# Happytappin's Journal **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Journals\ **Created:** [May 1, 2010, 7:29pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237 "2010-05-01T19:29:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2011, 3:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/41 "2011-07-20T03:02:08Z")
> [@Maidenfan01](#): > > While that does suck I would give her 2 strikes. If she does it again, run! You think? …I don’t know i just lost all attraction. To be honest I kinda felt like I was “settling” in a way with her anyway. If I have any thoughts that I’m settling …any thing like this just kills it all. ---
**Author:** ![extraballislit](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/extraballislit/32/712_2.png) [@extraballislit](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/extraballislit)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2011, 1:37pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/42 "2011-07-20T13:37:25Z")
> [@Maidenfan01](#): > > While that does suck I would give her 2 strikes. If she does it again, run! Yea, if you like her at least a little bit, a second chance won´t hurt. If is she does it again, make sure she does not get a third one. However, if you have some other prospects, put her on the bottom of your list. You should not reward unacceptable behaviour. Good luck. Talk to you soon. ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2011, 11:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/43 "2011-07-20T23:41:50Z")
> [@extraballislit](#): > > **However, if you have some other prospects, put her on the bottom of your list. You should not reward unacceptable behaviour.** > > Good luck. Says it all. ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 4:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/44 "2011-07-22T04:03:45Z")
> [@Astrea](#): > > Says it all. I did put her at the bottom. They way I see it, I ALWAYS can do better. But I have to keep reminding myself I’ve been with the hottest most beautiful women in the world…by “been with” i meant have sex…but to “have and to hold”…no i haven’t But for some reason I keep grasping…i am suspect that doesn’t exist ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2011, 4:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/45 "2011-07-22T04:31:27Z")
> [@happytappin](#): > > I did put her at the bottom. They way I see it, I ALWAYS can do better. But I have to keep reminding myself I’ve been with the hottest most beautiful women in the world…by “been with” i meant have sex…but to “have and to hold”…no i haven’t But for some reason I keep grasping… **i am suspect that doesn’t exist** Feelin’ that. **BUT** I have recently been surprised to the point of rethinking my stance. Really, pleasantly surprised. Currently, I am cautiously optimistic. Suspect, but don’t become convinced. 😃😉 ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2011, 7:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/46 "2011-08-28T19:16:46Z")
Ok so my friend invites me to his girlfriends house, which I had already met a few times before…a sweet girl. We were suppossed to have Irene hit so kinda a hurricane party I’m thinking. He brings the room mate a pack of cigs, and 6 pack of beer, I bring three bottles of wine. We show up and no music playing, just them sitting around. 3 girl all 24 yrs old. GF, A & B let’s call them. I had put on 3 sprays of IG, 20mcgs of p86, 4 sprays of IS and 40mcgs of A1 to my neck (mixed into a 5ml bottle of IO) I was already tired, but p86 didn’t really effect me in that way. So we go in and the GF who i had met before was cold as ice towards me as well as A & B…A was def the alpha of the group, very hot LOUD mouth, sorta like Lindsay Lohan, 24 paaarty girl, was her place as well. B was more of a quiet girl, not as attractive but ya can tell in high school and college she was prolly more attractive and hung around the “popular” girls type. I just sat there and listened at 1st, cause they were talking nonsense and all these inside jokes and what not. VERY loud, like a group of bachorette party girls… It was like all three had this instant group bitch shield up as soon as I came in …(thinking to myself however..i was invited to a party right?..why are they treating me like I’m some weirdo) They were not playing nice or being welcoming whatso ever. So I’m not the kinda guy to pick fights but I don’t back down either. I guess I could have just left…but I’m too much ego and I also am reading about how to deal with the same situations in bars and clubs…so I might as well stick around since were at a house and I can practice…So i called the GF on her behavior (“Why are you acting this way? I’ve never seen this side of you before.”) Now while what I’m saying is true and GF knows it, B quickly and sneerly defends her friends behavior saying “I’ve know her for a long time she’s acting normal” with a slight roll in her eyes. Now as the evening goes it’s like everything I say get “reframed” into a negative or weird, even if it’s normal. Her cat walks by and I pet it and meow, cause I love cats. A normal group of people would say something like oh that Muffin she love people etc etc…No I get from girl A…“What’s your weird obssesion with cats” …I unapollegeticaly say “So i like cats, so what, you own them!” This doesn’t make things better..still ice towards me… A few minutes later Girl A says something like…“Listen I know you don’t like me!” …and then laughs with the group about something seemingly at me. I say, what makes you think I don’t like you? She quips back real quick “What make you think I like YOU!” Okay, now any normal guy I think would prolly flip his shit and get angry call the girls bitches take his wine back and leave. I stay. I have been reading this book by Keiza Noble and instead of flipping I kept my cool through a LOT of shit testing, I mean a LOT. I’ve only written a few here cause I got too drunk later in the night to remember them all clearly, but I digress… So they all 3 leave into the back room and leave myself and my friend in the front room. No music, no AC on realy not much of a party. Felt more like a bad social experiment. I’m telling my friend, what the hell is wrong with those girls? But from the pick-up Ive read I know its “group mind shit testing” He apologizes, saying “I don’t know man, I thought it was gonna be cool and chill” I say yeah well it aint, it’s like I’m a nazi in israel or something! So the girls come back out after what I’m guessing was a pow wow where the size up whats been y reaction or I don’t know…if you’re a women reading this please inform me what you think they all went in there to do. So Girl B comes out sits at the table and starts slightly interrogating me as to why i have been just sitting there making faces at them and acting like a dick. I tell her, because I came here with wine and “came in peace” but was treated like shit. Shes says “well this is girl B’s territory and you didn’t bow down to eat and yada yada.” I say well I’m not that kinda guy I’m straight fwd and I’m gonna play mind games and bullshit" .. Girl A comes out to smoke a cig so this is where I try something from Keiza Nobles book. So I loudly say, you know what kinda girl you are Girl A…all eyes get tense and are on me. “A straight fwd women…and I find that refreshing” Girl B, was relieved …“whew, i thought you were gonna say bitch” …so now things seemed to have gotten better and they’re like oooh lets go to the bar. Girl A actually BUYs me a drink…do you hear this? So I say to my friend who is clueless I say dude it worked..he’s like HUH? She just bought me a drink. The girl who’s been treating me like a 1st class asshole all night just bought me a drink. Now she’s sitting next to me and I validate her again saying I feel like you could be a rock stars girl friend or something…she eats this up and I’m actually thinking I might even get laid tonight. Now here’s where I think my mistake comes (i actually dont remember well what I did cause i was too drunk) which not only ruins the whole evening but it turns Girl A & B away from me abd they even girl a girl in the bar who neither of them know against me. The thing is I think maybe I was still on thin ice, I don’t think I completey won them over yet, i was still in the shit testing zone and i went back to my “cocky self” …i said to girl A in a cocky funny kinda way, can i get another drink. She filpped, you’re a fucking dick! and gilr B took her side. after that everything i did or said was percived as an insult…i offer to get her a drink and THAT gets turned around to be an insult…I shouldve stopped, but i was too curious and since we’re in the same group i wasn’t gonna leave either. But Girl A come up and yell why are fuck still here! So i square up to her and firmly I aint fuckin leavn my Im hangin with my friend…OH BOY! does this piss her and Girl B off!!!..like throwing a rock into a bees nest. The rest of the night i try to patch things up but it just aint gonna happen…it got so where a few guys who worked there were like, you gotta go…so I walked home and passed out. ---
**Author:** ![PheroJack](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/pherojack/32/527_2.png) [@PheroJack](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroJack)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2011, 7:39pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/47 "2011-08-28T19:39:05Z")
these bitches remind me of a lot of girls in my school and church… i would say replicaz. all respect goes to you for handlin and being patient wit this shit treatment tho! i guess sometimes women find it validating to piss off a man or something. I kno a girl that is really nice when by herself, but when ONE more person is there, it’s like a flip switch… BITCH MODE. shit testing, exposing _secrets_ (we were datin b4), etc… ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2011, 7:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/48 "2011-08-28T19:42:17Z")
> [@PheroJack](#): > > these bitches remind me of a lot of girls in my school and church… i would say replicaz. > > all respect goes to you for handlin and being patient wit this shit treatment tho! > > i guess sometimes women find it validating to piss off a man or something. > > I kno a girl that is really nice when by herself, but when ONE more person is there, it’s like a flip switch… BITCH MODE. shit testing, exposing _secrets_ (we were datin b4), etc… Yeah exactly…i think it’s possible 3 sprays of IG & p86 along with me being very comfortable in my skin made them want to see if I was fo real… ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2011, 11:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/49 "2011-08-28T23:00:37Z")
> [@happytappin](#): > > Yeah exactly…i think it’s possible 3 sprays of IG & p86 **along with me being very comfortable in my skin made them want to see if I was fo real…** Sorry, Happy, I really believe you were deliberately targeted here. When the gf told who was coming, First Bitch probably **planned** to “have some fun”. Being the alleged alpha - this is NOT alpha female behavior- she’s probably got a rep for this kind of **shit**. And will make the other girls life hell if they don’t play along. Not pretty at either end. Because the other girls are just sheep following the ringleader. And she’s only a ringleader. Try to get that one to flip that behavior into a positive mode - like organizing **fun** for everybody and she can’t do it. The followers will do things like: start a fight with their bf’s because FB tells them that something was ungrateful, inconsiderate etc - you know where I’m going with this. You gave that cow nothing to work with, but forgot that there’s no winning with a bitch like that and let your guard down. No, you weren’t going to get laid. She was looking for any tiny thing to explode the ugly drama she was half planning on a subconscious level - the automatic game that I complain about so often on these threads. The only solution for someone like her is to GET THE HELL AWAY! You’ve been given fair warning and so has your buddy. His girl is just gonna follow until she grows her own spine. Not likely in the next couple of years. You got done, even if you hadn’t been drunk - never a good idea with one of these bitches; never let your guard down around these types. She comes with reinforcements - they will fill the gaps she’s not intellectually capable of - and you just dig the hole deeper. **Please guys, this is NOT alpha behavior.** As with the boys, alpha’s are confident and self assured, natural _ **leaders** _; who don’t need to ‘score points’ off anyone else. They may put an asshole or bitch in their place, but it takes something for that to happen. This chick is just that nasty bitch from high school - as Pherojack pointed out. The only solution for her is a tranq gun. Put her out of the gatherings’ misery. BTW - PJ, and the bitch that starts spreading confidences and secrets has just shown she’s a little bitch who gets off on the perceived power play of exposure. Legally they call it extortion. Don’t tell anyone anything you can’t afford to have broadcast on the damn news UNTIL you know what’s going to happen. I test bitches and guys both; with that one. I only trust as far as I’ve been given reason to and there are NO CREDIT OFFERS - as in I don’t think “well, they’ve been trustworthy til now, I can tell them something important” - **ever**. See how they deal with other peoples confidences. I don’t tell. Regardless of in a relationship or not. I don’t tell my bf’s what so and so said in confidence - it’s **confidence!** ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2011, 11:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/50 "2011-08-28T23:26:23Z")
If you ever end up in a similar situation; take it as already been done in her head. And when the “I know you don’t like me” statement comes about, do something along the lines of: "You’re a friend of X, who’s been great to me so far (this drops the gf of whoever in the pile of crap, DO IT); but now I see something that gives me pause as to her character too. Since your hospitality is conditional on being able to read your mind - and I’m not a garbage collector; I’m gonna say goodnight, and leave you to your pathetic games. I don’t feel the need to put down anyone. I came here in good faith for a little tension relief (work, hurricanes etc) and you’re just a bitch in ok clothes, and not seriously anyone I’d spend time with voluntarily. Then leave. In this situation, more than one girl exposes her character. So sorry your evening was wasted. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Walc](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/walc/32/2210_2.png) [@Walc](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Walc)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2011, 3:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/51 "2011-08-29T03:28:29Z")
Solid analysis Astrea. I guess we need a term (pejorative, preferably) for people who take on the Alpha position but, beeing insecure in it, play out these little horrible dramas to put other people down. I guess that’s the only way to make sure (in their minds) that their position is not challenged. _Pseudo-Alphas_ is maybe the correct word for it. ---
**Author:** ![Astrea](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/astrea/32/1928_2.png) [@Astrea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Astrea)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2011, 4:02am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/52 "2011-08-29T04:02:38Z")
> [@Walc](#): > > Solid analysis Astrea. **I guess we need a term (pejorative, preferably)** for people who take on the Alpha position but, beeing insecure in it, play out these little horrible dramas to put other people down. I guess that’s the only way to make sure (in their minds) that their position is not challenged. _Pseudo-Alphas_ is maybe the correct word for it. Wannabe? Try2Hard? Top Dog = Bitch? I don’t know what they’re issue is, but obviously gets no more action than a male asshole. Wannabe cocksucker? I know! Harpy. Those mo’fo’s are UGLY! Just like this cow’s behavior. Edit to add: I love your sig line, Walc! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2011, 4:32am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/53 "2011-08-30T04:32:20Z")
Thanks Astrea for putting things into a women’s perspective…however thinking back, i still take responsibility for the bitch shields going up in the 1st place. i mean they were acting OBNOXIOUS and i was letting it show on my face. No big deal. I learned a lot. ---
**Author:** ![unknown0001](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/unknown0001/32/559_2.png) [@unknown0001](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/unknown0001)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2012, 11:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237/54 "2012-02-21T11:37:58Z")
Not wearing mones Hit! Hey guys, it’s been a little while since I’ve posted…I’ve been finishing out the mones that I have until I can afford to “get back in the game.” But I’ve dome something lately and got what seemed to be like a major hit. I stopped wear anything for a while around my people. The number one thing I notice when I don’t wear A314 daily is I seem to feel more like my silly self, don’t think before I speak self AND I let it come out more, my typical impetuous ways and when NOT wearing A314, doing things like farting, making stupid jokes, etc are percived like…“oh you!” and just shrugged off as opposed to before when that type of behavior would be treated with shock! and…“Dude, what are you doing? You’re a grown man!” That last statement I got from a bandmate. Now You guys who know me know that I’m a musician/performer so I wanna say I’ve stopped wearing A314 around in and around any band and performing situations. Why? Well, I’m not the leader of the band and I’ve noticed when wearing it, I am percived as “trying to control the group” whereas without it, I gives off from my perspective “part of the group” And I believe something like A314 doesn’t necesalriy give off I’m in the band, but I’m the band mngr. I could be overthinking that, but I’m almost certain. The other day my bandmates went out to drink with a friend and the girl in my group after a while of laughing and drinking…pulled out an old picture on her phone and put it up to my face. I ask..haha what are you doing? She says “I’m just checking to see if you’re the same person I first met” WOW. If that aint a huge the week I DON"T wear any mones around her I don’t know what is. Now, what I’ve found out also is wearing None around said girl tends to give off bad reactions more easy that without. I notice when I wore A314, IJ and & Tuth, around her my “sarcastic remarks” seemed to easily trigger a bad reaction very easily!! Me and the drummer have this joke.. like Note to self DONT wear IJ around her. BUt with only socials, A1 and rone, not so much and it’s all good. So I guess the point of this post is..a good way to find out how mones affect others that know you is after a year just stop all together wearing anything around them. And also, there comes a certain responsibility with wearing A314, which if you’re not the leader you just might be looked at as a threat. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/happytappins-journal/38237.md?page=2)