# First post **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [March 5, 2009, 3:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756 "2009-03-05T03:10:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f08c70/32.png) [@pstro](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pstro)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 3:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/1 "2009-03-05T03:10:20Z")
Feeling funny posting for $20 (or is it $25 as it says in the header). But you guys are offering, I’ll try it out. Was looking for a little something extra to help my wife get in the mood. She has a very low sex drive, while mine is very high, and I hope to have something to spray on when I get home from work, and have her slowly lose inhibitions as we have our dinner and spend time with each other before bed. From lurking, I don’t think I should use [Turn Up the Heat](https://a314.com/product/turn-up-the-heat-tuth/) (she’s probably one of the ones that would be annoyed by it), although maybe the lightest of sprays??, but it looks like Ammunition might be the one that would help trigger a response. Maybe Instant Shine? I need to read some more looking forward to my first order, it’s hard to resist getting started! Piers ---
**Author:** ![future777](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/future777/32/2258_2.png) [@future777](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/future777)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 3:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/2 "2009-03-05T03:13:39Z")
Hello and welcome! Yes it is $25. I think tuth might actually work well here, as you two are already close. It is very sexual and may give you that extra edge. Instant shine would compliment it well, I think. Can you tell us a little more about your personality though? It helps with making better suggestions. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 3:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/3 "2009-03-05T03:35:35Z")
Hello and welcome to the forum. Your problem is near universal - except maybe with some of the women here on the forum. And the things we won’t do for $25.00 dollars. well it is to your benefit all around. You get a gift certificate plus better advice. For help with the wife - try reading the thread in my signature block for married guys. Pay particular attention to the part about social products. It is not just a simple matter of sex drive for women. It is often the big picture. Romance starts first thing in the morning - not when you hit the sheets at night. If you have any questions please come back and ask. We are happy to answer. ---
**Author:** ![Rovot](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/rovot/32/5179_2.png) [@Rovot](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Rovot)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 3:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/4 "2009-03-05T03:56:44Z")
Welcome! Mix it with [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) if it’s back in stock 😛 ---
**Author:** ![wilks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f475e1/32.png) [@wilks](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/wilks)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 5:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/5 "2009-03-05T05:30:56Z")
Sudden changes in my phero signature caused a disturbance in those closest to me. My mom and my baby niece both freaked when I started wearing A314 for example. My niece just cried, but my mom said I smelled like dog urine. While she may still think TUTH smells nice, start small with it if you decide to go that route. Maybe work it in with the social pheros after you’ve used them for a bit. I tried TUTH on my ex to pull her back in, thinking the sex drive was gone for her. While I could tell it was bothering her, it helped highlight in my eyes that her issue was not a sexual one with what we had. Tempted as she was, she pulled away further. But it doesn’t sound like your relationship is a troubled one like I was in. (This is why I think Bosshank is right that the social pheros will help out a great deal.) I’d like to think it wouldn’t hurt to try it out…I’m curious if you do. Stay active and post us your results! ---
**Author:** ![pstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f08c70/32.png) [@pstro](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pstro)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2009, 2:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/6 "2009-03-05T14:43:09Z")
Hey, thanks for the welcome.. Myself, I’m 36 and aging well, keeping myself in decent shape, I have a great sense of humour and I guess I’d be considered a modern man, not too tough and distant, not a weepy emotional clinger. My wife and I have probably the same story as a lot of couples.. Things started out great, we did a lot of things together, had great times and fell in love. Got married, had good jobs, and moved onto kids and house. Since the kids came along, of course, there’s not much time for just us, there’s a lack of relatives and reliable babysitters around us, making things like date nights and getaways tougher. Two kids of course does wonders to a woman’s body and my wife has never been happy with her weight or figure since, so there’s one major obstacle. She no longer feels attractive, despite my assurances that she’s still beautiful and sexy, and therefore feels less like getting physical. Fatigue, stress, self-confidence issues are runnign rampant. There’s other factors involved, like having one or another of her siblings live with us for nearly 8 years now, but basically her sex drive has gone down and down at a steady rate to the point that she feels dirty doing anything other than the most basic lovemaking, and then she feels guilty because she’s let me down.. I’m hoping there’s something on this site that will help me trigger something in the back of her brain to help her libido and perhaps give the same effect of a couple glasses of wine, something to put the glint back in her eye, but not to turn her into a raging nympho.. well.. mmm.. 🆒 I’m off to read bosshank’s married post ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 1:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/7 "2009-03-06T01:34:12Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 My suggestion would be to use TUTH and IH . Maybe some Ishine for earlier in the day to put her in the great mood and draw here to you more. TUTH is very arousing so like the members suggest start slow with it. IH gives a close, connected feel which is great . Women really love this vibe . If you have questions just ask. **Your GC is on its way** 😃 Cya in the forum Tisha ---
**Author:** ![pstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f08c70/32.png) [@pstro](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pstro)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 2:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/8 "2009-03-06T14:44:10Z")
Got it Tisha, many thanks! I have a question though.. when I browse the To-Gos vs the regular size bottles (I’d like to try things out before I buy the big bottles), I see Instant Shine and [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) **for Men** in the big bottles, but in the ToGos, neither of them say for Men. Are they the same product? And is the $14.95 shipping option really the only choice for Canada? ---
**Author:** ![wilks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f475e1/32.png) [@wilks](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/wilks)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 7:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/9 "2009-03-06T19:01:17Z")
> [@pstro](#): > > Got it Tisha, many thanks! > > I have a question though.. when I browse the To-Gos vs the regular size bottles (I’d like to try things out before I buy the big bottles), I see Instant Shine and Instant Honesty **for Men** in the big bottles, but in the ToGos, neither of them say for Men. Are they the same product? > > And is the $14.95 shipping option really the only choice for Canada? I believe they are, but I would call and ask to be sure. That way you can get your order in before the weekend. ---
**Author:** ![pstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f08c70/32.png) [@pstro](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pstro)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2009, 8:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/10 "2009-03-06T20:52:19Z")
> [@wilks](#): > > I believe they are, but I would call and ask to be sure. That way you can get your order in before the weekend. It’s already in.. I hope it arrives before date night on Tuesday 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![pstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f08c70/32.png) [@pstro](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pstro)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2009, 10:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/first-post/26756/11 "2009-03-09T22:19:59Z")
> [@pstro](#): > > It’s already in.. I hope it arrives before date night on Tuesday 🆒 Well, it arrived, but even with someone home all day long, apart from a 5 minute window picking up my kindergarten son from school, they left a pickup notification! 😠 Tomorrow I hope!