# Effective Flirting Techniques **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [June 25, 2006, 5:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450 "2006-06-25T17:23:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 5:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/1 "2006-06-25T17:23:34Z")
> [@](#): > > I would like it if you started a thread on EFFECTIVE flirting techniques for women, though. You could call it “Flirts that Worked”. 🙂 > > Seriously… Men are as oblivious to women flirting, as women tend to be to what actually works effectively on most normal (non-pick up artistry trained) men. while most you claim that a gaze into your man’s eyes is all it takes to let him know whats on your mind, it comes to my attention the the “everyday guy” - the one you see in traffic, the cutey in line at the bank, the hotty taking care of your pool ::snaps out of her fantasy:: most likely is not getting the hint that you find him adorable. guys dont often know your flirting unless of course you have mastered some subtle techniques you wouldnt mind sharing with the rest of us? what are some ways you have flirted that was taken the right way **the first time**? ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 10:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/2 "2006-06-25T22:03:31Z")
i use humor. i will make a comment/joke in a nonsexual way, and hope that opens the door for more conversation. if not, its harmless and more often than not, atleast lightens the day. i do get that look once in a while like they dont understand english ( no really- blank as the rain is wet!) and i look past them like im on medication. i dont believe im the only one that flirts here, am i? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Rob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@Rob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rob)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 10:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/3 "2006-06-26T10:54:12Z")
Perhaps add alittle sexuality to your flirting? Personally I like women who are comfortable being open with their sexuality. I do not mean acting like a slut, I just mean by the little things like the way they walk, the sexy clothes they wear… that sexy low tone voice!!! The way they look at you, even between strangers some light kino and invasion of personal space. blah blah blah. Well what I mean is women who are friendly and comfortable getting being closer to people, etc. Hope this helps; it always adds a few points in my book. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 11:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/4 "2006-06-26T11:22:03Z")
> [@Rob](#): > > Perhaps add alittle sexuality to your flirting? Personally I like women who are comfortable being open with their sexuality. I do not mean acting like a slut, I just mean by the little things like the way they walk, the sexy clothes they wear… that sexy low tone voice!!! > > The way they look at you, even between strangers some light kino and invasion of personal space. blah blah blah. Well what I mean is women who are friendly and comfortable getting being closer to people, etc. > > Hope this helps; it always adds a few points in my book. so you are saying that adding a sexy vibe to flirting helps a guy to know your flirting at all, as opposed to “omg someones talking to me”…hmmmm the point of the thread was that most guys dont realize they are being flirted with, but your saying being slightly overtly sexual is the way to go . right on,Rob. ---
**Author:** ![Rob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@Rob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rob)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 11:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/5 "2006-06-26T11:49:04Z")
Sort of. If the person doesn’t notice, then it is better to be more overt about it. There is also a difference between “just talking” and “looking” to doing all those sexy feminine things that catch a guys attention. ---
**Author:** ![josef](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/josef/32/2007_2.png) [@josef](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/josef)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 6:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/6 "2006-06-26T18:21:10Z")
women discussing flirting never ceases to amaze me. you can smile with your mouth and you can smile with your eyes, any guy that doesn’t catch on to that combination is more dull than anything that has ever been described as being horribly dull, and he is dimwitted and obtuse as well. men in general need to learn how to flirt, both innocently and sexually. women just need to smile in the right direction and it will attract men like mosquitos to a bug zapper. interestingly enough, the end result is almost identical. ---
**Author:** ![MHarris](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mharris/32/2107_2.png) [@MHarris](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MHarris)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 10:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/7 "2006-06-26T22:14:27Z")
For some women, dressing down makes them more approachable. I always see the hottest women in the world accompanied by either repulsve men, or well honed pick up artists that have been with hundreds of women. Both have the “balls” to approach them. The first has nothing to lose, and the second is comfortable enough to just see you as yet another women… On the other hand, I’ve seen remarkably average women (I’m referring more to style of dress & grooming here, as I think most _women in good health_ are attractive) swarmed by men of all sorts of men. Sometimes harmonizing with your audience makes you more accessible. Some women truly DHV far too much to make men approach them. Puts themselves too far above their target audience. On the other hand, if you’re willing to approach men yourself… DHV all you want. Sure, most men will choke up when you approach them if you’re in a stunning dress and immaculately groomed, but showing any easily confirmable interest in them will snap them out of their stupor enough to talk back within a minute or so. Just get your stopwatch out and start counting. 🙂 (incidentally, men have the same problem with DHVing “too much” when they use too much A314… that’s why that product is a blessing for initiators, but a curse for passive men) ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2006, 3:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/8 "2006-06-27T03:13:42Z")
> [@josef](#): > > women discussing flirting never ceases to amaze me. you can smile with your mouth and you can smile with your eyes, any guy that doesn’t catch on to that combination is more dull than anything that has ever been described as being horribly dull, and he is dimwitted and obtuse as well. > > men in general need to learn how to flirt, both innocently and sexually. women just need to smile in the right direction and it will attract men like mosquitos to a bug zapper. interestingly enough, the end result is almost identical. :: feelin like a zapped bug myself :: i wish men would learn to flirt as well, flirting doent mean you have to do me. it just means your fun,then i feel like smiling,then it feels good to be acknowledged,then you are suddenly more attractive than you were 2 minutes ago… and even if you have no attraction towards the person you flirted with,you are now going to be on their minds as a reminder of a good feeling. ---
**Author:** ![Dancing\_Joker](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dancing_joker/32/1924_2.png) [@Dancing\_Joker](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dancing_Joker)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2006, 4:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/9 "2006-06-27T04:31:33Z")
I have to admit that until recently, I was a member of the wandering hordes of flirt-blinded men who would miss everything short of boobing as an IOI. Once I discovered mones and committed myself to learning about, understanding, and effectively using them, I also realized that I would have to recognize all the signs of hits as they occurred. I took it upon myself to read up on as many books and articles as possible regarding IOI’s and how women interact and flirt with men. It was surprising just how many different ways women had to flirt and show their interest in men, and I was amazed at how subtle some of these methods were, from hair flipping and brushing to tilted heads and exposed necks to dilated pupils and DIHLs (all in the proper context of course). It’s for this reason that I’m glad I decided to try mones, because I’ve matured quite a bit and learned so much about women and the whole art of flirting and courtship. Of course, having the right mone mix helps move things along quite nicely as well 😉 😃😛 Lor, I would try mixing compliments or suggestive comments into your humor. Harness all that energy that good humor generates by focusing it on the guy you’re interested in. Use humor as a medium to say and do things that you wouldn’t normally have the opportunity to use. Just as good comedy is based on delivery at the right time, use the humor and jokes to set the atmosphere and steer the conversation towards helping your unsuspecting target realize that there’s more to you than meets the eye. I’m sure there are a lot of guys who like a funny gal! 🙂 Oh, and as Josef says, if all else fails, just smile! It works for me 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2006, 4:44am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/10 "2006-06-27T04:44:41Z")
> [@](#): > > I would try mixing compliments or suggestive comments into your humor. Harness all that energy that good humor generates by focusing it on the guy you’re interested in. Good posting, Dancing\_Joker im good with the compliments, not so good at the suggestive parts. girls tend to come - off as desparate/easy at that point, “hi you dont know me but im going to be suggestive” and that might get incredible sex, (okay, screw the “might”) but if she goes to the extent of putting herself out there like that, she probably wants more than one night. but i may be wrong, look where my thinking has gotten me —\> ::holds up sign:: “will work for [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/)…” :o ---
**Author:** ![Dancing\_Joker](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dancing_joker/32/1924_2.png) [@Dancing\_Joker](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dancing_Joker)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2006, 4:51am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/11 "2006-06-27T04:51:32Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > Good posting, Dancing\_Joker > im good with the compliments, not so good at the suggestive parts. > girls tend to come - off as desparate/easy at that point, “hi you dont know me but im going to be suggestive” and that might get incredible sex, (okay, screw the “might”) but if she goes to the extent of putting herself out there like that, she probably wants more than one night. but i may be wrong, look where my thinking has gotten me —\> ::holds up sign:: “will work for pheromones…” :o You don’t have to sound desperate to sound suggestive … One’s imagination can go so very far with just a little push in the right direction, and the mind is a very fertile place if you plant the right seeds 😉 😃 ---
**Author:** ![itwow](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/itwow/32/1493_2.png) [@itwow](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/itwow)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2006, 12:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/12 "2006-06-27T12:51:05Z")
Forgive my ignorance, but why do some women flirt with other men, in front of me & kept looking at me at the same time? To incite jealousy or action on my part? Is there a specific reason or ritual for such behavior? Thanks. i2w ---
**Author:** ![catlord17](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f9ae1b/32.png) [@catlord17](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/catlord17)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 8:45am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/13 "2006-06-28T08:45:24Z")
Hey… Lor… **Flirt Flirt!** \*\* lol Here’s what I can offer on how to flirt effectively with most men. **Speak his language.** Each sex has a different “language”, and each sex expects to be spoken to in their own language. Men tend to be obvious and to the point, whereas women tend to be subtle and give hints. You must communicate in the way he expects to be communicated with. Women expect men to walk right over and say hello. How much more obvious can an IOI get? Yet, women expect to get the same effect by flipping hair from across the room. Flipping your hair will not even begin to register on most men… whereas women will see this, know what it means, and sometimes begin competing with you for his attention in the same way! (This is why men seem clueless to women who are interested, btw.) Another way is to make direct eye contact and hold it for just a little too long. While you do this… smile. And repeat. And repeat. And repeat. Until he gets it. (This may take weeks, months or years, depending on the particular male. It’s much easier to just walk over and simply start a conversation with the poor bastard.) **You’re welcome to get personal flirting lessons from me any time.** 😃 See? It’s not that hard. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 10:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/14 "2006-06-28T10:41:58Z")
aww great post, > [@](#): > > (This may take weeks, months or years, depending on the particular male. It’s much easier to just walk over and simply start a conversation with the poor bastard.) we were hoping if more women posted about flirts that worked imediately, we could probably do away with the whole hair-flippin-maybe-he’ll-see-that thing we do that may never register. the thread was started in hopes that more women would join and give their flirting techniques, both to inform and encourage… seems i have gotten more men to post! (thank you for flirting lesson ONE last night,lol) holy-moley, the boy’s got it DOWN…😮 ---
**Author:** ![Rob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@Rob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rob)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 12:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/15 "2006-06-28T12:39:42Z")
Keeping in mind if you do use very overt methods like just straight eye contact and talking to him, that some men are afraid of a woman being very aggressive. So you may want to also relax him at the same time. Even if some guys are clueless.. it also comes down to alot of guys are also afraid of a beautiful woman. lol ---
**Author:** ![Bunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Bunny](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bunny)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 2:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/16 "2006-06-28T14:25:28Z")
I used to do a thing that worked 100% every time, but actually TOO well, because I originally started it as a deterrent to a 19 year-old, who pursued me incessantly, when I’d just turned 35! I then discovered it worked like a charm when I DID want it to, and so..very soon, Bob was your Auntie’s husband (it just occurred to me that might not be understood by those Across The Pond, so it translates as; "Bob’s your uncle - which basically means, it was in the bag..) I posted about this on LS too. When the guy sat down beside me I would get him to buy me a drink, and then once I had it, I would dip my index finger into HIS drink, and trail my finger very slowly down the front of his shirt, softly saying, “Oh dear..now I’ll have to help you out of those wet clothes…” ^\_~ I don’t do it now of course - "The “Man” would annihilate me! Otherwise, I tend to use my eyes a lot, as they are huge, and according to “The Man” I wouldn’t know how to flirt if it was to hit me in the face! I’ve been told this by loads of guys, in fact. I have also been told that the question I used to ask every guy I was keen on, was the clincher to sealing the deal, and that was.“So what kind of women do you RESPECT?” That apparently throws men - so they have told me anyway. I don’t equate being suggestive with being desperate in any way at all, as I can do the former very well indeed, without ever coming across as being the latter. Flirting is horses for courses, and everybody has their own ways and wee foibles, let’s face it. If you want men who can flirt for their country - move to Scotland. The guys here are total EXPERTS in that field, and some of their one-liners are priceless! Ail 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 11:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/17 "2006-06-28T23:56:20Z")
> [@](#): > > If you want men who can flirt for their country - move to Scotland. > > The guys here are total EXPERTS in that field, and some of their one-liners are priceless! > > Ail 🙂 you know, i believe when something becomes sport, everyone wants in. it must be fashionable to be a don juan in scotland, where it is no longer “flirt to get” , but “flirt better than everyone else and with style, then get”. sound about right? ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2006, 12:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/18 "2006-06-29T00:10:59Z")
> [@itwow](#): > > Forgive my ignorance, but why do some women flirt with other men, in front of me & kept looking at me at the same time? To incite jealousy or action on my part? Is there a specific reason or ritual for such behavior? > > Thanks. > i2w my opinion is that it is a persoanlity trait of some people. somewhat common. both to incite jealousy and action, plus i think it turns them on, a selfish act. not a bad one, but it really only works with a select few. other people might have a different take on it, but i recognise what your saying. ---
**Author:** ![josef](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/josef/32/2007_2.png) [@josef](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/josef)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2006, 2:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/19 "2006-06-29T02:12:35Z")
> [@itwow](#): > > Forgive my ignorance, but why do some women flirt with other men, in front of me & kept looking at me at the same time? To incite jealousy or action on my part? Is there a specific reason or ritual for such behavior? > > Thanks. > i2w the truth and the answer you want to hear are probably two entirely different things. ultimately, low self esteem and a life long accumulation of baggage are a couple of the culprits. ---
**Author:** ![itwow](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/itwow/32/1493_2.png) [@itwow](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/itwow)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2006, 2:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450/20 "2006-06-29T02:36:23Z")
I could take the truth (2 ways). My idea is to understand the norms of such behaviour & relate to the pheromones if possible. I got such reactions from 2-3 ladies while wearing high dose EST. I’m testing this molecule against a few populations in my office. Gays, straight men & women, which is a nightmare. I need to pin the exact effects (if possible) of a particular gender/orientation & their age wrt to a molecule. It helps to craft my pheromone wearing patterns., [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effective-flirting-techniques/450.md?page=2)