# Freaky Polarized Hits at a Fetish Club: the good, the bad, and the awesome! **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [June 26, 2016, 5:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/freaky-polarized-hits-at-a-fetish-club-the-good-the-bad-and-the-awesome/66117 "2016-06-26T17:08:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![TheAttractor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/theattractor/32/575_2.png) [@TheAttractor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheAttractor)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2016, 5:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/freaky-polarized-hits-at-a-fetish-club-the-good-the-bad-and-the-awesome/66117/1 "2016-06-26T17:08:35Z")
Last night (Saturday), I decided to go to an open house night at a fetish/BDSM club. I have no fetishes, but wanted to do something edgy, crazy, and off-the-wall. Something to sit back and smile about, come work on Monday. Especially considering that my good friends are all in relationships now, and nights out with them have become super-tame; seeing a comedy movie together is as wild as it gets. So I requested Uber to go to the club, got dropped off at a gas station, then walked about 6 blocks to a warehouse-looking building. Paid cover and went inside. I didn’t drive 'cause I didn’t want anyone to see my car parked outside. Plus, I downed a few shots before heading out to take the edge off, since alcohol was prohibited there. I dressed normally: just shorts and a T-shirt. Given what kind of place it was, it had no dress code. When prompted for what’s my fetish, I just told people I have a kissing fetish. (I get aroused by French kissing, despite being well into my 30’s, so I guess that’s sort of true.) But my main reason for saying it, is that it’s innocuous and believable, just enough to allow me to fit in, rather than come off as a “tourist”. And unlike many fetishes, completely 100% painless. Before heading out, I put on the following. A314: 2 sprays, 1 on each temple TUTH: 2 sprays, 1 on each side of neck **Bouncers/security: the good** _Demographics: Caucasian and African American, early 30’s_ They turned out to be one of the most laid-back, yet professional bouncers I ever saw in a club. They actually smiled at me, answered all the questions I had, and even said to come see them if I run into any trouble. Given the fact that I was coming to a club as a single man, I was expecting them to have a field day with me, which had happened when I was in my early 20’s. So it turned out to be a nice mood-elevating start for the night, presumably thanks to the A314. **Men: the good** _Demographics: mostly Caucasian, 30 thru 45_ I spent very little time talking to the men, other than non-sexual small talk here or there. Despite my aggressive [pheromone](https://a314.com/) signature, they were cool and polite with me. I even had a few nice conversations, especially when wanting to take a break from approaching women. Gay men, if there were any, did not attempt to hit on me in any way whatsoever. **Most women: the bad** _Demographics: Caucasian and African American, 30 thru 45_ I found myself getting quite a bit of ghosting. Conversation openers resulted in a few minutes of stilted polite conversations, after which I knew to make a graceful exit. One lady brought a stuffed Playboy bunny toy in her purse, at which point she asked if I wanted to pet the bunny. Still, for the most part, I was getting ghosted left and right. I thought that was odd, since 2 sprays of TUTH isn’t too much for my age. Later, I talked to one woman who appeared particularly friendly. I told her about my kissing fetish, which she liked, but having gotten rejected quite a few times before then, I was already hesitant to actually kiss her, even after she let me take a sip out of the pint whiskey bottle she snuck in. **Two women: the awesome** _Demographics: Caucasian, 45-ish_ After experiencing a rejection after rejection, I decided to cut my losses and leave. I went outside to a city bus top that doubled as a taxi/Uber stand. I saw the woman from earlier standing there, along with her friend. She looked at me, and shouted: “Kissing fetish!!!”, and pulled me into a hug. She reeked of tobacco and alcohol; I saw an unfinished bottle still hidden in her bra. She motioned her friend to join in on the hug, since it was windy outside. Pleasantly shocked by the sudden turn of events, I decided to go big or go home! I leaned over and tried to kiss the first woman. She reacted very positively, and we started making out slowly and erotically. A few minutes later, her friend grabbed my head, turned me toward her, and started kissing me too. She was a little bit more enjoyable, because she must have taken a breath mint before leaving the club. I got a little bolder and said: “You know, it’ll be more efficient if we do a threesome kiss?” One of them said: “Nope, we’re not heteroflexible like that. Those women are annoying as f\_ck; pick a side already!” I agree with her, so I gave her a high-five in response, despite having lost out on a very sexy experience. They kissed me for another 5 minutes or so, until my Uber came. The driver gave me a thumbs-up after I got in his car. It happened so fast, that I forgot to ask for their phone numbers. **Closing thoughts** Well, the night turned out just like the thread title: the good, the bad, and the awesome. I’m still having trouble integrating the whole experience. And honestly, if it weren’t for the women at the bus stop, I’d consider the whole night a failure. Questions? Comments? Thoughts? ---
**Author:** ![tye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d6d6ee/32.png) [@tye](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tye)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2016, 3:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/freaky-polarized-hits-at-a-fetish-club-the-good-the-bad-and-the-awesome/66117/2 "2016-06-28T15:02:24Z")
Where is this place!!! You had a good mix for that environment…I would use some ih or io also. ---
**Author:** ![mobocaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mobocaster](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mobocaster)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2016, 4:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/freaky-polarized-hits-at-a-fetish-club-the-good-the-bad-and-the-awesome/66117/3 "2016-06-28T16:01:17Z")
Agree that it is a good mature status/sexual and at 33, it isn’t too heavy on the TUTH. I’m wondering if the inherent status might have been you stumbling block here? IME (and its not that much) of the fetish scene is that guys are very often in a supplicant/reciever or even “beta” position, with a great stress on the woman’s right to decide and with considerations for her safety paramount. Whish is all good but it can alter the attraction dynamic somewhat. So you walk-in with a no-nonsense/in-charge/high status/know you own mind and very unashamedly sexual signature, which may go down well with the bouncers but may equally set many participannts on-edge and have them feel a little wary of you. The opposite is that if you go to some more of these nights, enough to start to get recognised, the response to you signature will probably turn round but this is not a fast-acting thing. Maybe consider adding something to promote bonding/connection/trust? IH or the IH/IS combo are IME good for helping people to explore their fantasies with you. A disinhibitor may also be useful - [P83](https://pheromonelabs.com/product/p83/) to help with physical disinhibition - I’d suggest the 40-60mcg range for that kind of mix. Or P96 for the emotional equivalent - 20-50mcg range IMO. Of course there is P97, which with a sexual or status/sexual mix can help tap-into the darker side of a woman’s personality. This could be one for the “hurt-me” ladies. Some TAC of course - in excess of 20mcg for the more goofy/playful aspect of your fetish. ---
**Author:** ![TheAttractor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/theattractor/32/575_2.png) [@TheAttractor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheAttractor)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2016, 1:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/freaky-polarized-hits-at-a-fetish-club-the-good-the-bad-and-the-awesome/66117/4 "2016-06-29T01:02:09Z")
> [@mobocaster](#): > > I’m wondering if the inherent status might have been you stumbling block here? IME (and its not that much) of the fetish scene is that guys are very often in a supplicant/reciever or even “beta” position, with a great stress on the woman’s right to decide and with considerations for her safety paramount. Whish is all good but it can alter the attraction dynamic somewhat. > > So you walk-in with a no-nonsense/in-charge/high status/know you own mind and very unashamedly sexual signature, which may go down well with the bouncers but may equally set many participannts on-edge and have them feel a little wary of you. The opposite is that if you go to some more of these nights, enough to start to get recognised, the response to you signature will probably turn round but this is not a fast-acting thing. The first part sounds like a dom/sub scene, and I hate BDSM. So using a powerful alpha signature was my intention. Almost subtly sticking it to the usual BDSM scenes with the woman as the dom. I still followed the standard fetish protocol of verbalizing my alleged fetish (i.e. kissing) before initiating it with a new partner. So did everyone else in that place. As for the second part, I don’t plan to come back, not even with the kiss I got (which I’m sure was a fluke). _Maybe_ for their next open house in a few months. Otherwise, they require a membership fee, and it’s not cheap. Plus, like I said, I’m not into fetishes, so it’s a waste of money. Also, my main reason for going there in the first place was a mental competition of sorts: to be more edgy and exciting than my friends, who are now in “old-people-style” relationships, and don’t really do much of what I’d consider fun. The experiment largely failed. But the women at the bus stop/Uber stand were awesome: they salvaged my night, although much of it had to do with them being drunk. They could’ve been “tourists”, like me. Hey, not many 33-year-old men kiss women on the street in an industrial area and get away with it. I stumbled into the Uber car with a grin on my face; I can only imagine what the driver was thinking when he first saw the three of us. Who knows; maybe I do have a real fetish after all 😉.