# Graduate School & What to Do About My Target **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 6, 2017, 9:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/graduate-school-what-to-do-about-my-target/67424 "2017-10-06T21:05:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![lakerman34](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lakerman34/32/1663_2.png) [@lakerman34](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lakerman34)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2017, 9:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/graduate-school-what-to-do-about-my-target/67424/1 "2017-10-06T21:05:30Z")
Hey guys! It has been a while! I’m in graduate school now (when I joined this site, I was in high school, wow, has time flown by). In one of my classes, there is this Puerto Rican girl. She’s not in my program, but she’s taking one class in my school. The day we met, the professor asked us to all introduce each other. I butchered her name, but she approached me with her long hair to the side, neck showing towards me. I was infatuated pretty quickly. Few classes later, I catch her on the elevator, we re-introduce each other. Next class, she was laughing at everything I said (she still laughs at what I say a lot). At one point, we had INTENSE eye contact (staring each other in the eyes for a good 5 seconds, she smiled). We ended up walking together at the end of class, but I went my separate way. Fast forward to now (about 3 weeks later). We work together in a research group, so I have her phone number. Whenever I text her, I get a response (usually a paragraph), but the IOIs are dying down. She could easily make opportunities to be around me, but doesn’t (may be because she doesn’t want to come off as needy?) I was talking to a friend in class a little about myself (how I’m a middle son), and the friend said, “it explains a lot,” which I responded, “how I’m so dark and depressed?” and PR girl interjected (asking friend, NOT me), “isn’t the older child the dark and depressed one?” She seems to do that quite a bit – interjecting herself into my conversations, but it turns out that we have a LOT of people in that class that need to share their two cents, so I rarely get a word in with her. I’ve been playing around with Androstenone (from the “other” [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) website) and IShine. 2x NONE + 2 IS right on the neck. The nature of graduate school is we have 0 free time, and the nature of that class is that it is VERY professional. I don’t really get in a word with her very often (i.e. don’t get to really build a rapport). A part of me thinks that I’m displaying myself as unattainable. It’s either that or she is being VERY subtle and I suck with subtleties. Thoughts? Any mixes I should introduce? Also, anything to open MY self up kind of letting her know, “hey, I’m attainable, you can keep trying with me because one of these days, it just might work?” I know that PR is between 24 and 27 years old. ---
**Author:** ![evolver](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/evolver/32/1896_2.png) [@evolver](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/evolver)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2017, 10:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/graduate-school-what-to-do-about-my-target/67424/2 "2017-10-06T22:10:57Z")
> [@lakerman34](#): > > Thoughts? Any mixes I should introduce? Also, anything to open MY self up kind of letting her know, “hey, I’m attainable, you can keep trying with me because one of these days, it just might work?” > > I know that PR is between 24 and 27 years old. Holy shit, lakerman! It’s been a while. I seem to remember you loved heavy heavy none mixes back in the day. Not as bad as “markindallas” but pretty heavy! Correct me if I’m wrong. I think this is a “nut up buttercup” situation. She’s not showing as much interest because you haven’t been showing any interest. South American culture is show interest early and often. Ask her out. ---
**Author:** ![lakerman34](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lakerman34/32/1663_2.png) [@lakerman34](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lakerman34)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2017, 6:33am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/graduate-school-what-to-do-about-my-target/67424/3 "2017-10-07T06:33:16Z")
> [@evolver](#): > > Holy shit, lakerman! It’s been a while. I seem to remember you loved heavy heavy none mixes back in the day. Not as bad as “markindallas” but pretty heavy! Correct me if I’m wrong. > > I think this is a “nut up buttercup” situation. > She’s not showing as much interest because you haven’t been showing any interest. South American culture is show interest early and often. > > Ask her out. I guess? HAHA As a now “older” guy, and considering that my target is Puerto Rican, I think more -none is perfectly fine. Yeah, I don’t get a whole lot of time to talk to her in a more social context, which kills me. Also, when she interjects herself into my conversations, someone else ALWAYS pops up and I get booted from the convo. It’s a weird phenomenon. Everyone in that class always has to give their 2 cents, I swear. I did suggest we help each other on an assignment due Monday. She texted asking how I supposed we did that and that she wasn’t very comfortable due to the nature of the assignment (we are supposed to give our personal thoughts on a video, but grad school is completely OD-ing us with work). I told her I’d think of something, and I’d shoot her a text if she was interested. She never responded. I do realize it was a weird request though. If she brings it up, I think I may make a joke about it, (“You’re constantly rejecting all my advances” – see if that gets her mind jogging). Also, another tool I have is one day, she asked me if I spoke Spanish. I said no. Turns out, I do. I was going to spring it up on her one day, to impress her (native Spanish speakers apparently LOVE when a guy speaks Spanish, I hear).