Hey there Tony!
Welcome to the forums!
There are a number of members on here that are married as well as quite a few that are still single. Hmm based on what you are looking for, ammo and possibly tuth would work well for you!
Ammo proved a sexy masculine virile vibe while tuth is a strong sexual signal. You should be careful with tuth though. It is generally best saved for a time when sex is actually going to occur as having a heavy sexual signature all the time is not always proper. Of course your wife picking this signal up from you could get her in the mood, or cause her to think that the signal is actually her become turned on.
Something else you might want to look at would be some of the more social products. If you decide you are interested in wearing these everyday, or as something to give you a bit of an edge at work there are products for that as well. You might want to take a look at this thread.
I think I’ll let one of the married users take it from here, a few should be stopping in shortly.
Edit: It might help if you talk a bit about the relationship dynamics between you and the wife
Best of luck!