# Fundamental Basis of Attraction - Create Order out of Chaos + F.M. Alexander's Tech

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This is v good.

[The fundamental basis of attraction Krauser’s PUA Adventure](http://krauserpua.com/2011/04/13/the-fundamental-basis-of-attraction/)

> [@krauser](#):
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> I’ve finally figured it out. What is the underlying principle from which all attraction springs? When you do something in a set and a girl responds well, what was your behaviour an expression of? What is the single most basic ingredient from which the entire superstructure of successful game rests?  
> It’s not value  
> It’s not character  
> It’s not survival and replication  
> The fundamental basis of all attraction is the ability to create order out of chaos.

[Manhood Academy](http://manhood101.com/ebook.html)

> [@manhood101](#):
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> An orderly expression naturally attracts others and encourages  
> them to respond positively. If your expression is not attracting  
> others, then by definition, it’s disorderly. Hence, the way others  
> respond to you is indicative of how much or how little you’ve  
> progressed toward an orderly condition.  
> Good expression comes from good training. Slouching  
> shoulders, lack of eye contact and a monotone, mumbling voice  
> are expressions of disorder resulting from a lack of proper  
> social training.  
> Disorderly communication is unattractive, confusing, can be  
> dangerous and is detrimental to social interaction. Lying about  
> your intentions, using sarcasm, giving bad advice, being vague,  
> yelling fire in a crowded theater or employing poor grammar  
> are examples of different types of disorderly communication.  
> Although you can make small improvements in your expression,  
> major improvement requires external training. Someone  
> more competent than you must expose the disorder in your  
> expression to bring it back into a functioning (attractive)  
> order. What you read in print is no substitute for real social  
> interaction. Therefore, we provide the following simply as a  
> guideline for good expression.

> [@](#):
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> Alexander, although not trained as a physiologist, showed a shrewd understanding of how the brain worked. Our consciousness, in the cortex of the brain, is where our will to do something arises. After this the pathways go to centres deep in the brain which form the subconscious or unconscious. If nothing is done to stop existing programs being activated resulting in inappropriate muscle contractions, then a person’s characteristic way of sitting, standing and doing things will occur.  
> Alexander found the key for stopping these unconscious processes from taking their pre-set paths. Once the impulse has formed in one’s consciousness then one stops, or inhibits, the next step in activating the unconscious programs…
> 
> Alexander made the significant discovery that the way to interrupt the sequence was to ‘will to do’ something then stop (or inhibit) it which will allow a new ‘program’ to be developed subconsciously while consciously or mentally giving directions… To decide not to do is an instance of Alexander’s concept of “inhibition.” A physiologist would also use the same term in its scientific sense (Garlick 1990, 17).

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There is some gold here. F.M. Alexander talked about conscious control allowing man to override instinctual reflex responses, and the authors of this booklet are continuing along a similar theme.

> [@manhood101](#):
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> Comp onents of An Ord erly Expr ession  
> Communication is necessary to create order in your  
> environment and in other people. Communication is not about  
> conveying information. It’s about conveying and facilitating  
> order.  
> Orderly social communication conveys your thoughts, feelings  
> and honest reactions to your experiences. Merely sharing  
> a chronology of events does not convey much about your  
> condition. People want to know what type of arrangement and  
> order you bring to your experiences. Being able to convey how  
> and why you experience something causes others to become  
> attracted to the orderly social experience you create.
> 
> An orderly expression conveys your experience of the world,  
> specifically your reactions to it, through your face, voice tone,  
> word choices, emotion and body language.  
> Many people make the mistake of neglecting to speak if they  
> have no new information to convey. They fail to realize that  
> new information is not as stimulating as how you personally  
> experience the information you receive. It’s not necessary to  
> travel to exotic places to have something interesting to say.  
> The interest is created through your experience of things.  
> Your personal arrangement of the experience matters, not the  
> actual experience itself.  
> When you convey your reactions to your experiences, you  
> are creating an orderly social interaction. Although people  
> commonly attempt to share their experiences with others,  
> they fail to bring the other person into that experience. A  
> properly conveyed reaction allows the other person to join  
> in and connect with your experience. The more vividly you  
> convey your reactions, the more attractive and competent your  
> expression becomes.  
> …  
> Candor  
> Candor is more than honesty. It is the admission of all types  
> of disorder and the recognition of one orderly way. It is the  
> proper removal of all the wrong perspectives and the adoption  
> of the one functional view. A person can only become as candid  
> as their realization allows. The clearer they become regarding  
> what is dysfunctional and functional, they more candid their  
> expression.  
> Exposing disorder naturally leads to candor—an open, genuine  
> and orderly expression. Not only is candor attractive because  
> of its orderly nature, it also facilitates order in others. An  
> orderly expression conveys order to its recipients and directs  
> them toward order. An orderly expression will improve the  
> expression of those exposed to it; if you regularly communicate  
> with a friend and that friend fails to move toward order, your  
> own expression lacks order. You are not applying pleasure to  
> encourage orderly behavior, and you are not applying pain to  
> discourage disorderly behavior.  
> To put it another way, an orderly expression is like sunshine;  
> if people are exposed to it long enough, they cannot help but  
> get a tan. Your expression will change them by virtue of its  
> function.
> 
> But if your expression has only the outward appearance of  
> order, it will act as a light bulb—shining but producing no  
> change.  
> A candid person conveys order and is free of double meanings  
> (e.g., sarcasm), distortions (e.g., lies, mischaracterizations),  
> denial (e.g., hiding your disorderly condition) and other  
> irresponsible, disorderly forms of communication.  
> Additionally, while candor is painful to dysfunctional people, it  
> provides pleasure to those moving away from disorder. Candor  
> gives others a pleasurable incentive to meet your expectations.  
> Even though women are often shocked by honesty and  
> openness, they cannot deny the attractive nature of an orderly  
> expression full of candor.  
> Eff ects of An Ord erly Expr ession  
> An orderly expression encourages its recipients to improve  
> their own expression. When people see someone employing  
> good expression and receiving positive responses, their own  
> poor expression is exposed. This motivates them to emulate  
> the orderly elements of the other person’s expression. As  
> a result, their own expression improves and becomes more  
> attractive.  
> Conveying your expression in an orderly way shows approval  
> for the listener. It lets that person know you care enough about  
> them to share yourself through your experiences. Thus, orderly  
> expression is crucial to forming satisfying relationships.  
> Since order is attractive, an expression that follows this  
> principle is also inherently attractive. Your orderly expression  
> provides pleasurable stimulation to the recipient. It’s like a  
> carefully arranged painting or a well composed song bringing  
> enjoyment to the listener. Because your ability to convey  
> yourself in an orderly way creates a pleasurable experience,  
> others will value your expectations and be open to meeting  
> them.

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Tacitus pointed out to me a while ago that the transits of Pluto are often associated with tremendous changes in social structures and ideas.

In 2008 we ended the era that began in 1995 symbolized by Pluto in Sagittarius - the sign of openness, travel, growth, freedom, optimism. Pluto in Capricorn (2008 - 2023) is a little bit darker and rather less fun (although nothing to be terrified about). Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, planet of constriction, discipline and accountability. It is not then surprising that themes of greater order and putting in place of new structures seem to be coming to the fore of late.

[Threshold Crossing](http://www.melaniereinhart.com/melanie/ThresholdCrossing.htm)

> [@](#):
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> In Capricorn, we learn to move steadily towards a goal, to accept difficulties and to persist against the odds. Here are the challenges of the material plane, where we encounter character-building experiences in the form of the delays, blocks, and obstacles which can occur in the process of manifesting our intentions. Like the mountain-goat, who can live with little sustenance at high altitude, we learn to stay focused, and meet with integrity our duties and responsibilities in the world as we climb. We are stringent, disciplined and dedicated, returning from fantasy and the realm of possibility into actuality and the present. We learn to work with Time, rather than against it. Indeed, Saturn sometimes called ‘Father Time’.

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As a Man Thinketh

[As A Man Thinketh by James Allen](http://jamesallen.wwwhubs.com/think.htm)

> [@](#):
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> The aphorism, “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he,” not only embraces the whole of a man’s being, but is so comprehensive as to reach out to every condition and circumstance of his life. A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.
> 
> As the plant springs from, and could not be without, the seed, so every act of a man springs from the hidden seeds of thought, and could not have appeared without them. This applies equally to those acts called “spontaneous” and “unpremeditated” as to those which are deliberately executed.
> 
> Act is the blossom of thought, and joy and suffering are its fruits; thus does a man garner in the sweet and bitter fruitage of his own husbandry.
> 
> Thought in the mind hath made us. What we are  
> By thought we wrought and built. If a man’s mind  
> Hath evil thoughts, pain comes on him as comes  
> The wheel the ox behind . . . If one endure in purity  
> of thought joy follows him as his own shadow - sure.  
> …  
> Man is a growth by law, and not a creation by artifice, and cause and effect is as absolute and undeviating in the hidden realm of thought as in the world of visible and material things. A noble and Godlike character is not a thing of favor or chance, but is the natural result of continued effort in right thinking, the effect of long-cherished association with Godlike thoughts. An ignoble and bestial character, by the same process, is the result of the continued harboring of groveling thoughts.
> 
> Man is made or unmade by himself; in the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace. By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascends to the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought, he descends below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master.
> 
> Of all the beautiful truths pertaining to the soul which have been restored and brought to light in this age, none is more gladdening or fruitful of divine promise and confidence than this - that man is the master of thought, the molder of character, and maker and shaper of condition, environment, and destiny.
> 
> As a being of Power, Intelligence, and Love, and the lord of his own thoughts, man holds the key to every situation, and contains within himself that transforming and regenerative agency by which he may make himself what he wills.
> 
> Man is always the master, even in his weakest and most abandoned state; but in his weakness and degradation he is the foolish master who misgoverns his “household.” When he begins to reflect upon his condition, and to search diligently for the Law upon which his being is established, he then becomes the wise master, directing his energies with intelligence, and fashioning his thoughts to fruitful issues. Such is the conscious master, and man can only thus become by discovering within himself the laws of thought; which discovery is totally a matter of application, self-analysis, and experience.
> 
> Only by much searching and mining are gold an diamonds obtained, and man can find every truth connected with his being if he will dig deep into the mine of his soul. And that he is the maker of his character, the molder of his life, and the builder of his destiny, he may unerringly prove: if he will watch, control, and alter his thoughts, tracing their effects upon himself, upon others, and upon his life and circumstances; if he will link cause and effect by patient practice and investigation, utilizing his every experience, even to the most trivial, as a means of obtaining that knowledge of himself. In this direction, as in no other, is the law absolute that “He that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened”; for only by patience, practice, and ceaseless importunity can a man enter the Door of the Temple of Knowledge.  
> …  
> A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.
> 
> Just as a gardener cultivates his plot, keeping it free from weeds, and growing the flowers and fruits which he requires, so may a man tend the garden of his mind, weeding out all the wrong, useless, and impure thoughts, and cultivating toward perfection the flowers and fruits of right, useful, and pure thoughts, By pursuing this process, a man sooner or later discovers that he is the master gardener of his soul, the director of his life. He also reveals, within himself, the laws of thought, and understands with ever-increasing accuracy, how the thought forces and mind elements operate in the shaping of his character, circumstances, and destiny.
> 
> Thought and character are one, and as character can only manifest and discover itself through environment and circumstance, the outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state. This does not mean that a man’s circumstances at any given time are an indication of his entire character, but that those circumstances are so intimately connected with some vital thought element within himself that, for the time being, they are indispensable to his development.
> 
> Every man is where he is by the law of his being. The thoughts which he has built into his character have brought him there, and in the arrangement of his life there is no element of chance, but all is the result of a law which cannot err. This is just as true of those who feel “out of harmony” with their surroundings as of those who are contented with them.
> 
> As the progressive and evolving being, man is where he is that he may learn that he may grow; and as he learns the spiritual lesson which any circumstance contains for him, it passes away and gives place to other circumstances.
> 
> Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he believes himself to be the creature of outside conditions. But when he realizes that he may command the hidden soil and seeds of his being out of which circumstances grow, he then becomes the rightful master of himself.
> 
> That circumstances grow out of thought every man knows who has for any length of time practiced self-control and self-purification, for he will have noticed that the alteration in his circumstances has been in exact ratio with his altered mental condition. So true is this that when a man earnestly applies himself to remedy the defects in his character, and makes swift and marked progress, he passes rapidly through a succession of vicissitudes.
> 
> The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors; that which it loves, and also that which it fears. It reaches the height of its cherished aspirations. It falls to the level of its unchastened desires - and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.
> 
> Every thought seed sown or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstance. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.
> 
> The outer world of circumstance shapes itself to the inner world of thought, and both pleasant and unpleasant external conditions are factors which make for the ultimate good of the individual. As the reaper of his own harvest, man learns both by suffering and bliss.
> 
> A man does not come to the almshouse or the jail by the tyranny of fate of circumstance, but by the pathway of groveling thoughts and base desires. Nor does a pure-minded man fall suddenly into crime by stress of any mere external force; the criminal thought had long been secretly fostered in the heart, and the hour of opportunity revealed its gathered power.
> 
> Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself. No such conditions can exist as descending into vice and its attendant sufferings apart from vicious inclinations, or ascending into virtue and its pure happiness without the continued cultivation of virtuous aspirations. And man, therefore, as the Lord and master of thought, is the maker of himself, the shaper and author of environment. Even at birth the soul comes to its own, and through every step of its earthly pilgrimage it attracts those combinations of conditions which reveal itself, which are the reflections of its own purity and impurity, its strength and weakness.
> 
> Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are. Their whims, fancies, and ambitions are thwarted at every step, but their inmost thoughts and desires are fed with their own food, be it foul or clean. The “divinity that shapes our ends” is in ourselves; it is our very self. Man is manacled only by himself. Thought and action are the jailers of Fate - they imprison, being base. They are also the angels of Freedom - they liberate, being noble. Not what he wishes and prays for does a man get, but what he justly earns. His wishes and prayers are only gratified and answered when they harmonize with his thoughts and actions.
> 
> In the light of this truth, what, then, is the meaning of “fighting against circumstances”? It means that a man is continually revolting against an effect without, while all the time he is nourishing and preserving its cause in his heart. That cause may take the form of a conscious vice or an unconscious weakness; but whatever it is, it stubbornly retards the efforts of its possessor, and thus calls aloud for remedy.
> 
> Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound. The man who does not shrink from self-crucifixion can never fail to accomplish the object upon which his heart is set. This is as true of earthly as of heavenly things. Even the man whose sole object is to acquire wealth must be prepared to make great personal sacrifices before he can accomplish his object; and how much more so he who would realize a strong and well-poised life?