going out. She may be a 10 in your eyes but that doesnt mean she is a 10 in her own. She may need attention to boost the way she see’s herself and when you gave attention to those other girls it was a blow to her self esteem. Your giving her attention makes her feel good about herself. Keep on flirting with other girls when they come in. When she starts looking for attention dont give it to her. If you do your playing right into her illusion. You gave her a chance, if she wants you she will have to work for it now. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 12:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/6 "2010-10-22T12:59:45Z")
Tish is pretty spot on with this. Basically the girl wants you to be an orbiter. By asking her out you’ve conveyed your interest, and while she may not be interested in you, she does like you being interested in her. Your attention and interest is her validation. She may not have any intention of escalating anything, but when you show attention to other women and especially if they reciprocate and flirt back she gets resentful because and no offense but her attitude “He’s MY puppy, get somebody else to follow you around”. Again, not saying that you’re actually being an orbiter or puppy but she wants your interest and attention to continue. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 5:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/7 "2010-10-22T17:41:24Z")
> [@P51Mustang](#): > > she doesn’t like attention when she gets it and hates it when she doesn’t get it That’s exactly it. I know that’s how it works, but I still get so confused about it. It’s sending mixed signals. 🙄 > [@tisha23](#): > > Keep on flirting with other girls when they come in. When she starts looking for attention dont give it to her. If you do your playing right into her illusion. You gave her a chance, if she wants you she will have to work for it now. Good, sound advice. Thanks Tisha. I do still think it has a little tinge of jealousy sprinkled in there, which does mean it has a little to do with how she feels about me. Not that it matters much. Thanks! > [@RADMAN513](#): > > She may not have any intention of escalating anything, but when you show attention to other women and especially if they reciprocate and flirt back she gets resentful because and no offense but her attitude “He’s MY puppy, get somebody else to follow you around”. Again, not saying that you’re actually being an orbiter or puppy but she wants your interest and attention to continue. After I got sick of talking with her and just started ignoring her last night… She asked me why I stopped being so talkative and she stated that it was pissing her off. Seriously… I’m not a vending machine that just keeps putting out attention. She has to give something back or I’ll stop giving at all. Yeah, I’m definitely NOT her puppy and it bothers her. 🙄 She can have all the attention she wants from me, for her and her alone, if she were to be my girl or at least give in and be a friend outside work. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 5:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/8 "2010-10-22T17:43:56Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Keep on flirting with other girls when they come in. When she starts looking for attention dont give it to her. If you do your playing right into her illusion. You gave her a chance, if she wants you she will have to work for it now. Good, sound advice. Thanks Tisha. I do still think it has a little tinge of jealousy sprinkled in there, which does mean it has a little to do with how she feels about me. Not that it matters much. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 5:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/9 "2010-10-22T17:50:36Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > She may not have any intention of escalating anything, but when you show attention to other women and especially if they reciprocate and flirt back she gets resentful because and no offense but her attitude “He’s MY puppy, get somebody else to follow you around”. Again, not saying that you’re actually being an orbiter or puppy but she wants your interest and attention to continue. After I got sick of talking with her and just started ignoring her last night… She asked me why I stopped being so talkative and she stated that it was pissing her off. Seriously… I’m not a vending machine that just keeps putting out attention. She has to give something back or I’ll stop giving at all. Yeah, I’m definitely NOT her puppy and it bothers her. 🙄 She can have all the attention she wants from me, for her and her alone, if she were to be my girl or at least give in and be a friend outside work. ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 7:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/10 "2010-10-22T19:06:22Z")
Don’t settle for anything less than a blowjob, some girls will try and placate you with a hand job…really? Unless you’re armless that’s a useless gift. ---
**Author:** ![GT1](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gt1/32/455_2.png) [@GT1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/GT1)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 7:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/11 "2010-10-22T19:36:52Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > Don’t settle for anything less than a blowjob, some girls will try and placate you with a hand job…really? Unless you’re armless that’s a useless gift. Lol best quote ever! You just made my day radman. I would add something else but tish and rad already covered all the bases so I’ll just say good luck to you. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfishgrin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/wolfishgrin/32/1082_2.png) [@Wolfishgrin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Wolfishgrin)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 8:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/12 "2010-10-22T20:11:08Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > Don’t settle for anything less than a blowjob, some girls will try and placate you with a hand job…really? Unless you’re armless that’s a useless gift. LMFAO! It’s still nice to have a cute girl getting sexual with you. Besides, handjobs usually lead into something better. At least, they have in my experience. Lol! ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 8:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/13 "2010-10-22T20:16:35Z")
ROFL Rad ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 9:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/14 "2010-10-22T21:01:39Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > Don’t settle for anything less than a blowjob, some girls will try and placate you with a hand job…really? Unless you’re armless that’s a useless gift. 😮 Whewwww Naughty Naughty Man. You need a spank. ROFL … ---
**Author:** ![TheBoogieMan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/theboogieman/32/1136_2.png) [@TheBoogieMan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheBoogieMan)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 9:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/15 "2010-10-22T21:20:49Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > Don’t settle for anything less than a blowjob, some girls will try and placate you with a hand job…really? Unless you’re armless that’s a useless gift. [http://i46.tinypic.com/2d11i6g.jpg](http://i46.tinypic.com/2d11i6g.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 9:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/16 "2010-10-22T21:27:16Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > Don’t settle for anything less than a blowjob, some girls will try and placate you with a hand job…really? Unless you’re armless that’s a useless gift. haha…not THAT’s a respectable statement. ---
**Author:** ![Olfact\_Amorous](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/olfact_amorous/32/434_2.png) [@Olfact\_Amorous](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Olfact_Amorous)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2010, 9:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/17 "2010-10-22T21:35:13Z")
Alright so what your saying is that we shouldn’t settle for less. Okay me along with my male cohorts will go on strike until women conform to exercising their mouths rather than their hands on our magic sticks according to provisions made in Article 292. HAI Radman _Bows in reverance_ 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 4:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/18 "2010-10-23T04:52:56Z")
> [@TheBoogieMan](#): > > [http://i46.tinypic.com/2d11i6g.jpg](http://i46.tinypic.com/2d11i6g.jpg) Talk about a double entendre, on the one hand she’s laughing at what I said…on the other it could be one of the afor mentioned blowjobs gone horribly wrong…for her. ---
**Author:** ![CoolKat](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/coolkat/32/501_2.png) [@CoolKat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CoolKat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 10:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/19 "2010-10-23T22:41:36Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > I think her seeking your attention is more about her and how she feels about herself then about how she feels about you. > > She has already told you she is not interested in going out. She may be a 10 in your eyes but that doesnt mean she is a 10 in her own. She may need attention to boost the way she see’s herself and when you gave attention to those other girls it was a blow to her self esteem. Your giving her attention makes her feel good about herself. > > Keep on flirting with other girls when they come in. When she starts looking for attention dont give it to her. If you do your playing right into her illusion. You gave her a chance, if she wants you she will have to work for it now. > > Tisha Nice! Listen to Tisha 😃 ---
**Author:** ![CoolKat](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/coolkat/32/501_2.png) [@CoolKat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CoolKat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 10:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792/20 "2010-10-23T22:43:00Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > Tish is pretty spot on with this. Basically the girl wants you to be an orbiter. **By asking her out you’ve conveyed your interest, and while she may not be interested in you, she does like you being interested in her.** Your attention and interest is her validation. She may not have any intention of escalating anything, but when you show attention to other women and especially if they reciprocate and flirt back she gets resentful because and no offense but her attitude “He’s MY puppy, get somebody else to follow you around”. Again, not saying that you’re actually being an orbiter or puppy but she wants your interest and attention to continue. haha. The part I bolded is so typical of so many women. Screw them! [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/coworker-turns-down-my-dates-but-gets-jealous-when-i-flirt-with-others-what-now/42792.md?page=2)