# Greetings from the far side of the pond **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [September 26, 2008, 1:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344 "2008-09-26T13:19:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2008, 1:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/1 "2008-09-26T13:19:24Z")
HI all and greetings from Cornwall, UK ( the little pointy bit in the bottom left!) About me, 36, six foot part hispanic weighing about 210. I’m a lawyer, married to a wonderful woman with two kids. I like nothing more than wearing tight leather trousers and thrashing Japanese or Italian sportsbikes all day long but work gets in the way. When my wife fell pregnant with our second about 5 years ago, her libido disappeared to the extent that our sex life consists of twice since then. This obviously led to problems in the relationship and we both did things with other people that we are not proud of ( mentally by way of email and text, not physically) about a year ago which led to more self doubt on both sides, (this has also affected me in the work place). She is now somewhat reluctant to discuss our relationship issues, if I raise them, it tends to make her feel pressured and results in a bust up. I love her to bits but no man is invincible and the rock that is our marriage is beginning to crumble. I need her to feel close to me, relaxed and able to speak her mind freely.It may be that the answer is in the form of some heavy ammo and instant honesty for the home with some instant shine for the office. Your thoughts/advice gratefully appreciated ---
**Author:** ![yasserthekid1](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/yasserthekid1/32/1011_2.png) [@yasserthekid1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/yasserthekid1)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2008, 4:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/2 "2008-09-26T16:51:31Z")
Hi diamond, and welcome to the Pherotalk’s forum… that’s great that you’re trying to keep this relationship up man. How’s Cornwall??, I always wanted to visit there hehe. Back to your question, I think what you need is the [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) so that she can relax and feel good close to you, and also you could use some Instant Honesty so that she trusts you about anything that’s going through her mind and Instant shine also, so that she feels good around you and you feel great with yourself too.. the perfect way to have a good conversation, and stress less. After talking thru, you might wanna use some Heavy Ammo to get back that passion/love feeling. Finally some turn up the heat will work in bed time =)… hope it helps and welcome again ---
**Author:** ![yasserthekid1](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/yasserthekid1/32/1011_2.png) [@yasserthekid1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/yasserthekid1)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2008, 4:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/3 "2008-09-26T16:56:54Z")
oh and by the way.. hablas espanol?? ---
**Author:** ![esstee](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/esstee/32/2082_2.png) [@esstee](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/esstee)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2008, 5:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/4 "2008-09-26T17:01:32Z")
Hey, welcome buddy! For the office, you might like some A314, it works wonders for respect and commanding auth. IShine and [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) go well together as well, and is a really good mix with Ammo or Turn Up The Heat. It’s something you should try. TOGO bottles are handy and I normally order them for price reasons. You should try all the TOGOs with the $15 + 5 gifts you will get, and see what works. They last around a week to two weeks. Make sure you let us know how you get on. ---
**Author:** ![ntk23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/65b543/32.png) [@ntk23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ntk23)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2008, 5:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/5 "2008-09-26T17:02:25Z")
Hi Diamond, your choices look pretty good. Heavy ammo is OK for men in their late 30s like you and I, but even so, expose her to it gradually, as those closest to us can be freaked out by sudden changes in pheromone signature. Instant Honesty will help get a good connection going so you can talk stuff through too. Also Yasserthekid1’s [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) suggestion is a good one. The main pheromone in it, called Androstadienone, is not really a sexual one as such but is more romantic, it is kind of odd, I don’t claim to have figured it out myself but it seems to be like catnip to women, LOL. It may have a bad side effect on some men though, including the wearer, of depression while they can smell it. It doesn’t do that to me and it may or may not do that to you, but that is the caveat with it - you can read more on the Androtics product description for IFM. Instant Shine is always a good idea 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2008, 8:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/6 "2008-09-26T20:41:15Z")
Hi Diamond and Welcome to Pherotalk! You’re a lawyer, wow! I have a friend who is studying to be a lawyer and it’s so interesting talking to him. You guys definitely know how to turn and twist things 😉. I don’t know about wearing the leather trousers and thrashing japenese and Italian spokebikes, infact I’m a bit confused. Does the leather pants help with the fun of it all? 😃 Your wife’s libido is not gone, you just need to help her find it. I am wondering if [pheromones](https://a314.com/) can help in this situation, it seems like there maybe some trust issues and that is probably another reason why she doesn’t feel close enough to let you in physically. How long have you two been married? Like you said she doesn’t want to talk about it so I would recommend Alpha A314 which is a trust and respect pheromone. This will enable your wife to view you as that trusting, respectful figure she married. Plus the amazing benefit it will have on you and others at work. I also recommend instant honesty to help get the relationship to that deeper level of conversation. I do have to say mones are not magic and it’s going to take some time and effort. I would leave the attraction mones alone until that trust is rebuilt. Ammo might cause other women to notice you and flirt and then what? Where does that leave you with your wife? You might even consider counseling I respect that you love your wife enough to not cheat on her although tempted and you are willing to sit and work things out. Among us females we usually are under the perception that men don’t wanna talk things out and we are the ones who always have to look for a way to mend the relationship. You certainly proved us wrong Diamond. **Your Gift certificate is on it’s way!** ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2008, 11:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/7 "2008-09-29T11:56:13Z")
Wow, great advice folks, will keep you posted on progress! yasser- hablo un poco pero mi suegra es valenciana. esstee - thanks but she might get suspicious if i go straight for turn up the heat so will go a little softer to start with. ntk23 - if it works for you, hopefully will for me too. Mickaelia - sorry for the confusion, thrashing means to ride fast, leather pants are in case I get it wrong and don’t wish my backside to look like burger meat after I fall off! You’re quite right about her libido, it’s in there somewhere but we need to build confidence in ourselves to find it ( we both trust each other implicitly having learnt from our mistakes). I’m not looking for a miracle, just the chance to gently progress our relationship to where it should be. Once again, thanks one and all, fingers crossed. I’m a normal, thoughtful bloke and want my loving, honest wife back, not a raging nymphomaniac ( although I wouldn’t complain!!) Will keep you posted. ---
**Author:** ![yasserthekid1](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/yasserthekid1/32/1011_2.png) [@yasserthekid1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/yasserthekid1)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2008, 9:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/8 "2008-09-29T21:20:59Z")
que bien hehe… primer forum que respondo en espanhol jajaja… anyways, I think you should go for turn up the heat 5mgc porque me funciono a mi super bien con mi gf… i still don’t have ammo but turn up the heat did wonders for me, it just increases that feeling from her to you… and trust me.. without suspects… nobody ever thinks of pheromones being involved… just pure chemistry =D… ---
**Author:** ![yasserthekid1](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/yasserthekid1/32/1011_2.png) [@yasserthekid1](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/yasserthekid1)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2008, 9:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/9 "2008-09-29T21:27:54Z")
also try instant gentleman… it makes her feel safe around you and she starts looking at you as some kind of don juan =D… and if you want her to tell you everything that’s going thru her mind, [Instant Honesty](https://a314.com/product/instant-honesty/) will makes her spill out every single word, that at the end she’s gonna be like: “i don’t even know why i said that” lool… but instant honesty works both ways so you wanna be careful =))… disfruta hermano, que estas pheromonas son lo maximo hehe ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 12:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/10 "2008-09-30T00:11:07Z")
You are very welcome sweety! I am looking to get mines too and to start to feel sexy again I think I am going to start dating again, get myself a whole new wardrobe and some pheromones 😉 All the best. ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 9:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/11 "2008-09-30T09:26:30Z")
> [@yasserthekid1](#): > > also try instant gentleman… it makes her feel safe around you and she starts looking at you as some kind of don juan =D… and if you want her to tell you everything that’s going thru her mind, Instant Honesty will makes her spill out every single word, that at the end she’s gonna be like: “i don’t even know why i said that” lool… but instant honesty works both ways so you wanna be careful =))… disfruta hermano, que estas pheromonas son lo maximo hehe Mejor enviar los ninos a la abuela para el fin de semana!! A314, heavy ammo, [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) and IShine ordered so looking forward to the next few weeks! ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2008, 9:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/12 "2008-09-30T09:28:26Z")
Mickaelia, thanks, I certainly value the input from the ladies. From what I see, you shouldn’t need too much help with the dating!🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2008, 10:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings-from-the-far-side-of-the-pond/20344/13 "2008-10-06T22:35:21Z")
Thanks. I am rather picky when it comes to guys. I am working on not being to hard on you all from now on. 😉 > [@diamond](#): > > Mickaelia, thanks, I certainly value the input from the ladies. > > From what I see, you shouldn’t need too much help with the dating!🙂