# Greetings! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [January 15, 2014, 4:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888 "2014-01-15T16:43:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Leila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Leila](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Leila)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2014, 4:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888/1 "2014-01-15T16:43:11Z")
Hello! I am a single woman from the USA. I like the idea of being able to increase my powers of attraction, especially since I’ve always been rather shy and very thought-out when it comes to relationships. However, I’m nervous about the morality of using [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/). The way I see it, I can get decked out in make-up and look stunning and people will be attracted to me, but they can still see it’s make-up (even if they don’t care). With pheromones, however, they don’t know why they’re attracted to me, and I’m afraid of misleading someone I may (come to) care about. For that reason, I’m probably more interested in those products that increase friendliness rather than inspire feelings of sexuality. If I were in a relationship, I probably wouldn’t mind using the “hotter” pheromones, but not when I’m trying to get someone for the first time. Does that make sense? I would like to be able to inspire confidence and conversation from others, though, especially since I’m rather introverted. ---
**Author:** ![Himeros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/himeros/32/2325_2.png) [@Himeros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Himeros)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2014, 5:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888/2 "2014-01-15T17:14:03Z")
Welcome Leila! You raise some valid questions. The things is… pheromones only accentuate qualities of you / feelings in others, that are already there. By wearing mones, you won’t make people do things they wouldn’t normally do. Also, nowadays we shower every day and wash off almost all our naturally produced mones on a daily basis. Look at it this way… with these products you just re-apply your mones, but without the body odor - you will actually smell nice 😉 For increasing friendliness [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) would do the trick. It creates a feel good vibe around you and you will look more approachable. It also has great self-effects, the TAA in there always lifts my mood and brings me out of my shell. To increase chattiness - as you’re an introvet - IO would be my recommendation. You and other people around you will not be able to stop talking. With IO it’s usually just random funny stuff. If you want more serious talks, look into IH. If you still wanna try a sexy product, look into Instant Sexiness. Think version B will suit your personality best. Let us know if you have any questions. ---
**Author:** ![Hart](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/hart/32/1409_2.png) [@Hart](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Hart)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2014, 5:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888/3 "2014-01-15T17:49:18Z")
Welcome Leiela, you do indeed raise interesting questions.Himeros has answered you well but i wanted to add that any form of communication verbal, visual, or otherwise is constantly being communicated on both a conscious and non conscious level. This means some we can detect easily and some not so much. For instance your body language plays a great part of communicating things to others, some people say more than the words you use. And unless you are trained to see it, some of what is communicated goes undetected consciously. you are not misleading that person are you? The same goes with mones, there must be some attraction at some level to begin with, the mones help to amplify that. I would recommend the social mones as well to start you off Instant Shine, [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/), and Instant Honesty. Try them out and see what happens, who knows maybe you will fall in love with them as we have 🙂 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Himeros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/himeros/32/2325_2.png) [@Himeros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Himeros)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2014, 7:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888/4 "2014-01-15T19:01:48Z")
Still, I do see where Leila’s worries come from. People wanna be validated for who they are, and not mislead anyone. The problem is, people are misleading eachother ALL the time, intended or not intended. The reason is that the subconcious mind plays a much bigger role in our day-to-day life than people realize… Even if you conciously see/hear/feel/whatever something, subconcious processes still play a big role in how our body registers those stimuli. If you wear nice clothes or make-up, are you misleading people? If you conciously use your body language to intimidate someone (or make someone feel comfortable around you, so he/she opens up)… are you misleading someone? Bodylanguage (and tone of your voice) is 90% of all communication… The words are only a very small part. Telling a joke… is in fact misleading the subconcious mind, and trigger a laugh response with your punchline. So is creating attraction. Seducing someone is basically tricking someone’s mind into liking you… Like it or not. Mones are only a part of the equation when it comes to human interactions. People can still **choose** to not like you or your joke. However, dosed the right way, steered with proper body language and actual conversation, mones **can** make a big difference. Maybe not the response you were hoping for, but this is how I see it 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Leila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Leila](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Leila)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2014, 8:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888/5 "2014-01-15T20:50:26Z")
Thank you! Those are indeed helpful to contemplate. I guess where I remain unsure is reading accounts of people who find themselves extremely attracted to people who are wearing pheromones, even though they aren’t their type. That makes it seem to me to be a lot more powerful and altering than your words suggest. One thing I would be interested in…I’m a teacher, and I was wondering if there’s a pheromone to help reduce tensions in a class? The friendly pheromones appeal to me, but the ones I’ve read about inspire lots of chatter — something I need to avoid. Is there a pheromone that would make people feel more relaxed and happy but not necessarily more garrulous? ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2014, 1:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/greetings/60888/6 "2014-01-16T01:59:01Z")
\*\*Welcome to our community Leila! We’re super happy to have you join us. Thanks for stopping by and sharing. I hope to see more of you around here in the next few weeks! This is a quick note to let you know I’ve issued your gift certificate. It’s burning a hole in your email box as you read this! Have fun!" _~_~_~_~_~_\*\*