I hear ya. I mean that’s fine for young men to be into, I think. I was, certainly in my youth. I’m a firm believer that any step up in the game helps. Like Mystery says, it really is a matter of life and death for men. If you don’t get to learning the Game (the point of life, really), fairly quickly: Survival and Replication, your genes will be unapologetically weeded out of the gene pool.
Having already survived to replicate, my game is a bit softer now, but a bit more comforting, and certainly MUCH more confident. I’m not seeking one night stands with anyone, and I’m not so ‘horn dog’ as I was in my youth.
That being said, I think the PUA game is a little tired, at least for me at my age. I won’t be one of those guys that think conquest and racking up a score is the only game worth playing. The idea of opening the marriage wouldn’t be to have a scorecard or anything, we just thought perhaps it would add spice. It may just end up ruining us both, which I hope it doesn’t. While on one hand its exciting to be ‘let off the leash’ so to speak, it doesn’t excite me to get back into that miserable singles game again. That’s why I got married in the first place, cause that game is hard on your mind and body… and wallet, good god.
When I first started reading this forum, I really just wanted to find something to add spice to my marriage, really. That and business applications. I found a couple things immediately that I wanted to try with Liz, especially the P74 which I had heard creates a sort of “crushing” effect, which is what we, after 9 years together, could really use more of. Still haven’t gotten any of that, but I want to. It’s certainly next on the list.
I eventually settled on what can only be described as the “Chernobyl” of fallout mixes, just because after what I’d read, it seemed like the effects were so unmistakable in people that I would have NO DOUBT in my mind that it was working. Well, I KNOW it worked, both at the bachelor party, and with my wife, and I’m happy that I spent that money now on these products based on what my own wife has told me about their effects.
It’s wonderful that it is helping your situation as well, I think it’s the MOST worthy cause to save a marriage.
