# Hello from a married man! **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [May 5, 2009, 10:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688 "2009-05-05T22:48:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![lmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/fbc32d/32.png) [@lmind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lmind)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 10:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/1 "2009-05-05T22:48:47Z")
My introduction: I’m a 30 year old married guy from the Washington, DC area. My wife and I have been married a bit more than a year, and we are both very busy professionals deep in demanding careers. We actually like that about each other… the fact that we’re both independently successful and, to say it in an extremely over-simplified and crass-sounding way, that we’re equals. I truly don’t mean that as an offense toward anyone else. What I really mean is that I admire the hell out of her for how brilliant, strong, and beautiful she is, and for how she teaches me new things every day, just when I thought I knew it all. The problem, of course, is that we don’t see each other enough. So we have to make our time together count. I first wandered here looking for new tricks (or products) to help brighten our fire and knock her socks off. Things are far from bad. But they stay good because we both continue making an effort to keep it fresh and spicy. So I’d like to try [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) as another way to, hopefully, keep it fresh and spicy. But some of the information on this forum has been intriguing. The talk about the effect of pheromones in interpersonal interactions in business has been fascinating. I may consider that more deeply. I appreciate the $25 gift certificate offer, and I look forward to using it. I also appreciate any advice or thoughts you may have. This looks like a wonderfully friendly and helpful online community. Regards, lmind ---
**Author:** ![jamesbonded](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jamesbonded/32/2090_2.png) [@jamesbonded](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jamesbonded)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 10:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/2 "2009-05-05T22:52:40Z")
Hi there, Welcome to the forum. Tell us more about your purpose of using pheromones. Is it for spicing up sexual life, enhancing relationship, fun or others? Are you shy or outgoing type? Then we can recommend some pheromones for you to try. Cheers ---
**Author:** ![magnum](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/magnum/32/1423_2.png) [@magnum](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/magnum)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 11:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/3 "2009-05-05T23:17:34Z")
Hi lmin, welcome to the forum! so you want to spice up your relationship… please tell us which aspects of your relationship you want to improve…do you want her to think more about sex? be more passionate? Improve conversation? All of the above?😃 please tell us a bit more about your specific goals with pheromones… have fun here magnum ---
**Author:** ![djandarial](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/djandarial/32/1667_2.png) [@djandarial](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/djandarial)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 11:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/4 "2009-05-05T23:36:43Z")
Hi there, and welcome to the pherotalk community. As you have guessed with the responses, we are quick to help and welcome everyone, if there are other questions other than what has anready been answered please let us know and we will be happy to assist. Which aspects of your relationship are feeling a bit dull? -DJ ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2009, 11:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/5 "2009-05-05T23:38:10Z")
Hi and welcome! You have definitely come to the right place. This is an intelligent and unique community of great people that you have stumbled upon. So, you would like to spice up your marriage a little, and possibly your business relationships too. Ammo is a great all around product that you can wear anywhere, anytime, that will give you a confidence boost and a slight sexual vibe (without being overwhelming). Turn Up the Heat will spice up the bedroom part; you don’t want to wear this one at work. For business purposes, A314 is fantastic for giving you a solid alpha vibe and noticeably added respect at work. To make you a bit more approachable (but still in charge) [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) (which makes conversation flow more easily) or Instant Honesty (which will make people more comfortable talking to you about deeper and more personal things) are perfect. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 1:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/6 "2009-05-06T01:31:22Z")
Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 A lot of members come here to spice up there current relationships. I suggest you take a look at TUTH for arousal and IH for increased closeness and intimacy. This thread, by bosshank \>\>\>\>\> [Married Guys Looking to Help Life at Home](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/married-guys-looking-to-help-life-at-home/13695) will be very helpful for you. A314 will help in a work environment to up your status and increase respect but in your case I feel it will work well around your wife also so this is a product you may want to consider. **Your GC is on its way** 😉 Tisha Hostess/Guide ---
**Author:** ![lmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/fbc32d/32.png) [@lmind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lmind)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 6:01pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/7 "2009-05-06T18:01:10Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > This thread, by bosshank \>\>\>\>\> [Married Guys Looking to Help Life at Home](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/married-guys-looking-to-help-life-at-home/13695) will be very helpful for you. > > Tisha > Hostess/Guide Thank you, everyone, for the welcome! That thread, quoted above, is indeed very helpful. To answer those who asked what I’m looking for, specifically: I simply want to enhance what my wife and I already have. She likes that I help her forget about work and that I still evoke feelings of excitement and mystery. I usually do this with surprise dinners, trips, hotels, etc. She enjoys being whisked away from the mayhem for a while. Who doesn’t? But, of course, you can’t block off every weekend. What I really seek to provide is an environment that allows her mind to shift from “workstresslifestresswork” to “relax/happy/fun.” Anything that helps that transition is good. Yeah, there’s no sex in the “workstress” mode; so you could call my motives selfish. But really, I know she’s happier in “relax/happy/fun” mode. It’s where she’d rather be. And yes, she enjoys sex and wants more of that, too. (more specifically, wants to want it more) So if there’s a [pheromone product](https://a314.com/shop/) that helps the mind shift gears into a more “relaxed/happy/fun” mode, at the end of a busy day (or week, or month), then that would be nice. “Relaxed/happy/fun+randy” would be good, too. From what I’ve read so far, it seems that pheromones do not stimulate a direct response; rather, they increase the probability of a response by increasing an underlying desirability of that response in the brain’s response selection process. (i.e., if you enlarge the bulls-eye on a dartboard, you are more likely to hit it… but you should still aim) Is that a fair characterization? lmind ---
**Author:** ![Sillykitty](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sillykitty/32/1574_2.png) [@Sillykitty](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sillykitty)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 6:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/8 "2009-05-06T18:48:35Z")
> [@lmind](#): > > Thank you, everyone, for the welcome! That thread, quoted above, is indeed very helpful. > > To answer those who asked what I’m looking for, specifically: > I simply want to enhance what my wife and I already have. She likes that I help her forget about work and that I still evoke feelings of excitement and mystery. I usually do this with surprise dinners, trips, hotels, etc. She enjoys being whisked away from the mayhem for a while. Who doesn’t? But, of course, you can’t block off every weekend. > > What I really seek to provide is an environment that allows her mind to shift from “workstresslifestresswork” to “relax/happy/fun.” Anything that helps that transition is good. Yeah, there’s no sex in the “workstress” mode; so you could call my motives selfish. But really, I know she’s happier in “relax/happy/fun” mode. It’s where she’d rather be. And yes, she enjoys sex and wants more of that, too. (more specifically, wants to want it more) > > So if there’s a pheromone product that helps the mind shift gears into a more “relaxed/happy/fun” mode, at the end of a busy day (or week, or month), then that would be nice. “Relaxed/happy/fun+randy” would be good, too. > > From what I’ve read so far, it seems that pheromones do not stimulate a direct response; rather, they increase the probability of a response by increasing an underlying desirability of that response in the brain’s response selection process. (i.e., if you enlarge the bulls-eye on a dartboard, you are more likely to hit it… but you should still aim) Is that a fair characterization? > > lmind For “relaxed/happy/fun”, [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) is good to start with. It will give both the wearer and those around him an uplifted and positive feeling. These products can be combined in different combinations to customize the effects desired, though it is best to initially try each product by itself until you find your personal “sweet spot”, or the dosage that produces the best effects for you and those around you. Once you are comfortable with the effects and amount needed for each one, then you can combine them, using the same process. As for the increase in the probability of response rather than a direct response, if you found that in your reading here in the forum, then it is probably right. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2009, 11:17pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/9 "2009-05-06T23:17:44Z")
> [@](#): > > From what I’ve read so far, it seems that pheromones do not stimulate a direct response; rather, they increase the probability of a response by increasing an underlying desirability of that response in the brain’s response selection process. (i.e., if you enlarge the bulls-eye on a dartboard, you are more likely to hit it… but you should still aim) Is that a fair characterization? By George I think you’ve got it 😃 Well almost… I always wondered who george was in that phrase LOL Mones effect the subconscious mind, They enhance your natural chemistry and signaling. They evoke emotion and those emotions are what people respond to. i.e., Think of your natural mones as a whisper and synthetic mones as a scream. They grab attention and evoke emotion more effectively. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![lmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/fbc32d/32.png) [@lmind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lmind)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 6:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/10 "2009-05-07T18:31:13Z")
Thanks again, everybody. At the moment, I’m also inclined to get Turn Up The Heat as a humorous bachelor party gift for a friend of mine who’s getting married this summer. He’s almost 40 and been with this girl for many years. I think he’ll get a laugh out of it. And, hey, if it works, that’s nice too! Regards, lmind ---
**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2009, 11:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/hello-from-a-married-man/28688/11 "2009-05-09T11:43:00Z")
> [@lmind](#): > > The problem, of course, is that we don’t see each other enough. So we have to make our time together count. I first wandered here looking for new tricks (or products) to help brighten our fire and knock her socks off. Things are far from bad. But they stay good because we both continue making an effort to keep it fresh and spicy. So I’d like to try pheromones as another way to, hopefully, keep it fresh and spicy. Try reading the thread in my signature block for married guys. It might give you a few ideas. 😉