# Getting back with an Ex girlfriend and what mones would be useful **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 31, 2012, 5:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398 "2012-01-31T17:53:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![okyoureabeast](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/okyoureabeast/32/1395_2.png) [@okyoureabeast](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/okyoureabeast)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2012, 8:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/21 "2012-02-11T08:49:29Z")
> [@lamentofking](#): > > So I’ve found out that what is hindering any progress with this girl is the fact that when she thinks about us getting back together she keeps replaying the time when I broke her heart and all the therapy she went through . How do I get around this ? Two options: Not as good 1. Say that, “ya know the past sucked, and frankly we’re not linear people. It’s sad you still live in that time and I feel for ya that you still do.” 2.Just cut your losses and go. Stop talking and begin no contact. Completely ignore her. She’ll probably break down and start wondering where her security blanket went to. I did this for ONE day and had my ex crawling back to me after ignoring her texts for one day. A combination of the two. Granted, I like being honest and I’ll take a combination of potentially losing a girl+being honest + being alpha than trying something more complicated. High risk high reward. ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2012, 9:34am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/22 "2012-02-11T09:34:49Z")
> [@okyoureabeast](#): > > 2.Just cut your losses and go. Stop talking and begin no contact. Completely ignore her. She’ll probably break down and start wondering where her security blanket went to. I did this for ONE day and had my ex crawling back to me after ignoring her texts for one day. Even though it was a year since we had convo (besides last week sunday) I should still go the no contact route ? ---
**Author:** ![okyoureabeast](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/okyoureabeast/32/1395_2.png) [@okyoureabeast](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/okyoureabeast)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2012, 11:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/23 "2012-02-11T11:06:59Z")
> [@lamentofking](#): > > Even though it was a year since we had convo (besides last week sunday) I should still go the no contact route ? Do it, and in the mean time spin other plates with different women. Be fun and flirty with a lot of different chicks. You’ll forget her and won’t feel so heart broken. She will either contact you or won’t. Simply stated, you will know if she really was interested in you. Take this time for self improvement too. Go to the gym and get a new wardrobe. You’ll look and feel better. ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 8:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/24 "2012-02-13T20:39:06Z")
Well new news . she still cant decide on whether or not to start a new relationship with me . New reason now though . It’s cause she says she sees herself growing closer to God (told you she’s really religious) and growing more spiritually internally and externally . She doesn’t want her spiritual life to suffer because she would be focused on a romantic relationship . I’m not a die-hard christian but i’m sure one can be in a relationship and simultaneously grow more spiritually . She doesn’t think its impossible but doesn’t know how it would work . I dont intend on interfering on that but i do want her as my gf again . Anyone have any experience in this sort of situation ? ---
**Author:** ![andromun](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andromun/32/365_2.png) [@andromun](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/andromun)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 8:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/25 "2012-02-13T20:52:09Z")
> [@lamentofking](#): > > Well new news . she still cant decide on whether or not to start a new relationship with me . New reason now though . It’s cause she says she sees herself growing closer to God (told you she’s really religious) and growing more spiritually internally and externally . She doesn’t want her spiritual life to suffer because she would be focused on a romantic relationship . > > I’m not a die-hard christian but i’m sure one can be in a relationship and simultaneously grow more spiritually . She doesn’t think its impossible but doesn’t know how it would work . I dont intend on interfering on that but i do want her as my gf again . Anyone have any experience in this sort of situation ? I think you’re in a tight spot for two reasons: (1) She had to go through therapy (so she said)…(2) She is religious. Be honest with yourself for a second - you broke her heart the first time around and she wants to protect yourself from that happening again. Broken hearts suck donkey balls and you broke hers. Also she has a relationship with the G\*d so you have to respect that. My advice, be real honest with your intentions. If all you want is to get laid do her the favor and move on to another girl. If you want her back because you really like her then pursue it and be patient. ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2012, 9:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/26 "2012-02-13T21:09:13Z")
> [@andromun](#): > > I think you’re in a tight spot for two reasons: (1) She had to go through therapy (so she said)…(2) She is religious. > > Be honest with yourself for a second - you broke her heart the first time around and she wants to protect yourself from that happening again. Broken hearts suck donkey balls and you broke hers. > > Also she has a relationship with the G\*d so you have to respect that. > > My advice, be real honest with your intentions. If all you want is to get laid do her the favor and move on to another girl. If you want her back because you really like her then pursue it and be patient. I respect the relationship she has with Him . And I really do like her so I guess I’m going to be persistent . ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2012, 7:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/27 "2012-02-23T19:37:04Z")
Wow . I thought we were doing great but then all of a sudden it goes downhill I wore mones on 2/3 of the long encounters we had (IH-IS combo first time and A314 /b the second time) and I thought we were doing pretty good but then just today she texts me about how she’s still not sure and then she played the don’t want to get hurt again card . And then she said that even though I feel it in my heart that we should be together she doesn’t atm . I mean I knew she wasn’t gonna come back to me in like 3 weeks but I at least thought we were making good progress. How do I get her trust back? I don’t know if she’s aware of it but the breakup has hurt me as much as it did her . ---
**Author:** ![andromun](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andromun/32/365_2.png) [@andromun](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/andromun)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2012, 8:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/28 "2012-02-23T20:18:58Z")
> [@lamentofking](#): > > Wow . I thought we were doing great but then all of a sudden it goes downhill > > I wore mones on 2/3 of the long encounters we had (IH-IS combo first time and A314 /b the second time) and I thought we were doing pretty good but then just today she texts me about how she’s still not sure and then she played the don’t want to get hurt again card. IMO I wouldn’t say it went downhill, she was hurt and is simply trying to protect herself. As I said it will take time so you may have to be a little more patient. Keep it cool and again be patient - I hope you get her back. ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 11:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/29 "2012-02-28T23:02:04Z")
> [@andromun](#): > > IMO I wouldn’t say it went downhill, she was hurt and is simply trying to protect herself. > > As I said it will take time so you may have to be a little more patient. Keep it cool and again be patient - I hope you get her back. It seems to be going well now. We talked and admitted to each other how much we miss being in each other’s arms . Getting back together isn’t a definite yet though . There might be some cuddling going on but she’s cautious about it because she’s saying what if she starts feeling some sexual attraction towards me since we just started talking again for only a month . I don’t expect to have sex if we do cuddle but I also know that sexual attraction is a good thing to feel towards your partner so I was thinking a combo of A314 + TUTH ? ---
**Author:** ![andromun](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andromun/32/365_2.png) [@andromun](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/andromun)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2012, 11:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/30 "2012-02-29T11:19:52Z")
> [@lamentofking](#): > > It seems to be going well now. We talked and admitted to each other how much we miss being in each others arms . Getting back together isn’t a definite yet though. There might be some cuddling going on but she’s cautious about it because she’s saying what if she starts feeling some sexual attraction towards me since we just started talking again for only a month . > > I don’t expect to have sex if we do cuddle but I also know that sexual attraction is a good thing to feel towards your partner so I was thinking a combo of A314 + TUTH ? Looks like you are slowly winning back her trust, which is good. Now you do need to turn it sexual. Just be careful with Tuth, you are 20 yrs old and can easily OD on it. Have you found your sweet spot yet? ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2012, 8:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/31 "2012-02-29T20:07:45Z")
> [@andromun](#): > > Looks like you are slowly winning back her trust, which is good. Now you do need to turn it sexual. Just be careful with Tuth, you are 20 yrs old and can easily OD on it. Have you found your sweet spot yet? No but I figure that one spray of the regular shouldn’t make me OD . I was using that when I was 19 and I’m buffering it this time with A314 so that should be good enough . I can already tell that two sprays is pushing it . ---
**Author:** ![lamentofking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@lamentofking](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lamentofking)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2012, 8:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398/32 "2012-03-04T20:12:51Z")
Well here’s the skinny: We are on spring break and the ex and i live in different cities . We were texting and she was saying how she needs a blow up doll to cuddle with (she was jk) and then i said that we were more cuddily for each other than dolls . But she says that she doesn’t need to be cuddiling with me no matter how much SHE WANTS to because she doesn’t think she’ll be able to control her hormones (and im guessing she’s talking about her sex drive/libido rising high as it should when two people who are sexually attracted towards each other hold physical contact for the length of time of cuddiling. It sounds to me that I need to somehow influence her decision that she’ll be able to control her hormones…or that maybe she won’t but get her to agree to it anyway . I guess she doesn’t want to move too fast or something . Well how do I tip the bar in my (and eventually “our”) favor ? [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/getting-back-with-an-ex-girlfriend-and-what-mones-would-be-useful/54398.md?page=1)