# Dating advice for a 16 year old.. pour down ur wisdom! **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 2, 2010, 4:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499 "2010-08-02T04:54:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Dumbfounded](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b19c9b/32.png) [@Dumbfounded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dumbfounded)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 4:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499/1 "2010-08-02T04:54:48Z")
hey guys i haven’t posted in a while, but i would like to say that i’ve finally got the balls to ask the girl i liked on a date! and she said yes (: some info about me: i’m a korean pretty boy. i’ve got the looks, but when i’m around this girl my mind goes blank and all of the things i want to say is forgotten. fortunately she feels the same way about. she really likes me. also i’ve never dated before and i’m really looking for a LTR with her i’m going on a first date with her and can u guys please help out with some advice? i remember i posted a thread about my girl problems before and i got tons of helpful feedback. so what should i do on the first date? where should i take her? (I have a car so i can drive her around if we need to) kiss or no? most importantly.. what should i talk about with her? oh and for [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) usage, i have TUTH, IG, IS, and IH. any help is appreciated! ---
**Author:** ![Aggie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f07891/32.png) [@Aggie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Aggie)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 5:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499/2 "2010-08-02T05:14:21Z")
No, don’t kiss on the first date. 🙂 Making both of you wait for it until at least the third or fourth date will make it more special when it comes. ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 5:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499/3 "2010-08-02T05:19:45Z")
Too early for TuTH imo…and you’re 16 to boot. Honestly it sounds like you have a pretty good selection there. I figure one spray each of everything but the TuTH should do fine. IG for a mature masculine vibe. IH for a sense of connection and deep communication. And Shine for some charisma and a feel good kinda vibe. Just about perfect for a girl you really want to keep for an LTR. Don’t go anyplace expensive or fancy. Someplace quaint and unique is ideal. Ideally places YOU yourself enjoy going to. More than getting the girl, you want to get a girl that will enjoy and appreciate YOU and that means she has to see YOU so go to places you’d enjoy going with friends or even alone. If you’re enjoying where you are she’ll be more likely to enjoy being with you. Kiss? definitely but don’t spend the entire date with two feet of space between you and then go for a kiss at the end and expect it not to feel awkward. Touch her, not in an overtly sexual or romantic way …at least not at first. Put your hand on her leg when talking to emphasize a point, touch the small of her back while walking to steer her where you’re going…fucking thumb wrestle…just make physical contact feel normal, relaxed and natural. As the date progresses you can make the touching more romantic and then go for the kiss naturally as if it’s NOT your first kiss with her. As for what to talk about…jeez I’m leary of saying anything. I’ve given guys topics to discuss and questions to ask and in their nervousness they rush through it. A handfull of questions and topics that I could make last for several hours of deep fascinating conversation gets rushed through inside 30 minutes followed by awkward silence. Here’s the deal. Think about things you actually like and think are cool. Music, books, sports whatever. Ask her questions based on that. The trick is they have to be questions that you would actually be interested in the answers to. Leave the questions open ended. Don’t ask “Do you like such and such band” That’s to easy to answer with a one word answer. Instead ask something like “If you could have any band on earth play your birthday party, who would it be and why?” This is much more interesting and fun way to discus the topic and engages her creatively. Don’t be that guy that grills her with 20 questions of bullshit like “so where are you from?, what’s your major, what kind of work do you do?” etc. Some guys may be legitimately interested in that stuff but most are just doing it to keep the conversation going as if the longer she talks to them the better their chances are with her. Don’t be a “me too” guy. If she likes something that you like, don’t say “I like that too”. It comes off like your faking to make it seem like you two have so much in common that you just HAVE to be together. Instead smile, give a nod of approval and say “very cool, I’m impressed” It says the same thing in as much as you have a common interest, but it does so from the frame that you’re a cool guy and by liking what you like, you think she’s cool too. ---
**Author:** ![Dumbfounded](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b19c9b/32.png) [@Dumbfounded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dumbfounded)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 6:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499/4 "2010-08-02T06:10:27Z")
thank you so much! your guy’s replies have given much more confidence in this date.. but i think i’m just going to do a movie and dinner. i live in a small town so theres not that much to do so… one spray of each excluding the TUTH? ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 12:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499/5 "2010-08-02T12:08:32Z")
yeah I think TuTH is a bit much for a first date. ---
**Author:** ![johnnyhammersticks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e0b2c6/32.png) [@johnnyhammersticks](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/johnnyhammersticks)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2010, 2:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dating-advice-for-a-16-year-old-pour-down-ur-wisdom/40499/6 "2010-08-03T02:42:30Z")
Yeah Tuth is sexual, and you’re not gonna have sex with her right there on your date, so it would be incongruent to wear it. If I were you I wouldn’t wear that until the first time you guys are together in a situation that could become sexual (she’s over your house and your parents are gone). As far as what to talk about, my advice would be DON’T WORRY ABOUT IT. If you worry and plan about what to say, you’ll get nervous and come off as rehearsed, and that’s unattractive. Just talk about things you like/she likes and ask questions you really want to know about her. Try to find out what kind of person she is, she’ll appreciate that you’re interested in her for the right reasons. And like I said just RELAX. If she agreed to go out with you she obviously likes you, so just be you.