# Effects on those closest to you? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 24, 2007, 1:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effects-on-those-closest-to-you/3298 "2007-04-24T01:15:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Dantes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@Dantes](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Dantes)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2007, 1:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effects-on-those-closest-to-you/3298/1 "2007-04-24T01:15:37Z")
OK, so here’s the situation. My best friend is taking me to a wedding in a few months, her fiance can’t go and she already RSVP’d. Her cousin, who I’ve met at a few parties my friend has had (christmas, kids birthday’s) is going to be there as well. I’ve never talked to her cousin that much, but the little bit of contact I have had with her, I definately want to go for this one. My friend has told me that her cousin would be perfect for me, and knows I like her too. Now the problem. My friend and I have had a bit of a past…nothing ever actually happened between us, but there have been a lot of conversations between us about how great we’d be for each other. We’ve always had someone else that we were “attached” to when the other was single, so we never really gave it a chance. She has told me, though, that if things don’t work out with her fiance, she’s definately going after me. She’s said it jokingly, usually when she’s mad at him, but I know there is a note of seriousness there. I’m already a little nervous that between the romantic mood of the wedding, mixed with alcohol, she may do something she will regret, and I may be too drunk to stop her. The question is, will [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/) push her to make that move. I’d like to have the edge with her cousin, and was planning on wearing some instant openess and a drop of A314 to boost my confidence, along with some Ammo. Will the pheromones have the same effects on my friend, someone who knows me so well, as they will on her cousin, who only has a passing knowledge of my existence, or do people who know you really well not usually notice the pheromonal signals? What other products/combinations do you suggest to help me with the cousin, while not unintentionally leading my friend on? I am new to the world of pheromones and have not really had a chance to experiment yet, but plan on making another purchase soon (as soon as I get my gift certificate) on products which will be used at this wedding. ---
**Author:** ![MarkL](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/markl/32/825_2.png) [@MarkL](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MarkL)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2007, 3:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effects-on-those-closest-to-you/3298/2 "2007-04-24T03:04:23Z")
Your best friend is engaged to be married. Whether you’re wearing no pheros or bathe in them, you are not “leading her on” in any way shape or form. If she smells you (pheros or not) and decides not to get married, that’s her choice, isn’t it? Look, if that decision comes about because you were wearing pheros to this other wedding as her escort, then I would say that she wasn’t very committed to the engagement/marriage plan in the first place. Wearing the pheros does not give you “power” over her choices. So: relax; wear whatever pleases you and gives you that edge with her cousin; don’t seduce your friend; and don’t feel guilty if she does change her mind. ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2007, 5:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/effects-on-those-closest-to-you/3298/3 "2007-04-24T05:43:46Z")
> [@](#): > > The question is, will pheromones push her to make that move. I wish it were so! Humans are not like insects and lower mammals. We do not react to pheromones with involuntary behavior. Pheromones do not overwhelm freewill one iota. Ultimately you merely do what you want to do, nothing more. They may make your path clearer or more obvious. They do not create attraction although they may enhance it. However, the booze at the wedding may be another story…