# Dumped again !! **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [June 11, 2009, 8:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783 "2009-06-11T08:45:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 8:24am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/21 "2009-06-12T08:24:53Z")
> [@charles\_p](#): > > I’m sorry Jankren, but I completely disagree with that. Ok I got dumped for a “better model”, but at least I had the chance of being with a hot girl (way waaay out of my league) for a short time. For a guy like me, that experience is gold. > > If I go with your advice, I would perpetually be aiming for below average looking women. Well said charles and think on this, the only person putting her out of your league is yourself. Stop putting yourself down and remember, no-one is out of your league 😉 that sort of negative self talk is probably what caused her to move on in the first place. Now, find a mirror and talk yourself up. @Jankren, without wishing to start another flame war on here, every single post of yours I read comes across as negative, not sure if it’s your writing style, me interpreting you wrongly or whatever. This is a happy place for the most part, could I ask that you think of the negative impact your words may have on some people?😃 ---
**Author:** ![perronec](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/perronec/32/1280_2.png) [@perronec](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/perronec)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 10:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/22 "2009-06-12T10:40:46Z")
What Diamond said is absolutely correct. I hear that phrase “way out of my league” a lot, and it is sort of a ridiculous statement. all it says to me is you need a little confidence boost, and you will literally end this “out of league” problem altogether. I understand that seeing a girl you view as extremely beautiful can, for guys(this is the only point of view i know), be a heart stopping, mind numbing, turn all your words into mindless drivel experience. I know, i’ve been there, and sometimes it still happens. but you are going to have to learn to just mentally talk yourself down, take a breath and treat her like a normal person. that is pretty much all there is too it. practice makes perfect. I say this in complete confidence, even though i have never met you, I believe you can have any girl you want. Truly. Good luck buddy. ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 10:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/23 "2009-06-12T10:54:58Z")
Getting dumped is a normal part of life. She did it to you and you’ll eventually do it to someone else. Nothing you can do about it. We all end up getting involved with someone not right for us and have to wiggle out. I’m ashamed of some of the things I did but breaking up is pretty impossible without some damage. Sure it stings now but, with time, you’ll get over it, maybe even laugh about it. I think Miko is right: learn to hold back your feelings until you’re really sure about the relationship and meanwhile enjoy the ride. I learned to do it after a few major heartbreaks, so you can too. If you’ve in the habit of diving in the deep end too quickly you’ll frighten off most women anyway (you appear weak and clingy). ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 12:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/24 "2009-06-12T12:45:33Z")
Yes it hurts. potted history here. Six years ago I met a woman whilst I was on the rebound, dived in the deep end, child within the year. We are now divorcing and, whilst it hurt ( and still does in some way), I picked myself up, gave myself a talking to and am back on the horse.Shit happens, who cares, who’s next, if you don’t like it, jog on!😉 I read somewhere that the average child is told ‘NO’ over 100,000 times before they reach 18 but only hear ‘YES’ about 10,000 times. this programs the subconscious into a negative mindset from a very early age. Work out a suitable mantra for yourself (‘I’m fantastic and women love me’ or whatever works for you) and say it to yourself in the mirror ten times a day, this will reprogram you to a positive mindset even if you don’t believe it to start with. Sounds simple but it works for me. ---
**Author:** ![Julia](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/julia/32/1388_2.png) [@Julia](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Julia)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 2:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/25 "2009-06-12T14:06:33Z")
All the support your getting here is right on. How many times have you seen a hot babe with some ugly guy? I see it all the time.. and believe me that guy is not thinking about how awful he is. Mantras (affirmations), staying postive and optimistic, speaking to yourself in loving ways, moving on and quickly out of situations that dont work out, using these situations to grow from.. not harp on, being the Best you can be, you’ll be attracting Best woman/women for you and opportunites open up in your life all around. Its the Law of Attraction. ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 3:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/26 "2009-06-12T15:21:44Z")
Diamond, you’re fantastic and women love you damn it! 😛 You go diamond, good thing you’re doing just that, and actually if I’m not mistaken doing already great with the gals (or gal.) I’d say gals though, you guy you. 😉 > [@diamond](#): > > Yes it hurts. potted history here. > Six years ago I met a woman whilst I was on the rebound, dived in the deep end, child within the year. We are now divorcing and, whilst it hurt ( and still does in some way), I picked myself up, gave myself a talking to and am back on the horse.Shit happens, who cares, who’s next, if you don’t like it, jog on!😉 > > I read somewhere that the average child is told ‘NO’ over 100,000 times before they reach 18 but only hear ‘YES’ about 10,000 times. this programs the subconscious into a negative mindset from a very early age. > > Work out a suitable mantra for yourself (‘I’m fantastic and women love me’ > or whatever works for you) and say it to yourself in the mirror ten times a day, this will reprogram you to a positive mindset even if you don’t believe it to start with. Sounds simple but it works for me. ---
**Author:** ![Tigerlilly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tigerlilly/32/2257_2.png) [@Tigerlilly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Tigerlilly)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 4:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/27 "2009-06-12T16:08:50Z")
Yes… It _is_ the plural… “gals…” 😉 😃 Miss you, Diamond! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![meow333x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@meow333x](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/meow333x)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 9:33pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/28 "2009-06-12T21:33:10Z")
> [@charles\_p](#): > > Bad news - I have been dumped again! > > I had been going out with a nice girl from near where I live. I met her in a nightclub and basically plucked up the courage to ask her out. She agreed! I was wearing instant shine and we were all in a happy mood! We had been going out for a number of weeks. I was over the moon because I thought she was out of my league. > > Anyways, a couple of days back she texted me and said “I’ve found someone else, I really like him so don’t want to be with you anymore. I hope you find someone new”. This is the exact text she used. I was totally devastated, didn’t feel like going out and lost my appetite etc… I didn’t really want to feel this way, but I did. I really really liked her a lot and thought we got on well. My mate says its because I’m too nice a guy and of course, I don’t have male model looks or anything, I’m just a **standard, ordinary guy.** > > OK, so I’m trying to get over her, but am having trouble. I keep thinking about her all the time! I haven’t had many girlfriends, and am not a player, so these things hurt me more than most. How do I get over it quickly? > > To top it off, I am going to my friend’s party this weekend. She is going to be there along with her new boyfriend. I have in my stash Ammo, A314 and instant honesty. I want to give the following message to her - “you don’t know what you let go off!” - any ideas? > > Thank you, > Charlie. did you have sex with her? ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 9:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/29 "2009-06-12T21:37:28Z")
Yes! Because diamond is the man and can get more than one gal! You pimp you. 🆒 > [@Tigerlilly](#): > > Yes… > > It _is_ the plural… “gals…” 😉 😃 > > Miss you, Diamond! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![perronec](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/perronec/32/1280_2.png) [@perronec](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/perronec)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 7:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783/30 "2009-06-13T07:01:06Z")
that is a great affirmation diamond, thanks I’m going to give it a try! [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/dumped-again/29783.md?page=1)