# Do copulins backfire? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 11, 2007, 5:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069 "2007-04-11T17:14:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![vkat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/59ef9b/32.png) [@vkat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/vkat)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2007, 4:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069/101 "2007-04-16T16:19:54Z")
Ash, if she wants to go, let her. She has to be able to accept who you are NOW. Your relationship is NOW. Don’t despair - sometimes when you let someone go, they do come back. But we cannot pay and pay and pay for who we were, any more than we can coast on the good things we did in the past. And Lor is right, she made decisions too. Relationships are funny - so are the dynamics. Sometimes we are very very attracted to people who elicit our worst fears. You have to consider the possibility that the “old you”, as much as it hurt her, was actually something she wanted or felt she deserved on a subconscious level. If she hasn’t worked that out then maybe she preferred the old you to the new you - but you didn’t, and that’s what’s important. Let her go, be very open to letting her come back, and if she doesn’t, go find somebody who loves you the way you are now. A lot of your ties to her seem to be centered around guilt. You’ve changed and you have nothing to feel guilty about now. You can’t rewrite the past and if she won’t put down the script there is nothing you can do. She also has to make a decision in the now. Somebody who keeps bringing up the past no matter what you do now has their own problems. Maybe time apart will fix it, maybe not, but I think it’s time for you to forgive yourself and move ahead. We are all evolving and the only significance of the past is that it is everything that brought us to this moment. That’s it. Other than that, it means nothing. Your life is now. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 1:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069/102 "2007-04-17T01:22:40Z")
> [@](#): > > We are all evolving and the only significance of the past is that it is everything that brought us to this moment. That’s it. word . 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Quicksilver](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/quicksilver/32/1328_2.png) [@Quicksilver](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Quicksilver)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 7:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069/103 "2007-04-17T07:37:39Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > If i knew i was worth someone going without and waiting forever, id want to be his sex slave 😉 Thanks for this. I know a woman like this. I don’t expect to win her heart, but I feel immortal, and that I will wait as long as it takes to find someone of her caliber. I have been working, and will continue to work to improve myself to be the kind of person someone like her wants to join her life to. 10, 50, 60 years is no issue for me. I’m willing to wait 500. My life is as busy as heck anyway, and I’m doing several forms of volunteer work I enjoy, so I’m not pining away. Just working to improve myself as a person, and taking note of a breathtaking example of a person who has worked to make who she is - inside - such a jewel that her actions reflect the light of all the good that should be in the world, and all the good intentions ever felt. This woman I know has, over the past year or so, redefined my standard of a quality woman upward significantly. Perhaps, Lor, I might now speak up and let her know I feel this way - when the time is right. So, thank you. Cheers, 🙄 Quicksilver ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 8:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069/104 "2007-04-17T08:45:28Z")
Ash I am going to add my two scents here. I know you want to hear that eventually everything will work out and she will forgive and forget about the way you treated her. She may forgive but she will never ever forget and there lies the problem. Once Love and trust is broken you can fix it but it will never be the same. Humpty Dumpty never looked the same after his fall. There will always be that shadow of yesterday that hangs in the air. Scars are scars whether they are on your skin or left on the soul. They heal and fade but are always there. I think her indecision whether to stay or go comes from the fact that she indeed loves you despite all you have done. She just dosnt like you. Yes women can love a person without liking them. You need to let her go if that is what she wishes because its the only way she will ever heal. Be supportive Be her friend but stop begging and let her go. I know you want it to work and you have changed and it hurts but Love her more than you love yourself. Be willing to endure the pain of letting go and she may surprise you. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 10:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069/105 "2007-04-17T10:40:22Z")
wow Quicksilver, let us _in this forum_ know how it goes. its got to feel good to know that since your attracted and waiting for someone whose intentions match yours and whose integrity is inspiring,its only gets better from here 🙂 you have alot to look forward to . [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/do-copulins-backfire/3069.md?page=5)