# Grow some balls **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [April 27, 2009, 4:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438 "2009-04-27T16:01:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![etx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/eb9ed0/32.png) [@etx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/etx)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 4:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/1 "2009-04-27T16:01:05Z")
Hi everybody This is not terribly [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/)-related. I just recently figured out what I need to do in the near future, if I want to look more attractive to the ladies, and just steer my life where I want it to go. I need to grow some balls. 😉 Now, this is more easily said than done, so if anybody has any practical advice–apart from drastic advice like joining the military–I’d like to hear it. Including any pheromone discussion related to the topic. ---
**Author:** ![djandarial](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/djandarial/32/1667_2.png) [@djandarial](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/djandarial)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 4:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/2 "2009-04-27T16:18:09Z")
It’s called -None, have you tried MX292? Or [Instant Jerk](https://a314.com/product/instant-jerk/)? ---
**Author:** ![etx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/eb9ed0/32.png) [@etx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/etx)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 6:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/3 "2009-04-27T18:58:43Z")
I’m still looking for advice that hasn’t to do with pheros… like activities or self training material or whatever. But those two products look damn interesting! One question: where can I find some brief descriptions of the P and MX series? ---
**Author:** ![yogalefty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a9a28c/32.png) [@yogalefty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/yogalefty)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 7:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/4 "2009-04-27T19:08:12Z")
Definitely try and read some inspirational self help books. “How to become an alpha male” is an excellent book that I have read. How to win friends and influence people, how to get anyone to do anything, are all very helpful. If you affirm in yourself your goals, get positve reinforcement of your goals, you’re good. For example, lets say your goal is to be awesome with women and go on a date a week. Your affirmation might be: I am a handsome, interesting man that can date any woman I want to. I am a great catch and any woman would be lucky to have me. You’d say that twice a day for 21 days, and you eventually believe it. Positive reinforcement would be when you approach woman, they show interest. This gives you confidence and allows you to believe that you are what you are affirming yourself that you are. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![marcuccio88](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/marcuccio88/32/1563_2.png) [@marcuccio88](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/marcuccio88)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 8:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/5 "2009-04-27T20:35:10Z")
Spend less time on the internet looking for the answer. Everything you need to be, you already are. If you want to do something, do it. I also suggest eating more steak. ---
**Author:** ![Bonecrkr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9d8465/32.png) [@Bonecrkr](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bonecrkr)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 8:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/6 "2009-04-27T20:59:24Z")
One of the better books on this subject is “Mode One” by Alan Roger Currie. His book is like $15 at [Amazon.com](http://Amazon.com) although, if you google “Mode One” most of what he is talking about is readily available. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2009, 9:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/7 "2009-04-27T21:25:31Z")
Great post, Congrats on your nomination. I am moving this down to the lounge because the Mens tips and tricks section is for pheromone discussion Thanks Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Ball.Saxbury](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ball.saxbury/32/1063_2.png) [@Ball.Saxbury](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Ball.Saxbury)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2009, 5:09am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/8 "2009-04-28T05:09:39Z")
Take Krav Maga or a similar self-defense/conditioning/martial arts training. My level of self-confidence is so much higher than it used to be for so many reasons. I know that I can defend myself if I have to, I have more mental discipline than ever, and physically I am so much stronger and have such a powerful presence. ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2009, 5:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/9 "2009-04-28T05:43:34Z")
I think Mr. Sazbury’s comment is a good one. Try taking some self-defense/martial arts. You do not have to become an expert and it will go a long towards helping self-confidence. The same can be said for a good exercise regimen. The two go very well together. ---
**Author:** ![Ball.Saxbury](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ball.saxbury/32/1063_2.png) [@Ball.Saxbury](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Ball.Saxbury)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2009, 5:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/10 "2009-04-28T05:49:03Z")
Intense physical activity also has lots of mental benefits. Better moods, more energy. It contributes to an overall better self-image. It can be almost life-changing to implement a really good exercise routine into your daily routine. ---
**Author:** ![Eldros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/eldros/32/279_2.png) [@Eldros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Eldros)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2009, 6:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/11 "2009-04-28T06:29:34Z")
> [@yogalefty](#): > > Definitely try and read some inspirational self help books. “How to become an alpha male” is an excellent book that I have read. How to win friends and influence people, how to get anyone to do anything, are all very helpful. If you affirm in yourself your goals, get positve reinforcement of your goals, you’re good. > > For example, lets say your goal is to be awesome with women and go on a date a week. > Your affirmation might be: I am a handsome, interesting man that can date any woman I want to. I am a great catch and any woman would be lucky to have me. You’d say that twice a day for 21 days, and you eventually believe it. > > Positive reinforcement would be when you approach woman, they show interest. This gives you confidence and allows you to believe that you are what you are affirming yourself that you are. Good luck! Through personal experience, you have to be exceptionally good at bullshitting yourself for this to work… for longer than a few weeks. I agree more with ball sax, there are those who are just good at acting like bad asses, and there are those who are bad asses. And etx, growing a pair wont help you steer your life much, besides talking back ‘when you should have’ or something like that. What you need are resources. Are you resourceful? ---
**Author:** ![etx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/eb9ed0/32.png) [@etx](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/etx)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2009, 8:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/12 "2009-04-28T08:17:53Z")
> [@yogalefty](#): > > Definitely try and read some inspirational self help books. “How to become an alpha male” is an excellent book that I have read. I picked this up yesterday, I’m already 2 chapters in. This is looking to be one of the best self-help books I’ve ever read, along with Learned Optimism. Honest and straightforward. Thanks. **Eldros** : I’m an expert in my field, I have a good job, I’m creative and talented, and I’m good at finding practical solutions to everyday problems. If that counts as resourceful, then yes I am. What I severely lack is experience with the ladies, and the self-confidence that comes from that. I believe the problem is, I tend to be a bit passive in everything I do… I’m consciously trying to be more assertive. It’s not hard, but the devil is in the details, like not coming out as aggressive or touchy, or not feeling self-conscious at the wrong time. I’m already on a gym schedule, and I can feel the effect it has on me. I’ve done some martial arts in the past, but it was a McDojo: good for physical exercise, but not really helping build masculine traits. I’ll look into the krav maga deal. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2009, 9:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/13 "2009-04-28T09:21:51Z")
My advice would be to work on two areas (well more then two lol) to go along with your Mone use. Projecting and reading body language. I have a link to that in my signature below. Learn to flirt and practice it. There are a lot of articles on "how to flirt’ Just do a google search for tips. You should practice a lot. Flirt with people you have no intention of hooking up with and really don’t care if they show interest. This makes it less threatening and scary. Working on self esteem by finding what your good at and enjoy and improving and focusing on that is great. Also as Ball-sax mentioned Physical activity can help you focus and feel good about yourself. Its all those endorphins. Take some time to learn to meditate and use positive affirmations every morning before heading out. You don’t have to meditate like I do which is more extreme. This can just be mentally focusing on your goals and telling yourself you can and will do at least 1 thing today that will improve yourself. You can do this in the shower in the morning or while your eating breakfast so you can find time. For instance say\>\>\>\> Today I am going to make eye contact with strangers more. Or Today I am going to smile and wink at every lady I pass including my mother and the old ones LOL Remember your not trying to pick them up but build confidence by practice. All these small steps taken one at a time can bring you closer to your goal. > [@](#): > > I need to grow some balls. You’ve got balls but the only way to make them bigger is to use them. 😉 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Ball.Saxbury](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ball.saxbury/32/1063_2.png) [@Ball.Saxbury](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Ball.Saxbury)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2009, 9:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/14 "2009-04-30T09:49:11Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > … Ball-sax … I think I’d like to be referred to as this all the time. This might be the best nickname ever. ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2009, 10:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/15 "2009-04-30T10:53:19Z")
Just a few tips to help achieve what I call “Sexiness-Maximus.” Some of these will be obvious, others maybe not. - Hit the gym, minimum 4-5 days per week for 1.5 hours minimum. Start with cardio, move onto weights. If this is boring try something like “Bodypump” classes. - Change your diet. If you do not know what the Mediterranean diet is (Cretan island diet is best), then learn it. Cut out as many sources of fat and sugar as possible. The only fat you should consume is good fat from extra virgin olive oil and nuts & seeds. - Increase your protein intake, supplements may help. - If you have body hair, shave and/or wax. - Buy some shaving equipment and learn how to shape your facial hair. Nothing too over the top and no full beards. I am talking about short goatie, chin, under the bottom lip, etc. - Try some mens face lotions, face scrubs, and eye cream - yes they do make a difference. - Buy new clothes, these don’t have to be new, but they have to be cool. If you’re short on euros, try purchasing at discounted prices online. - Review your posture and make sure you stand tall. Walk slower, don’t make jittery moves. Move slowly, in control, like a man in charge. - Optional - do what some dating gurus call ‘peacocking’ - this involves having something distinctive about you - perhaps tattoos, maybe an interesting hat or other clothes, perhaps some color in your hair, or maybe piercing. - Research the work of David de Angelo, Mystery Method, Venusian Arts, and Real Social Dynamics. Also, do a google search on “The Pick Up Artist streaming” and watch series 1 and 2 of this reality program. - And of course, use [pheromones](https://a314.com/) to give you that extra boost, the extra advantage. This is just a short summary, which might help you get started in instigating change in your life. Best of luck. ---
**Author:** ![Ball.Saxbury](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ball.saxbury/32/1063_2.png) [@Ball.Saxbury](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Ball.Saxbury)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2009, 11:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/16 "2009-04-30T11:19:11Z")
Three big things I disagree with. - You want 30 minutes of high-intensity, high-weight weight training three to four times a week. _4-5 times per week for 1.5 hours minimum?_ Are you crazy? This is a waste of time and a good way to get injured. Exercise smarter, not harder. You never get a chance to recover this way, and therefore will not build muscle. - Body hair removal is not for everybody. Actually, I doubt many women would actually prefer this. - Don’t bother with “The Mediterranean Diet” or any of that stuff. Use common sense to eat healthy and you’ll be fine. Keep fats and sugars down to a minimum. Eat plenty of fresh vegetables and fruits, try to lean towards chicken over beef when possible, make sure to eat fish once a week at least. That’s basically the optimal human diet right there. It’s not all that difficult, really. > [@AlexanderG](#): > > Just a few tips to help achieve what I call “Sexiness-Maximus.” Some of these will be obvious, others maybe not. > > - Hit the gym, minimum 4-5 days per week for 1.5 hours minimum. Start with cardio, move onto weights. If this is boring try something like “Bodypump” classes. > - Change your diet. If you do not know what the Mediterranean diet is (Cretan island diet is best), then learn it. Cut out as many sources of fat and sugar as possible. The only fat you should consume is good fat from extra virgin olive oil and nuts & seeds. > - Increase your protein intake, supplements may help. > - If you have body hair, shave and/or wax. > - Buy some shaving equipment and learn how to shape your facial hair. Nothing too over the top and no full beards. I am talking about short goatie, chin, under the bottom lip, etc. > - Try some mens face lotions, face scrubs, and eye cream - yes they do make a difference. > - Buy new clothes, these don’t have to be new, but they have to be cool. If you’re short on euros, try purchasing at discounted prices online. > - Review your posture and make sure you stand tall. Walk slower, don’t make jittery moves. Move slowly, in control, like a man in charge. > - Optional - do what some dating gurus call ‘peacocking’ - this involves having something distinctive about you - perhaps tattoos, maybe an interesting hat or other clothes, perhaps some color in your hair, or maybe piercing. > - Research the work of David de Angelo, Mystery Method, Venusian Arts, and Real Social Dynamics. Also, do a google search on “The Pick Up Artist streaming” and watch series 1 and 2 of this reality program. > - And of course, use pheromones to give you that extra boost, the extra advantage. > > This is just a short summary, which might help you get started in instigating change in your life. Best of luck. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2009, 6:22pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/17 "2009-04-30T18:22:58Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Learn to flirt and practice it. > > Tisha yes, please 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Butterfly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/butterfly/32/1942_2.png) [@Butterfly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Butterfly)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2009, 7:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/18 "2009-05-01T19:14:40Z")
The guys I know that did martial arts for a substantial amount of time, are very masucline, mature and command respect naturally. They are guys who did Aikido, Ninjitsu and Mixed Martial Arts, but others may work well too. Men who are interested in martial philosophy, like The Art of War, tend to be wise beyond thier years and spritially rich in a manly way. Guys who do yoga or read mainstream spiritual books tend to be a bit femme. You already are succesful in your career. Assuming it is a mental job, you have that side settles. Picking up a book about something completely different does not hurt. Being healthy enhances every aspect of your life. The 1,5 hour guy was including cardio in gym time. I prefer doing cardio outside in the fresh air, unless there is a class I like. I’m a girl so things are a bit different for me but I go to the gym 2-3x/week for weights, I cycle to work/school and get an hour of light exercise 5-6x/week out of that and I also dance. You may need more weights training as a man, Hazard can tell you all about it, and you can replace dance with Martial Arts once or twice weekly. But walking or cycling as part of your normal day, I can very much recommend. If I must take the bus to work in the morning, I may walk back home for 1,5 hours. If you take the train, get off earlier and walk the last bit. A guy who looks good and is socially smooth is always more charming, but taking it over the top does not seem so effective. It can be nice to sit with a guy who looks like he stepped out of men’s health and is a smooth talker, but those things are not what commands admiration. And when it comes to a boyfriend, I want a man I can admire. ---
**Author:** ![pupy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bc8723/32.png) [@pupy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pupy)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2009, 11:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/19 "2009-05-01T23:16:59Z")
Boost your confidence. Do something you’d never do that somehow got you positive attention. Feed off of it. Change yourself positively. For example (and this is from personal experience)… Buy yourself a motorcycle and gear. Ride around on it. (Be safe.) Ride it to a nearby mall during a busy day and walk around wearing your jacket, sunglasses, and helmet in hand. Hold a small grin the whole time, and just walk around. Unless you’re absurdly obvious, look around with your eyes and notice who’s taking notice of you. (Your sunglasses will hide your gaze. 🆒 ) [You’ll get a real kick out of this even if you don’t have a motorcycle- just go buy yourself the jacket, sunglasses, and a helmet (optional). Just act like you’ve got a mission, even if that mission is only to walk a couple of laps and then head back home. Girls will be obviously stealing glances at you, guys will make sure to make way for your passage. It’s amazing.] Then sell your bike (unless you’ve fallen in love with it 😃). Surprise your friends and family with how you did something completely out of character (like impulse buying a motorcycle), and then just as quickly sold it. They’ll think your life is faster paced than theirs is, and that they really can’t keep up. _Then you begin to change yourself consciously. If you don’t already, head to the gym. Or start running (preferably both). Perhaps you’ve always told yourself to start eating healthier- now’s the time to do it. Wear a smile whenever you can (😃). When at the grocery store, greet the cashier and go ahead and ask them how their day is, especially if they ask you first. (They’re used to being ignored, and some innocent small-talk will go along way towards making you feel happier as well as making their day more pleasant.) Don’t be afraid to ask open-ended questions for anybody. If someone talks to you and looks you straight in the eyes, look straight back and hold a small smile if appropriate. Hold doors open for people, and don’t be afraid of conversation in general._ ---
**Author:** ![Mtnjim](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mtnjim/32/2010_2.png) [@Mtnjim](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mtnjim)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2009, 12:01am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438/20 "2009-05-02T00:01:03Z")
> [@pupy](#): > > Buy yourself a motorcycle and gear. Ride around on it. (Be safe.) Ride it to a nearby mall during a busy day and walk around wearing your jacket, sunglasses, and helmet in hand. Hold a small grin the whole time, and just walk around. You forgot the part about joining the Hells Angels.🙄 [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/grow-some-balls/28438.md?page=2)