# Going out with the ex tonight **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [August 14, 2011, 10:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806 "2011-08-14T22:26:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![ecr32](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ecr32/32/1450_2.png) [@ecr32](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ecr32)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 10:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/1 "2011-08-14T22:26:38Z")
My ex invited me out tonight. Not sure what to expect since we havent been official for a year. Im taking her for some drinks, but I want there to be alot of fun and laughs. Not sure what to wear. I have a314 oil, IO, IS, IH, IJ, ammo, TUTH, p83. Not sure why im thinking so much. Im usually good at these decisions. My goal for tonight is to get her hot and bothered šŸ˜› Help Make a decision for me. Iā€™ll report tomorrow with results šŸ˜‰ I havent used any mones on a date yet. Mostly only to work. ---
**Author:** ![P51Mustang](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/p51mustang/32/1266_2.png) [@P51Mustang](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/P51Mustang)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 11:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/2 "2011-08-14T23:04:15Z")
IS + IH are my favorites ---
**Author:** ![ecr32](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ecr32/32/1450_2.png) [@ecr32](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ecr32)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 11:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/3 "2011-08-14T23:14:46Z")
yes IS is my favorite especially for the self effects. I havent really gone too many days without it. I havent tried IH yet. Sounds good. ---
**Author:** ![THE\_GHOST](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/the_ghost/32/1990_2.png) [@THE\_GHOST](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/THE_GHOST)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2011, 2:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/4 "2011-08-15T14:43:56Z")
> [@ecr32](#): > > My ex invited me out tonight. Not sure what to expect since we havent been official for a year. Im taking her for some drinks, but I want there to be alot of fun and laughs. Not sure what to wear. I have a314 oil, IO, IS, IH, IJ, ammo, TUTH, p83. > > Not sure why im thinking so much. Im usually good at these decisions. My goal for tonight is to get her hot and bothered šŸ˜› Help Make a decision for me. Iā€™ll report tomorrow with results šŸ˜‰ > > I havent used any mones on a date yet. Mostly only to work. If you want fun and laughs but still want to maintain the sexy man vibe, ammo + IO + p83 is a good combo. ---
**Author:** ![PheroJack](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherojack/32/527_2.png) [@PheroJack](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroJack)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2011, 9:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/5 "2011-08-15T21:50:11Z")
TUTH + IS + IH would be my suggestion. Donā€™t be scared to go with TUTH because you will be surprised on how it might change things šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![ecr32](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ecr32/32/1450_2.png) [@ecr32](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ecr32)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 1:24am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/6 "2011-08-16T01:24:37Z")
So I decide to go with 4 drops of a314 1 behind each ear and 1 to each wrist. 4 sprays of IS to neck and chest 4 sprays of IH two to each forearm The date started off a little awkward. She was very quiet on the ride. She was not very receptive to my conversation attempts. I usually can get a good conversation started right away. I figured it could have been to our passed history she could have been nervous. We show up at the bar not many people there. About 10 people total. Couple guys give me the usual nod of ā€œWhats up broā€ and we sit and order drinks. Conversation finally kicks in and we start talking about our history and how crazy we were together. We bring up her current relationship and talk about him ect. Toward the end of our time she gets up to use the restroom. I pay for our drinks and wait for her to exit. As she does I go for it and we make out briefly. We head to my car and before we enter we have another make out session. We pull off and begin to drive. As im driving she is very touchy and begins to rub my thighs and crotch. She nibbles on my ear and we continue kissing. As we are approaching her home she tells me she doesnt want the night to end. I see a motel and I pull into the parking lot without asking her anything. She gives me a girlish smile and laugh, but doesnt say anything. Here is where the story gets interesting. As we are into our foreplay I could feels things feeling awkward again. Almost like we should not be doing this type of feeling, however we continue and go all the way. She falls asleep and in my mind Im thinking I have to be at work in 3 hours ā˜¹ I wake her up to tell we should go then out of nowhere I look at her and tell her " We should give this relationship another go". She then starts to cry and tells me we should not have done this. That old feelings began to come back and that she was stupid to invite me out. She want to be with her current boyfriend ect. Now im feeling awkward as hell now haha. It truly confused me because I always loved her and this night just brought all those great feelings back. I dropped her off home we had a ā€œFarewellā€ conversation blah blah. On the ride home I really began to feel emotional and actually teared up a little bit. I showered and went to work. All day today at work I felt down. I sprayed myself with IS and it did not give the usual spunk I get from it.ā˜¹ All in all it was a interesting yet painful night for me. Hope I dont get anymore of those, but then again why the hell did I go out with an EX? I should have left her in the passed ā˜¹ Not sure if any of my mones affected the situation, but I think IH provoked my attempt to be with her and even may have brought the tears? Not sure. Thanks guys for the future suggestions. ---
**Author:** ![Professor\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dc4da7/32.png) [@Professor\_P](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Professor_P)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 7:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/7 "2011-08-16T07:04:24Z")
Dang. Thatā€™s harsh. Exā€™s are always extra sticky situations. But if sheā€™s happy with her current why did she even do that! How she think heā€™s gonna react when he finds out (and they always do sooner or later). If sheā€™s willing to do stuff like that while in a relationship she wants to stay in, maybe you dodged a bullet there. _shrugs and sighs_ But I know thatā€™s not what you want to hear. Sounds like youā€™ve got mad love for the girl. Those are the hard ones to let go, which is probably why you allowed yourself to get caught in this situation in the first place. Sorry to hear how it turned out. I know how it is. That pain and confusion is hard to shake. Sometimes I thinkā€¦ life is too short to be so complicated. Sadly, nothing is ever easy and love is definitely not. šŸ˜• ---
**Author:** ![ecr32](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ecr32/32/1450_2.png) [@ecr32](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ecr32)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 4:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/8 "2011-08-16T16:20:43Z")
Yes I definitely dodged something there. I knew it was a bad idea. In the past she has done the pull me in then push me away act. I got my hopes up for nothing. I wont let it happen again. Thanks again everyone. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 4:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/9 "2011-08-16T16:57:56Z")
In my experience, if it doesnā€™t work out the first time, it isnā€™t going to work out the second time. Thatā€™s why I try my hardest to make it work the first time around. ---
**Author:** ![Strike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c89c15/32.png) [@Strike](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Strike)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2011, 9:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/10 "2011-08-16T21:11:31Z")
Last summer a ex who I fell hard for a year prior tried that. She randomly emailed me asking to go to dinner and ā€œtalkā€. Iā€™m nice and agreedā€¦ And I let her talk o wouldnā€™t play into her games. One breakup and crazy heartache is more than enough for me. I leave bad ending relationships in the past as a rule set to decrease the chances of being hurt againā€¦ Armor I guess. Now I have the pherosā€¦ Iā€™m heavily debating going to her church on a Sunday and just messing with her BIG time! Ha ha ha! I probably wonā€™t but it is funny to think about. šŸ˜‰ Anyway, bro, Iā€™m sorry you had to go through that and I hope you donā€™t ever have to again. ---
**Author:** ![maksimus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f8ce5/32.png) [@maksimus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/maksimus)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2011, 5:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/11 "2011-08-17T17:25:16Z")
Sorry to hear how things turned out. Hope things work out for the better. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2011, 7:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/12 "2011-08-17T19:15:16Z")
Well you are either in the driver seat of your life, or someone else will be. If youā€™re a man and you let a woman lead your life, well just think about that. Which leads me to the A314 and where you lead the interaction. A314 gives you the ALPHA mindset and sets you up as high-value so when you do something that might not be so high-value than you might start getting feelings of regret and non-congruency and thus feeling bad. I always ask myself before I do anything just two simple questions, which guides my life: 1. Is this taking me closer to my goal or further away? 2. Iā€™m I leaving this person with more or less value than when I first met them? If you start to feel bad or have feelings of regret more than likely you moved further away from your goal and you borrowed value from her to elevate yourself. The good news is we all make mistakes. Did you know that the Apollo mission to the moon basically failed its way there? It had to make constant corrections in its course to get there safely. Thatā€™s what makes the difference between those who succeed and those who donā€™t. The only time someone can fail is when they give up. A baby learning to walk never sits down after falling over and over and says, ā€œthatā€™s it, Iā€™m just not meant to walk.ā€ Keep at it and use any failings you might encounter as propellent to carry you to the moon. Thereā€™s an old saying that if you aim for the moon you might hit a star instead. ---
**Author:** ![ecr32](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ecr32/32/1450_2.png) [@ecr32](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ecr32)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2011, 10:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/going-out-with-the-ex-tonight/51806/13 "2011-08-17T22:20:00Z")
Wow I appreciate the words of wisdom! I grew up around women and I must say i never quiet got the advice you just gave. Awesome. Funny thing is she texts me today and asks if I wanted to hit a club. I didnt even respond.