# Guys: PUA advice **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [May 13, 2009, 4:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919 "2009-05-13T04:32:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 4:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/1 "2009-05-13T04:32:27Z")
Hey guys, have a rather strange question here. When a female (or male?) sends you pictures, nude or not, how do you respond without DLV’ing AND without hurting their feelings? I’m saying this from a point of view where you find the photos attractive, but don’t want to DLV or risk hurting feelings. ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 7:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/2 "2009-05-13T07:14:54Z")
I don’t know anything about PUA stuff, but I’d just say that it’s a _good/nice_ picture of them. Those two words to me seem very neutral and safe. ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 8:26am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/3 "2009-05-13T08:26:06Z")
> [@pherophreak](#): > > Hey guys, have a rather strange question here. > > When a female (or male?) sends you pictures, nude or not, how do you respond without DLV’ing AND without hurting their feelings? > > I’m saying this from a point of view where you find the photos attractive, but don’t want to DLV or risk hurting feelings. Personally, I would say you were intrigued by the photos but you couldn’t express an opinion based on a photo alone, then suggest meeting for a coffee. That way, you get a date out of it and the chance to decide for yourself whether you want to take it further or not. If your decision is no, then that also gives you the opportunity to back out gracefully without DLV. ---
**Author:** ![data4](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/data4/32/272_2.png) [@data4](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/data4)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 5:18pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/4 "2009-05-13T17:18:47Z")
I think a more well-balanced answer to this question can only be given after a careful study of said pictures. My email address is available on request. 😃 Seriously, though, you might try an old trick that’s normally done IRL. Comment on an aspect that’s not directly sexual, since the implication here is that you want to avoid sounding like “Wow, you’re pretty! Durrhurrr…_drool_”, yes? So tell her you really like her eyes. Always a safe route, IMO. If you want to slip into cocky/funny territory, say you really admire her shoulder structure or something else totally off the wall. -D4 ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 5:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/5 "2009-05-13T17:21:39Z")
Never hada male send me nude pictures … lol. You could crack a joke followed immediately by a compliment. (My - sure looks like it was chilly that day … if you were my girl I could afford to buy you both halves of the bathing suit … btw - nice smile.) Edit: LOL. Data and i on the same page here - compliment her smile or eyes - sexually neutral but always well received by women. At least the ones with teeth. ---
**Author:** ![magnum](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/magnum/32/1423_2.png) [@magnum](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/magnum)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 6:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/6 "2009-05-13T18:02:27Z")
i am with diamond, the right frame of handling this is: by sending you the pictures she qualified for a meeting but the pictures are not enough to make you like her… tell her that she sent you really nice pictures but that you don’t know yet whether you like her or not as a person - she needs to meet you to show you that she also has some beauty inside.. (shows her that while you appreciate her looks you are not superficial and also interested in her character…) ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 7:04pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/7 "2009-05-13T19:04:14Z")
I am not a guy LOL But this is what you do. Dont comment on how she looks at all. Say "Nice picture what kind of camara you using ? " That will throw her for a loop 😃 Take from a girl who has pictures all over the net. 😉 Tisha ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 8:50pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/8 "2009-05-13T20:50:26Z")
Thanks for all of the advice everyone, perhaps I should have included more information. It’s a girl I’m already interested in, and have met in real life, so its not me finding out what she looks like, its me, finding out what she looks like, naked. (Or semi nude, whatever) ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 9:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/9 "2009-05-13T21:19:42Z")
Oh, so I’m guessing she sent you n00dz/semi n00dz? Well, in that case just go be honest and tell her she has a beautiful body (if you do find it attractive and if she’s comfortable with you already.) So since you _are_ interested in her, I can’t see how saying that she has a beautiful body or saying “it’s a beautiful picture” can go wrong or be a bad thing to say. Sounds more like a gentle compliment than “gawd damn girl, you’s got a smoking body!” 😛 > [@pherophreak](#): > > Thanks for all of the advice everyone, perhaps I should have included more information. It’s a girl I’m already interested in, and have met in real life, so its not me finding out what she looks like, its me, finding out what she looks like, naked. (Or semi nude, whatever) ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 9:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/10 "2009-05-13T21:27:19Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > Oh, so I’m guessing she sent you n00dz/semi n00dz? Well, in that case just go be honest and tell her she has a beautiful body (if you do find it attractive and if she’s comfortable with you already.) So since you _are_ interested in her, I can’t see how saying that she has a beautiful body or saying “it’s a beautiful picture” can go wrong or be a bad thing to say. Sounds more like a gentle compliment than “gawd damn girl, you’s got a smoking body!” 😛 Thanks Mikoto, thats what I was looking for. She’s definitely comfortable with me, since she took the pictures just for me, and I’m definitely smart enough to say something like “wow, you’re beautiful” instead of “WOAH DANG SMOKIN HOTTIE CUMIN THRU WHEN U GONNA LET ME TAP DAT!?” Some people at my college talk like that. It’s depressing. ---
**Author:** ![mikotorocks714](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mikotorocks714/32/1509_2.png) [@mikotorocks714](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mikotorocks714)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 9:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/11 "2009-05-13T21:56:24Z")
Ha, ha yeah! The sad thing about it is that some girls fall for that. 😕 Anyway, you’re way better than that so don’t worry about making her feel awkward. “Wow, you’re beautiful” is right on the money. And yes, she must be VERY comfortable with you already if she’s sending you pictures like that so you’ll be OK with what you had in mind saying (“wow, you’re beautiful.”) > [@pherophreak](#): > > Thanks Mikoto, thats what I was looking for. She’s definitely comfortable with me, since she took the pictures just for me, and I’m definitely smart enough to say something like “wow, you’re beautiful” instead of “WOAH DANG SMOKIN HOTTIE CUMIN THRU WHEN U GONNA LET ME TAP DAT!?” > > Some people at my college talk like that. It’s depressing. ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 12:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/12 "2009-05-14T00:57:39Z")
> [@mikotorocks714](#): > > Ha, ha yeah! The sad thing about it is that some girls fall for that. 😕 > > Anyway, you’re way better than that so don’t worry about making her feel awkward. “Wow, you’re beautiful” is right on the money. And yes, she must be VERY comfortable with you already if she’s sending you pictures like that so you’ll be OK with what you had in mind saying (“wow, you’re beautiful.”) Thanks! Sometimes its nice having my own personal swimsuit model. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 1:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/13 "2009-05-14T01:13:58Z")
Oh, and thanks for the advice everyone, I came home to a new set of photos. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Young\_Beast](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/young_beast/32/2178_2.png) [@Young\_Beast](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Young_Beast)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/14 "2009-05-14T03:12:37Z")
> [@data4](#): > > I think a more well-balanced answer to this question can only be given after a careful study of said pictures. My email address is available on request. 😃 > > Seriously, though, you might try an old trick that’s normally done IRL. Comment on an aspect that’s not directly sexual, since the implication here is that you want to avoid sounding like “Wow, you’re pretty! Durrhurrr…_drool_”, yes? So tell her you really like her eyes. Always a safe route, IMO. **If you want to slip into cocky/funny territory, say you really admire her shoulder structure or something else totally off the wall.** > > -D4 Exactly. THIS right here is PUA material. Neg her, tease her but don’t be rude. She’ll probably expect you to say something about tits and ass. What data said would be great or you could say something like, “Damn nice muscles. You work out?” This is great because if she doesn’t work out she’ll play along and try to prove herself to you and if she does, you get a great convo out of it. [Seduction University Forums ~ Index](http://www.paragonproject.com/forums/) There’s a great community which I am a part of peace 😃 ---
**Author:** ![djandarial](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/djandarial/32/1667_2.png) [@djandarial](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/djandarial)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:13am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/15 "2009-05-14T03:13:26Z")
I’m with tisha. But say the picture angle is off and offer to help her take more professional ones… ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/16 "2009-05-14T03:21:08Z")
> [@Young\_Beast](#): > > Exactly. THIS right here is PUA material. Neg her, tease her but don’t be rude. She’ll probably expect you to say something about tits and ass. What data said would be great or you could say something like, “Damn nice muscles. You work out?” This is great because if she doesn’t work out she’ll play along and try to prove herself to you and if she does, you get a great convo out of it. > > [Seduction University Forums ~ Index](http://www.paragonproject.com/forums/) > > There’s a great community which I am a part of > > peace 😃 I got a few more tonight, she said “Do you like them?” I said “Yeah, I do. You’ve got some nice curves” Score? ---
**Author:** ![djandarial](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/djandarial/32/1667_2.png) [@djandarial](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/djandarial)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:38am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/17 "2009-05-14T03:38:23Z")
I do not concur… Should have gone with, this can’t be you, pick out a dimple or freckle and say you do not remember that and say it’s not hers. Use this as a gate to go over. ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2009, 3:41am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/18 "2009-05-14T03:41:55Z")
> [@djandarial](#): > > I do not concur… Should have gone with, this can’t be you, pick out a dimple or freckle and say you do not remember that and say it’s not hers. Use this as a gate to go over. Well, I did alright. I noticed a tiny mole and mentioned it to her, she said she has two or three. I got to guess where the others were. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![msselva](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/msselva/32/943_2.png) [@msselva](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/msselva)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 12:52am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/19 "2009-05-17T00:52:06Z")
> [@pherophreak](#): > > “WOAH DANG SMOKIN HOTTIE CUMIN THRU WHEN U GONNA LET ME TAP DAT!?” 😮 Good Lord, I’ve actually heard guys say things like that! LOL erk! ---
**Author:** ![pherophreak](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherophreak/32/1531_2.png) [@pherophreak](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/pherophreak)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 1:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/guys-pua-advice/28919/20 "2009-05-17T01:15:38Z")
> [@msselva](#): > > 😮 Good Lord, I’ve actually heard guys say things like that! LOL erk! Haha, where do you think I got it from? Sad part is when that works. ☹