# Hello and HELP! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [June 12, 2009, 8:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833 "2009-06-12T20:20:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![scqueaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@scqueaky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/scqueaky)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 8:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/1 "2009-06-12T20:20:03Z")
Well, it’s not as dire as all that, but I am here for some direction. I came across your site after doing a search for lowered sex-drive after going off the pill. I’m hoping to find something to put the spark back into my 9 year relationship. Pheromones are just one of many options that are out there, and it sounds promising. I’m 42, married, two step kids (one still at home). I have recently discovered a love of gardening. I actually love to clean and organize things. I hate to cook, but my husband loves to (which is one of the many reasons I LOVE my husband). My husband and I communicate pretty well and every other aspect of our relationship is wonderful. However the attraction between has slowly been on the wane. I would like to hear from one of the experts out there about which [pheromone spray](https://a314.com/product-category/spray-pheromones/) to try to put a little zing back into things! OH! And looking to get that $25 gift certificate! ---
**Author:** ![Mco-gnv](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mco-gnv/32/229_2.png) [@Mco-gnv](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mco-gnv)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 8:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/2 "2009-06-12T20:28:39Z")
> [@scqueaky](#): > > Well, it’s not as dire as all that, but I am here for some direction. I came across your site after doing a search for lowered sex-drive after going off the pill. I’m hoping to find something to put the spark back into my 9 year relationship. Pheromones are just one of many options that are out there, and it sounds promising. > > I’m 42, married, two step kids (one still at home). I have recently discovered a love of gardening. I actually love to clean and organize things. I hate to cook, but my husband loves to (which is one of the many reasons I LOVE my husband). My husband and I communicate pretty well and every other aspect of our relationship is wonderful. However the attraction between has slowly been on the wane. I would like to hear from one of the experts out there about which pheromone spray to try to put a little zing back into things! > > OH! And looking to get that $25 gift certificate! hi scqueaky! welcome to the forums! In my opinion i would say [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) and Instant sexiness A and B would work wonders for you right now. you may even buy some TUTH to spray on your husband, as that would also help excite your sex life. Have you seen any products you were thinking of buying and had questions about? cheers and good luck! ---
**Author:** ![TheCentaur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@TheCentaur](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheCentaur)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 8:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/3 "2009-06-12T20:57:07Z")
instant honesty and instant openness will also give you that ‘young’ feel to him. TUTH will definitely revv your engine. read up on copulins [here](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/copulins/29796), and use that info to your benefit, even though they are not sold here. just wait for bella, lor, et al to respond, as they have some bonzer combinations for you. ---
**Author:** ![AlexanderG](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/alexanderg/32/891_2.png) [@AlexanderG](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/AlexanderG)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 10:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/4 "2009-06-12T22:19:26Z")
Hi squeaky, I suggest you have a good read of [The Womens Guide](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/womens-pheromone-guide/4258) and also spend some time in the official Womens Forum. There are many top chicks there, just like you 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scqueaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@scqueaky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/scqueaky)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 2:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/5 "2009-06-13T02:30:35Z")
Thanks guys!! I will definitely read the Womens Guide. Just getting started here. I’m sure there’s a wealth of info I haven’t even touched yet. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 2:36am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/6 "2009-06-13T02:36:58Z")
Hi and welcome to the forum! What kind of personality do you have, and how would you like to be perceived? Instant Sexiness A will give you a strong sexy vibe, while [Instant Sexiness B](https://phera.com/product/kitten/) will give you more of a soft sexy kittenish aura. Some women like to use one or the other to enhance their existing persona, and others like to use the opposite of their personality type to either strengthen or soften it. ---
**Author:** ![scqueaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@scqueaky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/scqueaky)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 2:40am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/7 "2009-06-13T02:40:24Z")
That’s important Sillykitty. I think I’m probably more the A type. I’m tall and thin and tend to be perceived as quiet and thoughtful. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 2:49am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/8 "2009-06-13T02:49:25Z")
> [@scqueaky](#): > > That’s important Sillykitty. I think I’m probably more the A type. I’m tall and thin and tend to be perceived as quiet and thoughtful. Well then, try some of the Instant Sexiness A to ramp things up a bit. [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) is a nice one too, its very uplifting, and will give a boost to both your mood and the moods of those around you. What do you think your husband would react best to? Is he more turned on by sweet soft kitten? Ot more by strong sexy alpha girl? ---
**Author:** ![scqueaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@scqueaky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/scqueaky)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 6:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/9 "2009-06-13T06:03:26Z")
Thanks again Sillykitty. Sounds like Instant Sexiness A and [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) will be in my cart soon. I’m sure he could be turned on by either kitten or vamp, but I’m certainly not the soft kitten type. Although it might be fun to play in that arena. Now how do I get that $25 gift cert? ---
**Author:** ![jayarea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/48db29/32.png) [@jayarea](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jayarea)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 6:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/10 "2009-06-13T06:11:21Z")
> [@scqueaky](#): > > Thanks again Sillykitty. Sounds like Instant Sexiness A and Instant Shine will be in my cart soon. I’m sure he could be turned on by either kitten or vamp, but I’m certainly not the soft kitten type. Although it might be fun to play in that arena. Now how do I get that $25 gift cert? hi scqueaky. it seems like you provided the right info and got some good recs to start with. once mickaelia (one of our moderators) comes around to these threads, she’ll confirm you and then send the gc to your email. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2009, 6:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/11 "2009-06-13T06:15:27Z")
You’re very welcome!! I think you’ve already qualified, with your introduction, though I am not the one to make that final determination. Someone from Androtics will be around later to hand them out, and it will come in your e-mail. If you don’t see it, check your spam box, sometimes they slip in there. I can’t wait to find out how they work for you! Its so much fun!! Please ask if you have any questions 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 11:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/12 "2009-06-15T23:14:24Z")
Welcome to Pherotalk Scqueaky! The great thing about this forum is that whatever situation you are facing there are others here with the same situation and pretty similar to give advice and support. 😃 I can think of one with a great thread that I recommend to all newbie married ppl. You are not a man but I think it works just as well. > [@Married Guys Looking to Help Life at Home](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/married-guys-looking-to-help-life-at-home/13695): > > Myself: Mid-40’s, athletic, married for 20+ years. This post is actually a combination of posts I have made in the Introductions section. It is designed for married guys looking to use the [pheromone products](https://a314.com/shop/) here to help things at home. I use pheromones for several purposes - work, social and to enhance life at home. I use multiple approaches especially for home: First - at this point in our lives we know sexual attraction is not the final answer. So my first recommendation is actually what … I would also pop into the women’s section to ask the married women in addition to [pheromones](https://a314.com/) the techniques and other things they do to get that spark back into the bedroom. Your GC is on it’s way! ---
**Author:** ![scqueaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@scqueaky](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/scqueaky)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2009, 1:48am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-and-help/29833/13 "2009-06-16T01:48:45Z")
Just put in my first order!! Looking forward it experimenting. My husband and I are both getting some and keeping it a surprise when we try it.