# Hello from a confused newbie... **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [March 1, 2009, 6:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622 "2009-03-01T18:43:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![jaymezrus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e68b1a/32.png) [@jaymezrus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jaymezrus)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2009, 6:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/1 "2009-03-01T18:43:51Z")
Hello. First off, I apologize for the long post. Have been doing a lot of research regarding pheromones lately and have spent 5+ hours reading this forum today. Now I am confused. Here is why I am here. I would love any of you guys to please chime in with your opinions. Thanks. **1.** As another user “Stratslinger” stated in one of his post, it is the main reason I am here. I changed his 18 years to my 11 years and kept everything the same. I couldn’t have said it better myself so I am just copying his words. Thanks Stratslinger. _“My primary goal is to rekindle feelings of sexual desire in my wife of 11 years. Without going into a lot of detail, I’d just really dig it if she initiated once in a while. Or acted like… she wanted me…the same way I always want her.”_ _"I’m very committed to improving my marriage. The relationship part is great. The sexual part is not. I just want to improve things. I’m working on improving me, too. Eating better, losing some weight. Exercising a bit. Not drinking. Got a new haircut. Will buy some different clothes next payday. Anything I can do to make myself more desirable to her._ _That’s what I’m after. I’m not expecting miracles. This is a learning process. I’m just trying some things to see what will and will not help, short of out and out marriage counseling."_ **2)** I am trying to get another position at my company and they will be having interviews coming soon. I interviewed for the same position last October and was one of the top 3 people, however they did not hire anyone and actually did a massive lay off. Now there have been some more people leaving and new job positions are opening up. I am looking for that extra advantage. **3)** As I am a very faithful person, I would still love the attention by other women. My wife is extremely attractive and always has guys hitting on her and staring. Some do it blatantly when I am with her. I would like that attraction too. I guess it is the jealousy part. If you fear the loss, you may work harder at keeping it. (this goes with #1 and yes, I realize what I am saying could backfire). **4)** Is there a way to get the labeling to show something else? I am afraid that if my wife gets a package in the mail “addressed to me” she will open it and see what it is, do research and then think I am trying to use it to woo other women. This isn’t true, just want it to be discrete. Or should I just be honest and let her know I am trying to help our relationship? But then I want to see the results of wearing it without her knowing. Here is what I am thinking and please help me on this part. #1 & 3 = probably, Instant Shine, Turn up the Heat, [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) for men, and AMMO #2 = A314 I have a limited budget ($100 or so - for now) and would like everyones opinion please. Should I get everything I can in travel sizes and see what I get for later? Thanks again and happy to be here. ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2009, 6:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/2 "2009-03-01T18:52:00Z")
Hi Jaymezrus, and welcome to the forum!! It sounds as though you have indeed done your research. The products you are considering would be very helpful towards accomplishing the things you have mentioned!! As for the package, I would not say anything unless she asks, and if she does ask, then be honest. Good luck with everything, and let us know how things turn out! Warm regards, Sillykitty ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2009, 6:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/3 "2009-03-01T18:54:30Z")
> [@jaymezrus](#): > > I have a limited budget ($100 or so - for now) and would like everyones opinion please. Should I get everything I can in travel sizes and see what I get for later? And yes, I would recommend getting To-Go sizes until you discover which products are best for you. ---
**Author:** ![Xiphoid](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/xiphoid/32/1852_2.png) [@Xiphoid](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xiphoid)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2009, 6:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/4 "2009-03-01T18:55:29Z")
HI and welcome to the forum! This is a great community as I’m sure you’ve already noticed with all the reading you have done. If you could tell us a bit more about your personality that would help us a bit more when suggesting phero’s. 🙂 As for your intentions with using phero’s…if you want to spice things up with your wife then I think TUTH and IS would be great, as you already guessed. IFG would also be a good buy but unfortunately it’s out of stock, and is likely to be for a while ☹ I would recommend you look at Diamond and Bosshank’s profiles…they are both married and have had some great results trying to improve things at home 🙂 About the parcels…you can always have the package delivered to work? Or if you are desperate a friends house…but maybe you should just have a chat to your wife and tell her this is what you want to try and why? For work and interviews A314 is the forum favourite…it’ll give you the confident alpha vibe and get you respect. Hope that helps…🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jaymezrus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e68b1a/32.png) [@jaymezrus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jaymezrus)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2009, 7:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/5 "2009-03-01T19:26:21Z")
> [@Xiphoid](#): > > HI and welcome to the forum! > > This is a great community as I’m sure you’ve already noticed with all the reading you have done. If you could tell us a bit more about your personality that would help us a bit more when suggesting phero’s. 🙂 Yes, the past 6 hours now, have been great and this community is awesome. I am an open person, easy to get along with, in constant search to better myself, but very humble. It comes across sometimes as no self-confidence (I think that myself) although I know what & how to do what ever it is. I have the “instant gentleman” aura around me where I actually work hard to please others before myself. That is my BIGGEST downfall as I see it. I landed my wife (in my view) not by my looks or self confidence, but how great of a guy I am. Now after 11 years, I feel with the usual stress of marriage, kids, money, etc., I see her spark fading. > [@Xiphoid](#): > > As for your intentions with using phero’s…if you want to spice things up with your wife then I think TUTH and IS would be great, as you already guessed. IFG would also be a good buy but unfortunately it’s out of stock, and is likely to be for a while ☹ I noticed that about IFG. However, there is more than just that. > [@Xiphoid](#): > > About the parcels…you can always have the package delivered to work? Or if you are desperate a friends house…but maybe you should just have a chat to your wife and tell her this is what you want to try and why? I am not supposed to have packages delivered to my work any longer. However, what does it come in. If it is discrete packaging I may just try it. Better to ask forgiveness than permission, right. 😃 Having it delivered to my friends could cause a problem because all of my friends are her friends to. We’ll see what happens. > [@Xiphoid](#): > > For work and interviews A314 is the forum favourite…it’ll give you the confident alpha vibe and get you respect. I will be ordering this. Wish it came in a travel size. I didn’t see it there. I am hoping to land that new position. Although it is more stress, it is more money, which will make life at home a little better and I can turn off the work stress with my workouts. So this may be the edge to make me the winner. > [@](#): > > And yes, I would recommend getting To-Go sizes until you discover which products are best for you. Thanks Sillykitty. I think this will benefit me in many different ways. I just wish this was on Amazon because I have an Amazon GC. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 1:06am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/6 "2009-03-02T01:06:28Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 I would suggest just being honest with your wife if she opens the package. You dont want to get in trouble in work in this economy especially if you looking for a promotion. The bottles cant be sent without labels you wouldn’t know what they were. The package is very discreet though, no one would know they are mones. For work A314 is great and it will grab your wife’s attention as well. She is comfortable with you so it wont come on to strong. Its oil based and only comes in the large size. TUTH and IH for the bedroom would be great. Ishine for a warm charismatic charm to draw some of the flirting your way. Don’t forget you get $5 in points for signing up to the smartmones site. Your can use both your GC and your points. If you need help or have questions just ask. **Your GC is on its way** 😉 Tisha Hostess/Guide ---
**Author:** ![jaymezrus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e68b1a/32.png) [@jaymezrus](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jaymezrus)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2009, 2:59pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-confused-newbie/26622/7 "2009-03-02T14:59:23Z")
Thank you. Will be getting them very soon and can’t wait to try them out.