# Da Bella da Ball Journal **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Journals\ **Created:** [December 28, 2007, 8:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826 "2007-12-28T20:02:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 43
**Author:** ![Daedelus76](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Daedelus76](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Daedelus76)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2009, 8:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/848 "2009-01-04T08:51:57Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > Why does being social and interacting with people have to be just to get ahead? I wonder if you _want_ to connect with people on a social level. I mean what about getting to know someone I suppose I misspoke or I was not made clear. Interacting with people is not good or bad in itself. Having relationships with other people is not good and bad in itself. However, using other people for your own ends is evil, and illusory. For some reason it seems to come easily to men in particular in our culture, though I don’t doubt that women also fall into this. That is what I mean by “the game”. In the end, there really is nothing to get, absolute ownership of anything is impossible. I start from a place of detachment. I suppose that is otherworldly but that is how I often think now days. Companionship is not that important to me. Certainly I enjoy talking with people and sometimes it is helpful, but I would have no problems remaining celibate the rest of my life, it is not a problem for me. I admit that might change, but I don’t worry about it. Understanding and relating to people is not too hard. People have the same basic motivations. They don’t like being miserable or unhappy, and they want to be part of something beyond themselves; self-transcendence. Then comes the Golden Rule or reciprocity - “Regard others as yourself” and “Whatever is hurtful to you, do not cause to others”. Beyond that is wisdom, of course, which is not a rule so much as a combination of experience and awareness through the noetic faculty, “seeing deeply”. As I said, I have been thinking about what I will do in the future. I am not sure yet. I could go into psychology, I have thougth about going into a religious life of some kind. I probably could use more spiritual guidance, so I have been thinking about wheather I should formally convert to Buddhism. OTOH, I grew up as a Methodist until I was a in college, so I have gone to churches a few times although I’m not sure it really seems real to me. I owe alot to my study of Buddhism. In the end, I will probably have to move, though. I really don’t like alot of things about Orlando. I think I would enjoy living in a city or a town where I could walk more places. I dislike cars and strip malls, and all the other alienating stuff out in the suburbs. It really is not a good way to live, in an asphalt wasteland. I have also thought about getting involved in volunteer work, even if I don’t leave, that kind of thing is where I feel I should be going moreso than I am now. Now days I identify mostly with awareness of compassion, it’s what is meaningful for me. Thank you for your advice and I will keep everything you said in consideration, Bella. It is nice that you consider me a friend. I consider you a friend too. ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2009, 10:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/849 "2009-01-08T22:08:00Z")
Hay Bella Lady! What’s shakin’? How was your holiday? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![inkling](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/inkling/32/2326_2.png) [@inkling](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/inkling)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2009, 8:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/850 "2009-01-09T08:19:55Z")
Late night check in. 😃 Hellooooo bella Bella! Waves to everyone! ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2009, 2:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/851 "2009-01-22T14:44:35Z")
Hmm, the Ball Rooms been aweful quite lately. Did ya all find a new hot spot and didn’t let me in on it. Or has everyone just had other things going on and took a bit of a break, like I did? Hope all’s going well for you Bella, and everyone else too! ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2009, 2:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/852 "2009-01-23T02:26:06Z")
Bella, How was vacation? MID is right - sure is quiet around here. Better get to some dusting so it will be ready for the next round … bh ---
**Author:** ![zeph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/85e7bf/32.png) [@zeph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/zeph)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2009, 4:20am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/853 "2009-01-23T04:20:04Z")
/peek helloooooo hellooooo hellooo… where are you Bella? Hope everything is ok. ---
**Author:** ![renny](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/renny/32/2104_2.png) [@renny](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/renny)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2009, 3:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/854 "2009-01-26T03:10:06Z")
Hey Bella Boo, we got Lawyers, Guns and Money on standby if ya need 'em. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2009, 3:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/855 "2009-01-26T03:15:43Z")
I just tried calling her again and she still ain’t answering her phone. Must either be on vacation somewhere, or have one helluva an orgy going. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 9:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/856 "2009-01-27T09:15:15Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > _ **Hay Bella Lady! What’s shakin’? How was your holiday? 🙂** _ Hey ariadne! 🙂 The shakin’ has finally subsided, thanks. My hoilday was OK, except for that pesky flu I caught. I spent New Years Eve toasting with a bottle of Nyquil and my nose in a tissue. How 'bout you, kiddo? Have a hot date? A missionary, perhaps? 😛 > [@inkling](#): > > _ **Late night check in. 😃** _ > > _ **Hellooooo bella Bella! Waves to everyone!** _ Hellooooo Ink! 😃 Waves back! Blinks… Now where the hay are _you?_ 🙄 ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 9:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/857 "2009-01-27T09:18:18Z")
> [@bosshank](#): > > _ **Bella,** _ > > _ **How was vacation? MID is right - sure is quiet around here. Better get to some dusting so it will be ready for the next round …** _ Oh Hank, the Ballroom looks great! I’m surprised you could find the time to dust, I mean with all the \* cough _pouncing_ goin’ on over at your place. 😛 My vacation was great, thanks. You were right, I loved it. We had quite a time. Can’t wait to go back again. I’ll tell ya about. I’ve gotta do a report, of course. It’ll take a few days. You know me, I’ma pokey puppy. 🙄 > [@zeph](#): > > _ **peek** _ > _ **helloooooo hellooooo hellooo…** _ > _ **where are you Bella? Hope everything is ok.** _ Everythings just fine, zeph. 🙂 How’s about you? Have any good Italian meals lately? Hmm? 😃 You know if you’re ever hungry, you can always just pop in here and I’ll whip up sumthin’ special just for you. You like calamari? ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 9:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/858 "2009-01-27T09:23:53Z")
> [@renny](#): > > _ **Hey Bella Boo, we got Lawyers, Guns and Money on standby if ya need 'em.** _ 😃 _Aaaaah_, a man after my own heart. 😛 You _knoooow_ what I need…lol. 😉 I did manage _not_ to get arrested but it was touch and go there for a minute when the State Troopers pulled us over on the way to the airport. 😃 Hmm, maybe I shoulda swam with the Stingrays…🙄 At least, I didn’t end up in a Dominican prison. 😮 Don’t even know if Vito could get me outta that one. > [@mark-in-dallas](#): > > I just tried calling her again and she still ain’t answering her phone. Must either be on vacation somewhere, or have one helluva an orgy going. Oh, cowboy, you know I screen my calls…🙄. _If I had known_…keep your ears peeled…I’ma call… … an orgy…_without you?!_ Yeah, right. Heh. _That_ would be a _teaparty. 😃_ It’s good to be home, Bella ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 3:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/859 "2009-01-27T15:38:36Z")
Hey Bella, I figured you screened, but thought the 214 area code would give me away. I dumped AT&T and have a new number, so if you see 214 501-XXXX show up on caller ID, it’s me. Glad you had so much fun, and can’t wait to read your reports! ---
**Author:** ![zeph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/85e7bf/32.png) [@zeph](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/zeph)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 11:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/860 "2009-01-27T23:21:23Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > Everythings just fine, zeph. 🙂 How’s about you? Have any good Italian meals lately? Hmm? 😃 You know if you’re ever hungry, you can always just pop in here and I’ll whip up sumthin’ special just for you. You like calamari? I’m doing well. No, I haven’t had a good Italian meal in a while. Whenever I go to a nice Italian restaurant, I ALWAYS get calamari. Glad you’re back. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 11:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/861 "2009-01-27T23:49:53Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > How 'bout you, kiddo? Have a hot date? A missionary, perhaps? 😛 Bahaha! 😃 Maybe that’s next on my list! Mr. Ex-Priest has given me a new fetish: kinky uber Catholics. 😛 Seriously, like whoa, he looked like this (this guy is my type to a t): [http://i310.photobucket.com/albums/kk420/ariadne\_acosta/Image10.jpg](http://i310.photobucket.com/albums/kk420/ariadne_acosta/Image10.jpg) **sigh** ---
**Author:** ![msselva](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/msselva/32/943_2.png) [@msselva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/msselva)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2009, 5:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/862 "2009-01-28T05:28:51Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > Bahaha! 😃 > > Maybe that’s next on my list! Mr. Ex-Priest has given me a new fetish: kinky uber Catholics. 😛 > > Seriously, like whoa, he looked like this (this guy is my type to a t): > > [http://i310.photobucket.com/albums/kk420/ariadne\_acosta/Image10.jpg](http://i310.photobucket.com/albums/kk420/ariadne_acosta/Image10.jpg) > > **sigh** Creepy, I thought of same physical features every time you talked about mr.darcy! P.S: you should come over here someday. One of my proffesseurs look exactly like him (but he has some grey hair though…) Plus, he’s sweet, and a caring dude, what else could you ask for? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2009, 5:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/863 "2009-01-28T05:55:58Z")
> [@ariadne](#): > > Bahaha! 😃 > > Maybe that’s next on my list! _ **Mr. Ex-Priest has given me a new fetish: kinky uber Catholics.** _ 😛 😮 OMG! All I’ll say is be careful what you wish for. > [@ariadne](#): > > Seriously, like whoa, he looked like this _**(this guy is my type to a t)**_ He’s hot and kinda scary. Not exactly my type. Too young for one thing but I can see the attraction. 😉 > [@msselva](#): > > Creepy, I thought of same physical features every time you talked about _ **mr.darcy!** _ Ah, poor Darcy, we knew him when. > [@](#): > > P.S: you should come over here someday. One of my proffesseurs look exactly like him (but he has some grey hair though…) Plus, he’s sweet, and a caring dude, _ **what else could you ask for?** _ 😃 Somebody _closer?_ 😃 ---
**Author:** ![remmy](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/remmy/32/2451_2.png) [@remmy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/remmy)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2009, 6:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/864 "2009-01-28T06:00:02Z")
yay! bella’s back 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2009, 2:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/865 "2009-01-28T14:29:27Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > OMG! All I’ll say is be careful what you wish for. Now ain’t that the truth … lol. ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2009, 3:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/866 "2009-01-29T03:06:37Z")
> [@msselva](#): > > Creepy, I thought of same physical features every time you talked about mr.darcy! Hahaha! Well, Mr. Darcy doesn’t actually look like that, but my Mr. Ex-Priest did. ☹ > [@msselva](#): > > P.S: you should come over here someday. One of my proffesseurs look exactly like him (but he has some grey hair though…) Plus, he’s sweet, and a caring dude, what else could you ask for? 😃 Hmmm, grey is not a bad thing! Is he married??! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![ariadne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ariadne/32/770_2.png) [@ariadne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ariadne)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2009, 3:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826/867 "2009-01-29T03:10:26Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > 😮 OMG! All I’ll say is be careful what you wish for. I tend to throw too much caution to the wind… > [@Bella](#): > > He’s hot and kinda scary. Not exactly my type. Too young for one thing but I can see the attraction. 😉 Hot and kinda scary sums up my tastes quite well! One thing Mr. 23 YO is _not_ is scary. He’s really sweet, cute, and funny. I’ll post a bit more about him in a minute in my journal… as well as Darcy. 🙄 [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826.md?page=42) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/da-bella-da-ball-journal/7826.md?page=44)