# Dealing with male aggression!.. **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 2, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324 "2011-01-02T01:34:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![latrelis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3d9bf3/32.png) [@latrelis](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/latrelis)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/1 "2011-01-02T01:34:56Z")
So I was out in this club for New Year’s eve and something happened that left me thinking how to deal with situations like this if they happened in future. I was just going through some dancing couple and the guy grabbed me on my shoulder and told: “Look where youre going!”. Before I answered anything his girlfriend apologized. Then I wanted to see if that aggression occurs again so in a few secs I approached and asked if they saw some of my friends. The girld said: “No no no” and when I turned away the guy pushed me. Then again - his girlfriend started apologizing telling “Really sorry, a guy had too much alcohol”. So I stood there, nodded to her and left them. I really think I know what caused that aggression. Firstly it’s because I am young (19 ) but self confident. I walk straight, head held high. Im good looking, got tan, longer hair, earring, nice clothes. I dont blame mones here but I understand they could have stacked up ( I wore 1xA314, 1xTUTH, 4xIO, 1xCTTM2 - nothing unusual, not the first time wearing at club). My question is how to react in that kind of situation? If it wasnt for his girlfriend I think it would have evolved into fight, but then my night would be ruined. But if I walked away with my head down and fear in my eyes then people would consider me being a pussy instead of alpha. Oh and later after that I passed through him, we looked in each others eyes but nothing happened. So all in all, I can just see two possibilities: 1. You get into fight and ruin your night and probably get kicked out. 2. You flee like a pussy and people think you’re a coward. I live in not such tolerant country xehe..and I think it might happen again sometime, since guys get jealous. Your thoughts? 🙄😉 ---
**Author:** ![Aggie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f07891/32.png) [@Aggie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Aggie)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 1:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/2 "2011-01-02T01:37:58Z")
Brush him off ---
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 1:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/3 "2011-01-02T01:56:26Z")
The following is a true event that occurred in the life of Terry Dobson an American Aikido practitioner during his time studying in Japan. > [@](#): > > Terry Dobson was riding on a train in Japan, when a drunken man boarded. The man was violent, aggressive, and a real physical threat to the other passengers, whom he pushed around and bullied.Dobson had been **intensively training in aikido** daily for three years, and was eager to put that practice into ‘real’ action. Although he knew his teacher had said that aikido is the art of reconciliation, and that even wanting to fight means that you’ve already lost touch with the Universe. > Just as he tried to get the drunk to attack him, a little old man interrupted by calling out joyfully to the drunken man. In a cheerful manner, the little old man started talking to the drunk, asking friendly questions. > Soon, the drunk’s nasty exterior had melted away. He was weeping, explaining his wife had died, that he’d lost his job and his home, and that his life was a total wreck and that he was terribly ashamed. The would-be attacker **had been brought to peace** , without a single martial arts move. Controlling the situation is alpha…exactly how that control is achieved is up to you. ---
**Author:** ![thegentleman](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/thegentleman/32/1770_2.png) [@thegentleman](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thegentleman)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 2:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/4 "2011-01-02T02:59:22Z")
> [@RADMAN513](#): > > The following is a true event that occurred in the life of Terry Dobson an American Aikido practitioner during his time studying in Japan. > > Controlling the situation is alpha…exactly how that control is achieved is up to you. I recall that story too… and that’s a very good point. I lost my control the other day, and any time I do, I don’t care how much someone pushed me and how aggressive I got, even if I won the argument, I feel so weak. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 3:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/5 "2011-01-02T03:54:40Z")
This is a bit off topic unless you’re looking for information on how or if the [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) affected the situation. Do you normally get more aggression than usual with the mones? ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 9:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/6 "2011-01-02T09:52:27Z")
> [@](#): > > But if I walked away with my head down and fear in my eyes then people would consider me being a pussy instead of alpha. So walk away with your head held high, no fear in your eyes and a grin on your face. Fighting doesn’t make you the Alpha. You attitude and body language makes you the Alpha. He is the one who felt threatened by your presence. If he didnt he wouldn’t have reacted the way he did. When he touched your shoulder, shrug it off with a How dare you attitude. Dont be mean or confrontational just shrug it off as it to say with your body. Do not touch me. Then look him in the eye and say. Whoops sorry, didnt see you or whatever then just walk away. I think you knew the guy was drunk the first time so why you approached him again is beyond me. He isn’t worth your time. His aggression was just a sign of his own insecurities and alcohol. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![tomtomtom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a88e57/32.png) [@tomtomtom](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tomtomtom)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 12:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dealing-with-male-aggression/44324/7 "2011-01-02T12:03:52Z")
Thanks for the compliment I say.