# guys/lady's I need help ASAP pls :) **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [February 12, 2009, 10:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020 "2009-02-12T22:17:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/41 "2009-02-13T16:14:03Z")
> [@diamond](#): > > And the view from a guy who can (to some degree) think like a woman… > > PUA advice would be to keep her dangling for a day or two then ring and say I’m gonna be at such and such a place, you are welcome to join me. > > However, it is Valentines, sometimes it is good for a guy to show he can have feelings and sensitivity. Sorry MFG but on balance, I’d go with Lor on this one. > > If she hasn’t rung you by tonight, give her a call, leaving it till tomorrow afternoon means she won’t have the required 8 hours to get ready and she’ll get stressed about her hair, makeup, which knickers to wear ( do I wear the black lacy ones, oh no, then he’ll think I’m expecting to get laid but then, what if I wear the big applecatchers and we get it on, how embarrassing… No, don’t deny it ladies!) abso-freaking-lutley. all of it 😃 see, the PUA advice would be spot-on if you just wanted to _do_ her. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/42 "2009-02-13T16:14:20Z")
I don’t even know why I am acting like this …its like the first time I am acting like this because of a girl … ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/43 "2009-02-13T16:16:04Z")
> [@Mr.Feel\_Good](#): > > And lick it? That’s just generally unhygienic, Lor… > > I agree, but that’s what girl friends are for! Every single girl i know has about 2-3 other single friends who actually LOVE going out on v-day and making it a girls night out. Go rent a movie, get some red wine and chocolate, and completely rag on the male gender in general. It’s bonding time! ok- im not going to get into a debate about what guys lick and what is hygienic … is she someone who is outgoing and would be likely to hang with the chickies that day though? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/44 "2009-02-13T16:18:57Z")
oh one thing I forgot to say was we talked about future and it seem like she didn’t mind me being in it lol I might be thinking about this to much and over analyzing it but ya and i dont know she already told me she can get jealous so … ---
**Author:** ![river](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/river/32/934_2.png) [@river](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/river)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/45 "2009-02-13T16:19:41Z")
Gosh, I’d like for us women to stick together, but I have to agree w/ the guys on asking for a date on Vday. As much as I would hate being alone on Vday, I would also have a certain “expectation” or maybe “apprehension” about being on a date w/ some guy who I’m potentially wanting to get into a relationship with. Sounds potentially “scary” for someone who’s wanting to go slowly. It’d be fine for those of us who’ve “been there, done that”, but probably not so much for this shy, sweet little gal. I like DFG’s suggestion to call her on Vday (or heck, what’s wrong with right now?), tell her what a nice time you had, and ask if she’d like to do it again sometime. You’ve shown your interest and intentions, but yet are leaving it up to her to decide where she wants to take it, whether that means having a date on Vday, some other day, or not at all. Think of it this way, even if you decide to meet up some other day, you’ll have made her Vday bcuz she’ll know she’s not REALLY alone and someone’s interested in her!😉 ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/46 "2009-02-13T16:23:24Z")
> [@river](#): > > Gosh, I’d like for us women to stick together, but I have to agree w/ the guys on asking for a date on Vday. As much as I would hate being alone on Vday, I would also have a certain “expectation” or maybe “apprehension” about being on a date w/ some guy who I’m potentially wanting to get into a relationship with. Sounds potentially “scary” for someone who’s wanting to go slowly. It’d be fine for those of us who’ve “been there, done that”, but probably not so much for this shy, sweet little gal. > > I like DFG’s suggestion to call her on Vday (or heck, what’s wrong with right now?), tell her what a nice time you had, and ask if she’d like to do it again sometime. You’ve shown your interest and intentions, but yet are leaving it up to her to decide where she wants to take it, whether that means having a date on Vday, some other day, or not at all. Think of it this way, even if you decide to meet up some other day, you’ll have made her Vday bcuz she’ll know she’s not REALLY alone and someone’s interested in her!😉 everyone wants to know that someone is interested in them 😉 ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/47 "2009-02-13T16:23:29Z")
you got a good point there river …so now my next question or fear I don’t want her to think for one second I am playing games by making her wait two day before calling and all that little bs … any suggestions how I should go by that ? ---
**Author:** ![river](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/river/32/934_2.png) [@river](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/river)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/48 "2009-02-13T16:35:35Z")
> [@dss](#): > > you got a good point there river …so now my next question or fear I don’t want her to think for one second I am playing games by making her wait two day before calling and all that little bs … any suggestions how I should go by that ? She’s probably replaying the whole date over and over in her head and second-guessing everything just like you are now. Put yourselves both out of misery and give her a call right now. Say “I had a great time last night. Want to do it again sometime?” And if she says yes, the tell her to pick the day. If not, well, then you’ll know ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/49 "2009-02-13T16:40:03Z")
there I send sent her a msg now I have to wait …ERRR more waiting gee ---
**Author:** ![river](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/river/32/934_2.png) [@river](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/river)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/50 "2009-02-13T16:40:09Z")
Ughhh…I double-posted…sorry! We are anxiously waiting with you! LOL! ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/51 "2009-02-13T16:45:27Z")
okay she just texted me back saying: “I had a great time last night …i hope we can do it again.” this is kinda sad but I feel like a little school girl right now haha…I am so confuse why I feel this way about this girl? ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/52 "2009-02-13T16:50:06Z")
> [@dss](#): > > okay she just texted me back saying: > > “I had a great time last night …i hope we can do it again.” > > this is kinda sad but I feel like a little school girl right now haha…I am so confuse why I feel this way about this girl? im sorry to have to give you the news,dss. your crushing. honestly, i dont think you can say or do the wrong thing because if she doesnt like that much, you’ll know it and if she does she will want to be with you. if it were Vday and my crush didnt ask me out even for lunch, id be wondering if i was making too much out of our last date. going out for lunch isnt as heavy-duty as dinner. maybe you guys can grab coffee? ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 4:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/53 "2009-02-13T16:53:26Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > im sorry to have to give you the news,dss. > your crushing. > > honestly, i dont think you can say or do the wrong thing because if she doesnt like that much, you’ll know it and if she does she will want to be with you. > > if it were Vday and my crush didnt ask me out even for lunch, id be wondering if i was making too much out of our last date. > > going out for lunch isnt as heavy-duty as dinner. > > maybe you guys can grab coffee? Okay I dont get what you mean by that can you clear it up a tad 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![river](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/river/32/934_2.png) [@river](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/river)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/54 "2009-02-13T17:00:45Z")
Tell her it’s her turn to pick the date & time. Sounds a little playful and none too pushy. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/55 "2009-02-13T17:00:51Z")
> [@dss](#): > > Okay I dont get what you mean by that can you clear it up a tad 🙂 crushing = having a crush = being in love 🙂 your in a situation where you can wait to date her and she will be relieved of pressure or you can wait and she will think your not interested. the point im making is that you have alot of pros and cons to any decision you make, and i just think that if she feels the same way, then you cant make the wrong decision. i think you should visualize seeing her and then visualize not seeing her tomorow, and do what _feels_ better. ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/56 "2009-02-13T17:05:43Z")
ya I told her to pick a date and still waiting for a reply and ya thats the point I am trying to figure out how she feels about me…but If I don’t see her again ill be one said guy. I can truly say I be hurt and dis pointed. ---
**Author:** ![Disconnected](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@Disconnected](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Disconnected)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/57 "2009-02-13T17:17:28Z")
> [@dss](#): > > oh one thing I forgot to say was we talked about future and it seem like she didn’t mind me being in it lol I might be thinking about this to much and over analyzing it but ya and i dont know she already told me she can get jealous so … I do that ALL of the time, especially when it comes to girls. Easiest thing to do. Is to think more about it, but take your self out of the picture. Imagine the last time you guys hung out, or the last time you guys talked, but picture watching it, from some sort of all seeing 3rd person point of view. And its a lot less stressful, because it doesn’t feel as personal then, and your a lot less likely to freak out and obsess over it. Almost think of it as your friend was asking for advice, for waht they should do in a similar situation. 🙂 I hope that helps you like it does me sometimes. Oh, and another thing, when people were talking earlier about some types of activities to do on a date? (i think thats what was going on) I would like to suggest mini golf 😛 (hear me out now) The girls love it, because its not only original, but you can also get close and try to teach her the proper way to swing a putter (if you know how) and compared to a movie, its more fun, interactive, and her attention is more on you then on the movie. 🙂 Marc~ 😃 ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/58 "2009-02-13T17:21:10Z")
ya I might do that for are next little date if she ever replays back when a day. shes one of the classy and lade back type of girls so its hard to pick stuff out… to do ---
**Author:** ![Disconnected](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@Disconnected](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Disconnected)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:25pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/59 "2009-02-13T17:25:51Z")
> [@dss](#): > > ya I might do that for are next little date if she ever replays back when a day. > > shes one of the classy and lade back type of girls so its hard to pick stuff out… to do Well, i find that those kind of girls like skating? Its really seasonal and it depends on where you live and whether or not you can skate. But if you can you should take her skating if possible. Its classy, you can hold on to her incase shes afraid to fall, and it gives your guys plenty of time to talk 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![dss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac8455/32.png) [@dss](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dss)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2009, 5:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020/60 "2009-02-13T17:27:12Z")
oh there is a ice skating place here …that might be a good thing to do ? [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020.md?page=2) [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-ladys-i-need-help-asap-pls/26020.md?page=4)