Hi Ken,
Welcome to the forum!
First off, I am sorry to hear about your loss. That must be a tough thing to go through.
From what you said, I would recommend AMMO, Instant Shine, And IO to start with.
Ammo is a geat attraction product that is masculine, sexual, and social. Instant Shine is a great mood lifter and when combined with AMMO gives a BIG confidence boost. That might be someting you are looking for as you re-enter the dating scene. IO is an “icebreaker” type phero that makes you and the people around want to be more talkative. It can really help with your ability to seem more approachable.
I suggest you read the sticky’s at the top of the mens forum. There is a lot of good info in there. Here are a few threads that will explain a lot. Most of your initial questions are answered in these threads.
The Snook’s big book o’ pheros for rookies ( 1 2 3 … Last Page)
Basic Noob Phero Bootcamp (Basic Noob Phero Bootcamp) ( 1 2 3 … Last Page)
Please let us know what you decide, and be sure to come back and tell us how they worked for you.
Welcome to the community, and good luck!